https://simplysusan.com.au/confused-grief/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=confused-grief Musing thru Marriage, Motherhood & Mess Tue, 31 May 2016 02:35:45 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8.10 https://simplysusan.com.au/confused-grief/#comment-2868 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 04:26:12 +0000 http://simplysusan.com.au/?p=11143#comment-2868 Hi Susan,
I am late to this, and don’t really have any wisdom to share, not being in the position myself. What I know is that grief is long lasting, and doesn’t have to be rational. We lost a close friend of my husband 10 years ago in negative circumstances, and the repercussions were lasting. My husband is quite rational, not an emotionally bare person but the grief and the effects of this loss have been deep. His reminiscing also can just happen. Something can just remind him.
Considering your mum, and knowing how music, smell, etc can unexpectedly trigger emotions I am not surprised that visiting her grave would do that. There is no condemnation, Praise the Lord, and don’t overanalyse your response I guess is my reaction. Don’t berate yourself over it, just say that it happened and treasure and dwell on good memories. Importantly give yourself the grace you would extend to someone else and be kind to yourself
Love Angie

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