Comments on: More Children Equals More Humility: Letter To My Daughters

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 13:51:01 +0000

In reply to Erin. Oh Erin, thanks for sharing. That is beautiful!

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 09:56:02 +0000

Thanks for your comments ladies… as iron sharpens iron 🙂

By: beyondbluestockings

beyondbluestockings — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 09:43:15 +0000

It would be nice to think that I am now more humble than when I only had one or two children. Truly, I would enjoy the thought! 😀

Of course, my pride has just shifted focus, and I don’t expect to be delivered of it in this lifetime. 😛

Thanks for the reminder about being sensitive to others. Always, always something I need reminding of! x

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 04:43:09 +0000

I read this today in Isaiah and it goes well with this post…”The Lord GOD has given Me The tongue of the learned, That I should know how to speak A word in season to him who is weary. He awakens Me morning by morning, He awakens My ear To hear as the learned.”(50:4) I’ve been praying throughout the day today about my words and your post fits right in!

By: Ruby

Ruby — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 01:08:35 +0000

Agreeing with the above commenters. It is not a numbers competition. It is about accepting God’s sovereignty whether the number is small, great or non. He will take care of the “humility” each one needs. I too have found that some mothers of many are very prideful and condescending on the “not so greatly blessed” but on the whole most people I know are like Mel, struggling to keep their head above water and leaning upon the Lord for strength. The ones who whinge and complain about their children make me sad. As you mentioned Susan there is not encouragement for the young and struggling there and I often ache when I sense the negative impression being passed on. No wonder younger families are chosing to stay small. As mums of however many, I think our job is to be sober, to be teachers of good things, to love our husbands and children that others may also long to be joyful mothers of children!

By: Rosemary

Rosemary — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 01:06:04 +0000

I so agree with you Susan! Humility comes from our growing relationship with God….I feel from experience that the longer I’ve been a Christian the more I see how sinful my heart truly is and how much I need to rely on his grace and mercy. Btw, we wanted more than one child but it’s sad when people assume we decided to have just one…..I so understand the pain you would have felt from those early days….I still do at times when mums of multiples say things that makes me want to cry. I know Im not guilt free either as I’m sure I’ve said and done many things out of insensitivity over the years, God have mercy 🙂

By: Aaron

Aaron — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 22:02:46 +0000

I, too, wonder what context the moms were discussing when the one said more kids = more humility. Maybe that was true for her (simply, that she learned to give more instead of being self-centered). Since I wasn’t there, I don’t know… Anyway, I firmly agree that we ought to be very careful about our speech in all circumstances, thinking about others before we speak. I’ve seen (and felt) so much heartache in the beautiful body of Christ, much of which could be avoided if we seek to others’ best. I remember reading somewhere that we’re to look out for each others’ interests above our own. Oh, how hard this can be – no matter our circumstances!
Thank you, Susan, for reminding us to care more about the person than what we have to say!!! I don’t think we can be reminded enough of this Think principle. =-)

By: jenny

jenny — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 06:27:08 +0000

In reply to Mel. Pride is a sin we humans constantly battle as we journey through life. It can be in our achievements, our children's achievements, our gifts and talents or even our spouses position. To be humble is far more than our circumstances, it is our heart attitude before God.

By: Mel

Mel — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 01:00:20 +0000

Hmm. As a mum to 6, I don’t think I have become more humble beacause I have this many children. The level of my humility (however you measure that!) is dependent on my walk with God, not how many children I have. I think perhaps mums of many might say this and actually mean that we have realised we don’t have it all together, that our children are all different, that we are not super mums, and that a sense of humour is vital to survival! 🙂 I have said similar things as a response to other women labelling me as a supermum and gushing on about how wonderful I am simply because I have 6 children. Its said to combat that belief that we hold it all together. Its not about being more humble, but maybe having had a few more humilating experiences!! LOL. 🙂 When I say something like this, its to encourage other mums that we are not that different. That I’m just the same as them….only maybe slightly more frazzled at times!