Comments on: Dealing with My Thorn in the Flesh

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 04:27:23 +0000

Jacqui

I take heart from your story…one of my dc has been my constant challenge…things are much better now that she is an older teen, but after reading your story I’m hoping that things will be better again when she is older and moved out of home….which could be a long time coming as she has set her sights on a university degree…the type which can take 4-5 years to finish…she’ll be home for a while to come!!!!

By: Jacqui

Jacqui — Thu, 28 May 2009 10:00:20 +0000

Oh dear Susan! I know how you feel……..I really do!
My mum was a shouter, gosh could she shout!! I swore I would never be like that but as a young mum I spent a lot of time shouting. I am pleased to say that over the years as I grew in my faith and grew as a person, the shouting stopped! I am not perfect though and certain children bring out the worst in me! My beautiful daughter, Jess, is 21 now but from the age of 9 till she left home was interesting to say the least! She literally brought out the very worst in me. I tried staying calm tried reasoning, discipline but no…….she always managed to provoke me to the point of no return! I said things that I wish I hadn’t said, scared all the other children as they looked out of their bedroom doors with trepidation, it was horrible! Yet dad, dad could do no wrong! He stayed calm, remained strong and she listened and obeyed straight away! In the end I learned to keep my mouth shut and let dad take control. I just couldn’t handle her! Now she is married she and I are the best of friends. I can’t believe she is the same girl that sent me grey at an early age!
My darling 13 year old son is my newest opponent! I have learned from Jess and try to remain calm but authoritative. It doesn’t always work……last night I “blew” and was heard to say “You drive me bloo….y mad”. I was reminded of my mistake as my five year old came to say goodnight and said, “mum, Michael is a bloo….y….. pain to you isn’t he” ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! talk about hitting me in the face.
Parenting…………such fun!

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 26 May 2009 16:13:56 +0000

Dear Susan, I so agree with Fee…..Susan; sweet Woman of God

I think your strength is that you are weak………that is what people like about you….

Your burden’s are heavy almost crushing, this is your catapult into God’s arms…….this is why people love you, listen to you, respond to you and respect you

Every woman I know that has been respected loved and listened to have thrown themselves in desperation on the Lord…..there is no other way, this is resurrection, this is life

Whoever falls on that stone will be broken; but on whomever it falls, it will grind him to powder.” Luke 20:18

There is no life and resurrection power when you are crushed to powder, so we must fall on Him and be broken, therein is life…..this why people love you, you are real!!

I remember years ago listening to a preacher at the beginning of a controversial move of God, he spoke of Christians being as mean as Junk-yard Dogs and that it ought not be. He was right and honest…….I do not think you are alone, in fact I know you are not. I have dents in my teeth clenching them in suppressed anger (yes true…..transparent here!! :devil: ) Whoooo Hooooo 😐

I think if we are all really honest like you are, we all in certain circumstances and situations have a BUTTON, when pushed explodes…..we have nothing but Jesus, if we think have more that that I believe we are deceived. Without Him we are stinking and nasty and full of dead men’s bones……throw yourself on the Rock, lest the rock crush you. Keep going I am believing for breakthrough with you IN ALL THINGS.

Your Sister in God
Cathy

By: Fee

Fee — Tue, 26 May 2009 10:37:17 +0000

Oh Susan,

Are you sure that child hasn’t escaped?? I have one here too!! LOL

Why is it that with two of my children you can ask them to do something ONCE and off they go and do it. With the other, you can ask FIFTY times and still it’s not done, until Mum jumps up and down and yells and rants and only then do we think about perhaps getting up and doing what we are asked.

I really struggle too with being “nice” – I know the fruits of the spirit and I know how I want to behave, but so help me this particular child pushes my buttons and I find it so very hard to deal with the child and the behaviour and resulting issues.

Perhaps God gives us these children to teach us – more about ourselves than them?!!

I don’t have any answers … just want to let you know you are not alone, and I totally understand about trying to parent those particular children on your own!!!

Hugs,
Fee xx