Yes, yet another re-post from the archives…
We don’t ‘do’ Christmas. Years ago when the children were small, we tried. But we would get a knot in the pits of our stomach. A few years ago, the commercialism of it all used to be a huge bother to me…now I’ve pretty much accepted that is the way it is and I’m not gonna change the world but I can impact or influence my own family so I’ll stick to that. 😉
We have no problem with anyone who does celebrate Christmas though. For us, it is not a divisive issue – we are free to visit people and receive a gift (at the risk of our refusal offending them) and we are free not to. It isn’t an issue of salvation – our salvation is not dependent upon whether we celebrate Christmas or not.
Everything we do should be expressly Christ-centered; God-honoring.
We don’t talk much about it either as it is our walk, our decision, our beliefs and as is isn’t salvation dependent, there are more important issues to preach about! I have many discussions on forums about this and after receiving a personal email about it I thought I’d post here.
a) Why did you make the decision to not celebrate Christmas.
Firstly because of the commercialism but then because it all seemed to so empty and meaningless. We tried hard to think of ways to ‘put Christ back into Christmas’. Some people have said that there is no scriptural basis for celebrating the birth of Christ, but I don’t see that…I see that God desires us to teach our children His ways and he is into object lessons in a big way, so I don’t have a problem with doing things to remember the birth of Christ as it is all part of God’s redemptive story! We teach God’s story but we do it all the time. Plus the whole white Christmas thing is a bit over the top, especially as Aussies! 😉 We did try a few of the unit studies centred around Christmas and the symbols of Christmas, just in case I was being a stickler, but the more often we did them, the more the whole things stuck in my side and I couldn’t get past it. We tried doing Advent readings but I lost track of it all. We have read some of the books by Arnold Ytree but these are beautiful books that can be enjoyed at any time of the year! We’re about to start another one real soon.
When I went researching this whole thing a few years ago, I found some real loopy sites (be wary of what you allow your mind and heart to ingest) …some real genuine sites, some real genuine articles…but the more I read, the more confused I could sense I was getting. One could find a thousand articles against Christmas or celebrating it and another thousand articles for it…a lot of Scripture is thrown in there on both sides. What is one to do? I reckon its like most issues – we each need to seek God, study the Word and trust that in this, the Holy Spirit will lead you in all truth – John 14:26
‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.’
Matthew 15:8
It’s not something I think one can be convinced of – the Holy Spirit needs to convict us, we don’t need to be convinced by man. 🙂 I am glad that I am not saved because of this issue. I do believe that each person must seek God for themselves and not be lead my man’s teaching alone. God is our judge and He alone. I’m also glad that we are not bound by our stance with Christmas. Jesus gives us freedom, not bondage.
b) My family likes Christmas. I can’t not celebrate it. What can I do?
Rather than ask the question of should we or shouldn’t we, maybe we can ask God “how should we”? Sometimes a different question is the way that we can turn our ear and heart to hear His still, small voice. It’s really a matter of personal study, conviction and relating with God and His word. Do your own personal study. Learn the history of Christmas. It’s all very interesting.
If we take Christ out of everything Christmas, what would we do? What would we be left with? A get together, BBQ’s, presents, cards, holidays, lots of food, etc. If we take Christ out of everything Easter, what would we do? Take Christ out of Easter and you still have a holiday, eggs, chocolate, bilbies and lillies.
‘In vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrine the commandments of men.’
Matthew 15:9
I have taught my children how to bless me for Mother’s Day. I’ve taught them how to bless their Dad on Father’s Day. It is about honoring the person. (I teach my children to do this so they can bless and honor others- it isn’t all about me ;0) You wouldn’t honor me on Mother’s Day by giving me a drill and taking me to the hardware store! But you wouldn’t honor John by giving him a box of chocolates or a new PDA. 😉 You would consider the person who is due the honor. In what way would they want to be honored?
We should consider how God wants to be honoured. The things that are honoring to God are the songs we sing, the prayer we pray, the Scriptures we read, the talks we have, the way in which we live and breathe. But these things are to be done all the time or regularly as worship. If we want to have a get together with lots of food and give presents then we can- we don’t need to make an excuse which we think and the world says, is about Christ, when it really isn’t about Christ. The way the world treats Christmas (generalisation) is often nothing more than self indulgence! The world loves Christmas time with all its celebrations. Holidays, food, gifts, etc. Yet it denies the very one whom it is supposedly about! Oh it’s okay to remember Christ as a babe but not the Saviour of the Human race. For many, it is just about *me*. That is largely how the world sees it.
Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world…wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important?has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out…but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.
1 John 2:15-17
So, if Christmas is going to be something that you do, then how you do it needs to be considered. Who is it about? Why are you doing it? When are you doing it? What will you do? Where will you do it? And how will you go about it? (Sorry my little brain uses the 5 W’s and H) If it is the Lord you are seeking to honor, then go to Him and see how He would be honored? (Like the Father’s Day principle 😉 See, I did have a point in there somewhere)
I know these thoughts are not for everyone, and that’s okay. This is our walk and our journey. But I also want you to know that we don’t judge other’s for celebrating the birth of Jesus the Messiah.
A few links:
Spurgeon on Christmas
The Christmas Irony
What does Jesus want for Christmas
When there is crisis at Christmas
Christmas and Advent
The Babe who will not be tamed
We did this Christmas quiz a few years ago and we’ll go through it again this year.
Is Christmas Necessary?
Robin Sampson’s article: Holiday Dilemma’s.
Oh I would gladly give it up, like so many things in my house hold that I feel challenged on.
I just keep praying the Lord will one day change my hubby’s heart.
Thanks for sharing yours.
x
Ah Ria, lovely to hear from you…and I know what you mean. That’s marriage, is it not? I know that there are things we do in our family that are not necessarily of my choosing or the way I would prefer to see things done but I am not the head of the house- my husband is. Prayer and keeping close to the vine is key, I think. Love your blog- always a challenging read though, never a light one. 😉
Only one thing to say:
Eeeeeeek!
:pirate:
Hi Joi,
Eek? What has eeked you? 🙂
Hi Susan
I so love reading other’s ideas etc……we are exactly opposite…..hee hee Honouring is the norm (or trying norm KWIM???) but we do not DO mothers or fathers day much…that grates me totally….it strikes me as more of the world’s invention than Christmas is…at least there is a Godward thrust in Christmas (or can be!!)
M and F Day (also Valentines day etc) are a money raking scam…..hah just what you say about Christmas…makes me giggle!!
Thank God we are free…i know you believe that too!!
Also I have chosen that my focus should be others at christmas…….the lost the lonely the poor……in Baseco and Manila Christmas is HUGE!!! So I am giving our sponsor families and needy families a Christmas pack of food to have before we go….why??
Because it TRULY blesses them…..they are softened and some unsaved and untouched will be blessed and drawn closer to the maker as they know why I do it!!
Outward focus works, inward focus is not sound….agreed
Anyway…..I will use any excuse to lead people to be closer to the Lord….that is what Christmas is to me……a legal and acceptable way to add to the Kingdom!!
Anyway that is my thought, love your thoughts too!!
What is better is that I feel not a speck of judgement when i share/ read with you….now that is the Kingdom…I honour you sweet lady!
Bless you
Home in 6 days!! Sigh
Cath
Oh! The whole christmas thing!
We still hide out in the wilds, are still fielding complaints from the extended family for piking.
I can’t say I’m sorry, though. I thought I would really miss it, but as we are normally out doing something adventurous, the day passes just as any other day on our trip away.
Oh Susan!
Isn’t it just great that opposites attact :-)) You know my feelings on Christmas, I am one of those over the top people with Christmas trees in every room, a santa toilet seat cover(I kid you not!), Lights on the house that put the Griswald’s to shame and yet I deeply appreciate YOUR views too!
It is all about being free to be who we are in Christ. Not conforming just because we feel we need to or to fit in with a certain group of people.
Its great to hear from you again. I thought you were off on some health retreat or something LOL
I’m probably in the middle of the road. I could pass on Christmas but I think those tendencies are probably coming out of a curmudgeon, ‘bah humbug” attitude. I have to to be careful with my down right cantankerous attitudes about the consumer driven mania…I could easily spend the entire month of December MAD. :devil:
Now the flip side. My good friend recently challenged me with her blog post.(http://www.48days.net/profiles/blogs/bah-humbug) In each, she encourages people to find the joy of giving once again. I’ve taken her challenge to heart.
And THEN I attended the same function as my friends went to….Dan wrote about it on his blog entitled, Healthy, Homeless and Happy. http://48daysblog.wordpress.com/2009/12/08/healthy-homeless-and-happy/
I took that picture on his blog and trust me….Santa’s smile was the real deal. He was a delightful loving person.
Soooooo. (She draws in a big breath.) I’m sending out cards…praying a little more…spending time writing notes to loved ones and giving in small ways. And I am feeling the joy of giving returning.
But back to the holidays….Easter is absolutely my favorite holiday. 🙂
Ah, love hearing from all you ladies…hearing the diversity within all our families reveals the broad character and love of God. No judgment here ladies…not from me and not regarding Christmas. I get quite annoyed when I see/hear/read people who turn our freedoms into a salvation issue. I really do not see that celebrating Christmas, or not, is an issue of salvation or damnation yet many believers are made to feel like pagans for using this time of the year to proclaim the gospel. Bah humbug! Enjoy your celebrations and times of fellowship 🙂