Comments on: Is It Harder to be a Wife or a Mum?

By: Corinna

Corinna — Sun, 16 Jun 2013 08:14:05 +0000

It’s so good to take a moment to reflect on topics like this. I’ve never really thought one was ‘harder’ than the other – both roles are so totally different for me. For us, it’s like my husband and I as great friends working together in this parenting gig – which nothing or nobody can prepare you for until you walk through it yourself. The trick is balancing being a wife and keeping this role as an important priority in my life. You would have been a fantastic panellist at the Mum Heart Conference. I was involved with the running of the QLD conference last year but unfortunately the process of moving home has meant I couldn’t be in Newcastle this year. But it is a fantastic time of encouragement and so important to rejuvenate in our roles as homeschooling Mum’s.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 13 Jun 2013 22:24:47 +0000

In reply to Louise.

Thanks for popping by and sharing your thoughts, Louise. That’s why I enjoyed the panel so much at the Mum Heart Conference – it was great to see different viewpoints, different experiences and how other people ‘tick’. It all shows that there is no one right way to be a wife or a mum. Sure there are overarching principles and concepts, but the practical outworking of those principles will be different for each person and each family. 🙂

By: Louise

Louise — Fri, 07 Jun 2013 22:29:45 +0000

Great post Susan. I am not sure I can say which is harder. Both husband and children have been instruments of refining. Both have brought pain and tears and both have brought joy and growth. They are intertwined. Some days I feel I have to raise the child in my husband and I am sure he feels the same about me. It seems more like a walking hand in hand with all of them. Some days my children have been more like the adults and the reasonable ones who bring me back to “reason” and grace and understanding. The ebb and flow is not so well-defined for me.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Thu, 06 Jun 2013 22:50:10 +0000

I agree completely Susan, if there is a problem to be resolved with my husband, it involves two adults discussing and working out a solution. I do not need to be thinking how to make it a teaching moment or have any responsibility for “bringing him up” that has already been done by his parents. He is my best friend and contemporary.
The only time when I feel parenting is easier is if he is really annoying me or is in the wrong about something (and won’t admit it). Then I would love to be able to pull rank and send him to his room or tell him what to do, However, that says more about my attitude than his, if I am feeling the need to control another adult I really need to back off and spend some time in prayer.