Doctors spend more time looking at their computers instead of at the patient!
I’ve had cause to see the doctor on a weekly basis lately. During our nation-wide travels I’ve seen many different doctors so I’ve had experience with a few. Some are older, many are younger. Either way I am convinced that they all spend more time engaging with their computer than with me, the patient.
The elderly doctors have often seen their computer as a necessary evil. I’ve watched some struggle with it, longing for the ‘good ole days’. Nevertheless, whether they want to or not, most of their attention is given to the computer.
Some of the younger doctors have a pretty good handle on the whole computer thing. They’re proficient at researching, documenting and printing with their computer…yet for some reason their computer still gets more eye contact and more one on one engagement than me, the patient.
I remember when doctor’s would face me, listen to my story and take notes. The thing about taking notes is that the body language is open, toward the patient… eye contact can still be made while the notes are being jotted down. Not so with a computer! I know some people might think I’m a bit loony but I have researched how to talk with doctors. I understand they’re busy and hear the life story of a new patient every 20 minutes or so. I get that. So I try to be organised and concise while conveying my story. Studies have shown that a patient will be interrupted by the doctor within the first 18 – 23 seconds. Whew! That gives me about 18 seconds to get the most important points out…for once I’ve been interrupted it’s hard to get back on track, especially if the story is involved or complicated. Not only that but it’s likely that the doctor’s mind has wandered, thinking about the first few issues I’ve raised.
So where does one start? Do you start with your history or the current issue? the current issue often comes on the back of the history so that’s important. I try to open with a brief statement relating to my current issue…and then delve into the history a little but I seem to lose the doctors attention very quickly. (Of course I also recognise that this may not be the case for everyone… especially those who have had the same doctor for many years. I’ve had a new doctor every 12 months, due to moving interstate)
I love technology. I love my computer. I love the Internet. But just in case I needed the reminder I’ll take it. My computer does not listen to me. It does not need my love or attention. My family does. I need to make more time to fully engage with my family- to really give them my full, undivided attention…eye contact, verbal affirmations, smiles, touches and to turn my body in an open way toward them when they are talking.
Just wish my doctor would do the same…they even get paid to do so!
He he he! So so true! My brother in law’s doctor actually has a sign in the waiting room that says “only one problem / health issue to be discussed” or something to that effect!
Susan, I have an award waiting for you at my blog if you would like to check it out:) http://joyfullmum.blogspot.com/
I tried to leave comments twice, not sure what happened, anyway, here’s what I left the second time:
double he he he! I just wrote a comment and think I lost it!
Anyway, I was saying that my brother in law’s dr actually has a sign in the waiting room that says “only one problem / health issue to be discussed” or something to that effect!
Susan, I’ve also got an award for you at my blog: http://joyfullmum.blogspot.com/
I’m sorry you’ve had trouble finding a good, attentive doctor. My doctor is great, but very hard to get into since everyone else thinks so too!
Good reminders about our own attentiveness to our families. Thanks.
Yep! my doctor is the same. Then again, I avoid doctors like the plague so the feeling is mutual!
Hi Ruby, I can’t help but see things like that as parallels in my own life – how do I treat others…especially my family. I learn things from experiences, by seeing the object lesson in them and then seeing how it can apply to my own life.
Jacqui, I too have avoided doctor’s…but that’s why I’m in the current mess that I am in. 🙁 What’s that saying, A stitch in time saves nine…?
I tried commenting this morning and it didnt work, so trying again:
I laughed because I recalled my brother in law saying to me that at his doctor there is actually a sign in the waiting room that says “only one problem / health issue to be discussed” (or something to that effect, I can’t remember the exact words) !!
BTW, I also came over to tell you that there is an award waiting for you at my blog….
Rosemary, for some reason, unbeknown to me, your comments got stuck in the spam folder. Sorry!
My Dr is great. She’s very young – maybe 30? – but she is good with engaging and giving eye contact. Keep shopping around for a good dr!
And it’s not just doctors…we were having an important conversation with people last night and apart from the wife constantly interrupting me…neither one of couple would look us in the eye while talking to us…they kept looking out the door…I got so annoyed that I said something to them about it….to me it’s a basic manners to look at people while speaking with them!!!
xxx
Hi Rosemary,
Thank you so much for the award…please don’t be offended if I don’t blog about it. I have written about awards and stats before and it’s a personal issue to me so whilst I love the sense of joy and community that awards give, my pride can also get in the way. But thank you nevertheless. Your words were very sweet and kind and came to me at a time when I truly very appreciative to hear them. 🙂 Yes, I have also been to a clinic where there is a policy of ‘one issue per appointment’. Problem with me is that I wonder if all my issues are somehow related. Tehee, and I have such a backlog of issues that I’d probably need 4 appointments!
Thanks Liz, for stopping by. Once my iron levels are on the rise again I very well may shop around for another bulk billing dr!
Hi Lisa, yes basic manners do seem to have gone astray. I used to be able to multi-task (one learns to do that quite well when in ministry) fairly well, especially when involved in conversations…but I came to see that I don’t like being on the receiving end of it so have worked hard over the years to give my full, undivided attention to a particular conversation. Nowadays I am hopeless at multi tasking – but I’m not sorry about it. Sorry, I know you weren’t specifically referring to multi tasking but your story reminded me of myself.
Hi Susan,
For the last six years we have been in the same town, and you would think that we would have had the same doctor. The first doctor that we had when we moved here was great, but he moved to Moree.
Computers are a tool, but they tend to be elevated to a higher position than what they deserve. I, too have just realised that my family need me more than the computer does, so I’ll look at others’ blogs, check my emails and post my blogposts, and that’s it. I have wasted far too much time on Facebook recently!
Blessings,
Jillian
Hi Jillian, I love country doctors. Our doctors at Mannum and Strath were fantastic! Yep, computers (as much as we love them) are a distraction from the truly important. I’s an individual thing too…in the past I have really struggled with Internet usage and believe me when I say that through horrid circumstances I have learned my lesson well. My computer addiction proved to be very costly and whilst I keep it in check nowadays I still must live with the consequence of my actions. even now I tend to waste more time blog surfing than on FB, but that’s me. Against my initial thoughts I am actually finding FB to be slightly beneficial – as I keep in touch with real life people that I am involved with…predominantly non believers. So, for me, at this time, it’s a good thing. Naturally though, subject to change. 🙂