Yes, it’s that time of the year again…I have previously written about how we do, or don’t, celebrate Christmas. Rather than try to rewrite old thoughts I will just copy and paste from the archives. You can find the original post here.
Well it’s that time of year again eh! A time when we get loads of sideway looks from people who question us as to why we don’t ‘do‘ Christmas. In actual fact we do ‘celebrate’ Christmas…every day of the year! The way in which we celebrate is a decision that John and I decided upon…not through reading of others opinions and lifestyle choices rather, through our faith in God and our walk along the path of life.
I have an issue with our modern society and feel that we have been sucked into much consumerism and materialism. Don’t get me wrong; I love tradition. I love creating memories for my children. I love doing things together that form family bonds. But I don’t see how spending money on presents, decorating our homes with unnecessary items (that for those Down-Under are out-of-season) is celebrating the birth of the Saviour of mankind. So many people are caught up ‘doing Christmas’ that they miss the true wonder of it all…they’re drowning in a sea of tradition and of trying to ‘keep up’.
I love to give of my time, money and energy…I look for ways to give. But is it wise or prudent to go into debt in order to give presents simply out of a sense of obligation or because everyone else is or because it is ‘Christmas’. In the name of Christ, I can give to others any day of the year.
I feel prickles whenever I hear children exclaiming to their parents or friends what they WANT for Christmas. As though it is expected! I don’t fully understand how someone can be truly grateful and thankful if they know that their gift is coming. I know, as believers, we do this: as sinners we cry to the Lord for salvation and God delivered us through Christ and it is this that compels me to be thankful for Christ every day…to teach my children the ways of God, every day…to give honor to Him, every day. But to give presents simply because it is this time of year doesn’t teach our children much at all. I still don’t even see how the whole gift giving thing comes into Christmas. Christ was the *gift*. The Father God was the *giver*. The gift has been given. What that has to do with giving my child a new toy or new clothes in December escapes me.
I love getting together and having a family feast and a sweet time of fellowship at any time…and we can do this at any time while also giving thanks to the Lord. The focus can be on the Father, each other and serving but not about decorations, presents or things that can distract us from Jesus, The Truth. In fact, I see a danger in becoming too familiar with the way the world celebrates Christmas: familiarity with Christmas and all things Christian *can* breed familiarity- which isn’t necessarily a positive thing. Luke 4: 16-24 describes how the local people missed seeing the true identity of Jesus, as they were so familiar with Him. That’s why it’s important that the traditions we build are meaningful, rich and not done frivolously.
John and I decided that we would not teach our children about Santa…despite the local Christian school embracing the philosophy. (I remember when I first learnt that Santa wasn’t real…that he didn’t bring my presents and eat the milk and bikkies I left. I wasn’t devastated at the reality of his non-existance…I was devastated to realise that my parents knew about this untruth and let me believe in it…that they found some sort of happiness in having me believe a lie! I couldn’t believe that they lied to me! I recall adamantly telling my Mother that I was very sad because of that. That was my persepctive, as a child.) Anyway, as our children got older, we started to learn about St. Nicholas and the symbols and traditions of Christmas…yet we couldn’t see the relevance of it in the Christian’s life or in the celebration at Christmastime. We found that a lot of the tradition and symbolism was taken from pagan origins…so I started investigating this further and further… We tried celebrating Christmas by putting ‘Christ back into Christmas‘, but it was still like pouring new wine into old wineskins- it still clanged.
So much of our traditions and customs are not based on Scripture. So much of what I believed to be truth actually came from Hallmark and all those greeting cards! I get a little annoyed at how many people get all sentimental at Christmas time and they all are fine with Jesus…as a baby! But, how many recognise that He was God’s purpose and plan to redeem mankind? I like a bit of emotion and sentimentality…but when it comes to matters of faith then I think that if we need to whoop it up, then the thing (object of our faith) our faith is in, isn’t very solid. I like this article: The Power of Christmas Truth
Am I a wet-blanket or a party-pooper? Some will certainly think so! But, this is my walk to tread…I would never propose to tell anyone else that they should or should not celebrate any day in any certain way. I’d rather point out truths and facts and have everyone make an informed decision for themselves. It isn’t so much about whether you do or don’t – it is do you know WHY you do what you do? In it all, WHAT are you passing on to your children– a legacy of timeless truth or of empty consumerism?
A few years ago, Miss R went to the community Carols by Candlelight last week, that was held at our church grounds. The church was working with the local council and hosting the event. The youth leader asked her to go early and help to paint childrens’ faces to which she was more than happy to help. After I picked her up, she was covered in paint, but I was dismayed to see that all the face/body painting was of Christmas trees and non related pictures! Okay, I know it’s a bit hard to paint a true Nativity scene on a face but is that the best that we (as the body of Christ) could do? Oh boy.
(Jer. 10:1-3)
What animals were present at the Nativity?
How soon after Joseph and Mary reached Bethlehem was Jesus born?
Checking with Scripture (Luke is good here), how many did you get right or how much of your knowledge comes from paintings of the Nativity and greeting cards?
Here’s another quiz to do with your children:
Take the Christmas Quiz!
and discover some more Christmas myths:
What is Christmas to you…really? Is it a time of feasting, laughter, praise, remembrance, sadness, loneliness? How about we remember why the gift was given: The Ugliness of Christmas:
For us, this is not a divisive issue – we are free to visit people and receive a gift (at the risk of our refusal offending them) and we are free not to. It isn’t an issue of salvation – our salvation is not dependant upon whether we celebrate Christmas or not. We don’t believe that Scripture commands believers to celebrate or not celebrate Christmas, despite the fact that Christmas wasn’t observed until after the biblical era. We believe that Romans 14:5-6 and 1 Corinthians says it well.
We can set aside any day as a day unto the Lord.
1 Corinthians 10:31
Whether you do or don’t, or how you do or don’t, the main point, (in my opinion) is to not be ignorant of what you do (know why you do what you do), don’t be caught up in the worldy ways so that you miss the wonder of the eternal perspective, don’t get caught up in idolatry, consumerism or materialism and don’t treat the Saviour of the world with too much familiarity, lest that familiairty breed contempt.
LINKS
The Truth of the Nativity
Is Christmas Necessary?
Why I don’t celebrate Christmas by Tim Hegg
This paper looks historically at the holiday, showing how many pagan symbols and practices are actually at its core.
I love this! I never wanted to introduce my kids to “Santa”, but when our kids were born, my husband saw nothing wrong with it. So, my older kids grew up with a typical Christmas. Every year I prayed that my husband would desire to teach our kids of Christ, not Santa. I dreaded Christmas every year. Finally a few years ago, he brought it up, “Ya know, I don’t think this Santa thing is right.” I was so excited. The older kids had already figured out there was no Santa & one of our daughters was devastated that we told her a lie pretending it was a game. I think that made my husband think twice about all of this.
Our Christmas now looks much different than it used to. We are making changes every year as my husband is convicted of yet another tradition that has nothing to do with Christ.
We too celebrate the birth of our Lord everyday & try to remain mindful of his sacrifice for us as we spend time with our children in the scriptures.
Hi Dana, you are blessed that your husband is taking the lead and being convicted as to the things you do as a family. Thanks for stopping by! 🙂
Amy, dear sweet woman of such wise posts… our journey has been slow at times too…and sometimes, due to family/church pressure we had relented only to feel ill for succumbing to peer pressure. other times, we have to guard our heart and our tongue and remember that we are all on a journey, and the Holy Spirit takes *His* time in convicting each of us. Helps me to be mindful of that when it comes to dealing with others who do things differently to us. 😉
Hi Jillian and Ruby, thanks for stopping by! I’m not posting much lately but I’m chuffed that you gals are still reading 🙂 There’s quite a few families who don’t participate in Christmas celebrations/festivities, aren’t there?
” it’s important that the traditions we build are meaningful, rich and not done frivolously. ”
This thought has become especially important to me. I really try to consider what family traditions we will build together, and their truthful meaning, rather than just following the ‘done thing’ – whatever that may be.
Our own family Christmas journey has been many years of gentle changes as my family slowly become a little more aware each year of the meaning, or lack of truth, behind everything we do.
Thanks Susan. 🙂
Thankyou from another family who do not “do” Christmas.
Hi Susan,
Well written!:-D
Blessings,
Jillian
Hello dear one……I did at some stage NOT do Christmas, now I DO it again….why I just like the tradition! But I respect and understand your reasoning too…..it was an empty day without my family etc…..we extend our arms at Christmas and ask the lonely and alone into our lives….Christian and non……this makes it the BEST day…..
I am also in the throws of trying to find an outreach to the Community on Christmas day (salvo lunch, old folks home or something) that our family can serve….sure we may not agree with the day (in essence) BUT there are thousands who believe (the lie if you like) and will be alone and needy. What an opportunity to bless and share Jesus with them (God will use anything)…bit hard from Manila though!!
Anyway…just baring my soul….
Love you lots
Cathy
Thank you Susan for sharing honestly and lovingly.
Those verses you shared from Romans and Corinthians have really encouraged us over the years too. We also feel free to abstain while others we know who love the Lord use this time to serve Him and we praise Him for that too. What freedom is found in Jesus 🙂
Love to you and yours,
Lusi x