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First job, resumes and all that…

When my daughter turned 15 we stopped paying for softball. Now softball is ‘Miss A’ ‘s delight. It is her passion. It is something that she has learned many valuable life lessons and skills from. She has worked hard and has reaped the rewards of that diligence. However, it was time for her to start to pay for it herself. 😉 Time to get a part time job and enter the wonderful world of The Workforce! What to do? Where to start? I had very little idea.

Firstly, she had to have her own banking account so we go to work on that. We decided to go with a bank that is Australia-wide as it will be needed seeing that we travel so much.

Then, she needed a Tax File Number. Hmmm, not as easy as the bank account. Most schools automatically do this for their students but homeschoolers have to do it the hard way 🙄 but the best way! 😛 My 14yodd has a TFN but doesn’t really understand what it is, nor how she would go about getting one by herself. ‘Miss A’ , the homeschooler, does but that’s because she has had to dig this information out for herself. So whilst it seems tedious or hard, it’s well worth it! Plus, in the process the student is still learning valuable life skills about the workplace environment, filling in forms, dealing with professionals, etc. (If it sounds like I’m putting my 14yodd down, I’m not. She fully admits to this herself and was happy for me to share this)

Next, she compiled her resume. She was a little concerned at first because the resume was, naturally, quite bare. I mean, if one needs a job to gain experience what experience could they have had to write on the resume? However, I think most employers are well aware of that catch-22 and they look a little deeper than the piece of paper. However, this piece of paper is often the first impression so it pays to do one’s best on it. I told ‘Miss A’ to research resumes on the Internet. She did. She then compiled her own resume and proceeded to deliver it to a few places.

Then, a friend from church suggested she try at a local Cake n Coffee House. She dropped her resume off, received a call back from the boss and then went in for an interview. The boss barely looked at the resume but spent a good deal of time talking with her. He also wanted to see me, which I thought was a good sign. usually I don’t think it is a good idea for Mums to attend interviews with their children. I believe employers desire to see fairly independent people but in this situation the boss asked me to attend as he realised and understood that ‘Miss A’ was still a junior and I would be responsible for getting her to and from work. I thought this was very good and wise of him. We all got to know each other. She started part time work within days. 😎

I have taken out the personal details but left the bare bones of ‘Miss A’ ‘s resume for others to glean some ideas from and see what is necessary in compiling their own resume. Once the basic resume is done it can be updated as necessary.

FULL ADDRESS
Telephone:
Email:

FULL NAME

Personal Details:
Date of Birth:
Address:
Telephone:
Mobile:
Email:

Profile and Strengths:

  • Excellent written and verbal communication skills acquired via study and real life relationships.
  • Strong sense of responsibility and ability to work independently.
  • Initiative and able to think on my feet.
  • Friendly and always enthusiastic to learn new things.

Objectives:
I am seeking the opportunity to expand my skills, knowledge and experience in a junior role. To gain more experience in the work force and become a valuable member of the work society I am involved in.

Education:

  • 1997-2007: *Surname* Homeschool: Currently working toward year 11 and 12 certificate, with intentions of studying to achieve School Leaving Certificate in 2008.
  • 2001: Basic First Aid Certificate

Work Experience:

  • 2003- 2004: ST Softball Association Under 13 Girls team Assistant Coach.
  • 2005- 2006: AW Softball Association U-14 Girls and Boys umpiring.
  • 2007: Junior Games Pathway 5 week Coaching program, E Primary School.
  • 2006- current: Cake House Barista.

Community Involvement:

  • Re Cycle 2006 with Community Church Brigade.
  • 40 Hour Famine August 2006, Community Church.
  • Junior Games Pathway 5 week Coaching program, E Primary School.

Computer Skills and Experience:

  • Proficient in Microsoft Word, Microsoft Excel, Microsoft Power Point, Image Programs, Internet, etc.
  • Operating Systems used: Windows 95, Windows XP, Linux.

Strengths and Interests:

  • Softball
  • Nutrition, fitness and Health
  • Youth Group involvement
  • Church attendance
  • Reading and studying
  • Family

Achievements:

  • 2005: Coaches Award State National
  • 2006: Selected in Australian Youth U/17 Softball Development Squad
  • 2007: Captaining State U/16 Girls National Premiership
  • Receiving Most Valuable Player of National tournament
  • Selected in Australian U/19 Womens Squad.
  • Cake House Barista Course- Level 1.
  • Selected in U/19 Queensland Squad 2008.

References:
Name: Mr. _______
Position: State Head Coach U/16 Girls Softball Team
Phone:

Name: Mr. __________
Position: Current employer, *Name of Business*
Phone:


A few books that we read and discussed were:The Teenager’s Guide to Part-Time Jobs: Tips for Earning a Dollar by Samantha and David Koch

The Teenager's Guide to Part-Time Jobs: Tips for Earning a Dollar

and The Teenage Liberation Handbook: How to Quit School and Get a Real Life and Education by Grace Llewellyn

What's a blog and why are they popular?

Ever wondered what the big craze with blogging is? Or how a blog works? What system lies behind the success of the blogosphere? well, if you’re interested in starting a blog or curious as to the what,when, where, how and why of blogging you might like to watch this short, 3 minute video put out by the folk at Common Craft.

Short, easy to understand and to the point. You can watch the video or download the script to read. If you’re interested in blogs, it’s worth a look.

Activity Sheets Narration Freebie

I use a teaching method that I learnt from Heart of Wisdom called the 4mat system. I have modified it slightly to suit the needs of our family. I have found these steps to be very beneficial in not only our Bible study but when approaching all lessons.

I have created the anagram IDEA to help you remember the steps. (see the for a printable bookmark based on ‘IDEA’)

IDEA

  • I is for Introduce
  • D is for Digging Deeper
  • E is for Examine & Elaborate
  • A is for Apply to My Life

You can see more about this format of lessons over at the . However, I also wanted to mention the Activity Ideas that go along with steps 3 and 4. These are not all my own original ideas (is there really such a thing?) but I have complied the list. I have spent years gathering the various ideas and then compiled them into the four various activity types.

You’ll find many activities categorised within the following sections: Creative Drawing and Building Activities, Creative Drama Activities, Written Activities and Oral Activities. These Activity Ideas can be used with any learning activity and any subject. They can be as simple or as complex as you like! You might start to notice that your child has a particular bent for one type of activity and I have been asked if one should allow them to only choose the same activity each time. I will share what I have done with my children.

When my children were a little younger, I would encourage them toward choosing a variety of activities. This prevented them from only developing in certain areas an helped them to develop in a few areas. It’s like body building. When a child is young we don’t make them to 100’s of sit up’s each day in order to strengthen their abdominals. Rather we want them to play outside in a variety of activities which will strengthen the whole body.

Later though, as their interests and talents have presented themselves to me, I will allow them to narrow the choices a little. I have found that my older children do strongly desire one type of activity more so than anther and once they are older I believe this is important in allowing them to develop in the ways that God wants them to develop. But in the younger years, I try to aim for variation in order to expose them to more.

You can find the Activity Sheets for download on the (along with a few other freebies). If you use the Activity Sheets in any lessons (including your Bible times) please drop me a line and let me know.

My tomboy athlete is growing up!

Miss A

Over the last two weeks, ‘Miss A’ and I have been dress shopping. This is a very rare occurrence for her. When she was younger, I tried to dress her in skirts or dresses all the time, much to her annoyance. As she got older, and I started allowing her more responsibility in her choices she has never been out of pants (track pants, training pants or jeans) or shorts. I wondered if my little girl would ever want to do those more feminine activities.

Guess what? She is growing up and she is desiring more of the ‘feminine things’. However, being an athlete means that she needs to be in athletic style clothes every day. (Ever tried sliding into base with a skirt on? 😉 ) I thought she looked beautiful, although of course I’m terribly biased. 😉 She doesn’t always find it easy to find clothes that are trendy and modest and practical.

Some may remember our excitement when our team (QLD) won the U/16 national Tournament earlier this year in January. ‘Miss A’ was co-captain of the team. Well, following on from that…the team was nominated in the QLD Junior Sport Team of the Year award for 2007 and as co-captain ‘Miss A’ was supposed to attend and prepare a short acceptance speech on the off chance they might win.

Ugh, let me tell you that dress shopping to fit an athlete’s body yet be modest is not the easiest task! We shopped all around out local area but ended up going an hour away (still in our city) where a good friend took us to a few places that she knew of. That was fun!

Yesterday was the big day. ‘Miss A’ only loosely prepared her speech as neither of us expected that the team would win: we thought that the more high profile sport teams would win.

We took a few photos and then dropped her at the Plaza Ballroom, for this QLD Sports Night of Nights, black tie event!

They won!!!! Oh yeah, how cool was that??!! I believe that ‘Miss A’ delivered her speech, accepting the award on behalf of her team, quite well and seemed very natural. She gets incredibly nervous whenever giving speeches, as she’s only ever had opportunity to do so a few times. (I gave my first speech when I was about 25 years old so she’s doing better than I did!!) She sometimes has a bit of a stutter, but she is fine when she’s natural. She only tends to stutter when reading aloud or trying to be too precise. However, I think that years of practicing reading aloud and memorisation work, along with the oratory skills that we practiced at home are paying off.

Well now that is over, she can devote all her time and energy to training for the U/19 Women’s National Tournament which is being held in Tasmania in Jan ’08.

To have a look at the photo’s from last night, click here:

William Wilberforce on a Real Christian

Just spotted this over at Mrs. Nancy Wilson’s blog and wanted to share it.

William Wilberforce writing about his wife:

?I believe her to be a real Christian,? he wrote, ?affectionate, sensible, rational in habits, moderate in desires and pursuits, capable of bearing prosperity without intoxication, and adversity without repining.?

This is from David Vaughn?s biography of Wilberforce, published by Cumberland House, titled Statesman and Saint.

Mother of a Prodigal

Oh Where, Oh Where have I been these last few weeks? I have neglected my blog. But that’s okay. I blog for myself, because I like to write: it helps me to process my thoughts. But I have been busy in the home. I’ve also been going through a difficult time and have felt very dry. You see, I have a child who is going through a time of rebellion against us and against God. Those who know me well will not be surprised to hear this…others may be. If you take a good look over my blog in recent months though, you will probably start to see it.

A few months ago, I thought of an acronym for parents of teens: POTS Parents of Teens. I lamented on how there seems to be a lack of POTS on the homeschool forums. I have spoken to a few POTS over the years and there are a few points that were common to many…points which I am now discovering for myself.

Parenting a teen…

Is many things; from exciting and adventurous to downright difficult. But it’s also a time of growing and relearning for a parent, for this parent. When I was the mother of younger children I was idealistic. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. If we don’t have any standards or values, then we will just go the way of modern culture but it’s necessary to remember what era we live in. We are raising children who will one day be adults in this world…not the era of the 1920’s or the ’70’s but this era. I have faced with some tough decisions over the years…some ideals I have been challenged on and others I have decided to be firm in. Being challenged is not always easy but always valuable. Through it we learn perspective and discernment.

What Is Your Measuring Stick?

I’ve learned that many things I once held dear and stood firm in are not actually rooted in God’s word. Sure they *sound* biblical, pure and noble (and there is nothing wrong with that) but I was holding fast to them as I thought it was God’s word…when in actual fact it can just be popular Christian culture. As fairly conservative Christian homeschoolers, we can often compare ourselves to other Christians and if we are stricter than them, we think we’re on the right path. Often we use the modern day church as our measuring stick. Instead we need to ask ourselves, “What does God’s word say about it?” Am I sure my answer to many teen struggles is based on God’s word, the church or what is socially acceptable?

Know what you believe and why and make sure it is from God’s word, not man.

I sense that many parents with younger children don’t want to hear the reality. The reality that some children, who have been raised to know the Truth, that have been thoroughly loved and respected just resist or worse, rebel against it all. I’ve heard the gazillion reasons of why this is happening…I’ve sensed the often unsaid comments from fellow Christians. I’ve felt eyes on us: as if by observing us people could avoid this happening to them by not making the same mistakes that we made. I’ve had it said that we have been too soft, too harsh, too protective, too liberal, too…, well I’m sure you get the idea. One person says it is because of reason A and another person will say it’s because of reason B, the exact opposite. Not that I actually ask too many people why…however simply being in this position, with a rebellious child, seems to allow many people to offer their opinion.  All the parents that I know of desire the very best for their children (Sure I don’t know everyone and I know that this is not always the case but…). All the parents I know want to train their children to walk in the ways of God…for not only is the way of Truth and Life but the other way is paved with hurt and despair. No one wants that for their children. How helpful is it to look back and analyse every action? Will it change things? Sometimes, children just rebel…for no logical reason. We always want to find a reason, discover why, blame someone or something. But we must not forget the teaching of free will. And, the important thing as parents, is what we do from here…

So I have a child who is in rebellion…who does not believe or hold dear to the values that they were taught…that says they do not believe in God. Yes, this breaks my heart, and her father’s heart. It has also been very difficult to live each day amongst the problems that arise as a result of this conflict of belief. You may well imagine the time, effort, prayer and talks that are needed. Hence part of the reason for my absence. The other part is that this is all personal and there is much I won’t share (it is our business) but even while protecting our privacy I’m not sure the Australian homeschool community is being helped by this denial of rebellion. It just pushes POTS further away.

Refinement

It’s so easy to have all the answers when our children are in grades 5 and 6 or when things are rosy…it’s when the cookie crumbles that the true test of character and faith are tested. That’s when knowledge either becomes wisdom or remains at academic knowledge. A few years ago, while my children were younger, I believed that Proverbs 22:6 was a promise. After studying the passage contextually I now know it is a principle, not a promise. I used to believe that rebellion shouldn’t happen in a Christian home school family. Well, I now know that lots of things happen in this world that shouldn’t. It is called sin. My child has a free will. God gave it to her. She’s not the only one who has exercised her free will, nor will she be the last.

Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.
Romans 5:3-5

For those that want to know what formula we’ve followed, I can honestly say there is none- unless you count “There but for the grace of God, go I” as a formula. We have trained, taught, loved, prayed, and laughed with our children. We have made mistakes. We have asked them to forgive us. We have forgiven them. We’ve lived with them and learned with them. You may wish to ask me what or how we’ve parented so that you can formulate a checklist of things not-to-do. Oh, for your children’s sake don’t do this. Applying lists and rules and guidelines in and of themselves are just that – a list. Everything we do needs to be seasoned in grace and only motivated by a deep and sincere relationship with the Lord Jesus.

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
Ephesians 2: 8-10

Not Parenting from Fear

A couple of friends have asked me why I’m not beside myself with fear.  I know who I was and who saved me. And He’s a big God. I was saved by grace. I couldn’t have saved myself. When (not if, but when) my child gets saved, I want it to the same, through faith by grace. God saved me and I know he has a plan and a purpose for my children and their salvation. It is not for their salvation I fear as I know that God has them in His Book of Life. However, my mother heart grieves and is deeply hurt for the hurts and scars that can occur when living a life without God. But Father God knows them and He knows their heart and the journey they must walk.

God is a God of salvation. Redemption is His business!

So that’s where I’ve been and it’s where I am. I am not perfect. I do not have a perfect family. My children are not perfect. There are sites and blogs where Christian home school parents don’t seem to have any problems. If you’re looking for that, this blog is not the place you’ll want to visit. But if you want to read the posts of a real, imperfect home school mum who loves her family greatly, despite its own shortcomings, then you might want to mosey on through the archives. I say read the archives because I am thinking of closing this blog down for awhile. I blog primarily for myself- as a way to process, clarify and articulate my thoughts. However, I’m becoming aware that not everyone understands my posts and I do not wish to cause anyone confusion. Until I am able to devote more time to learning how to articulate myself clearly I need to take a break.

Rebellious Christian kids often share many similarities. They are blocking God out of their lives, parents annoy them, and family life ticks them off. They are capable of being stubborn, obstinate, argumentative, aloof, and moody. . . And proud of it. They often seem embarrassed by your outward commitment to God and disinterested in your spiritual advice. They are no longer fans of church and Sunday School . . . Truly rebellious kids push away family affection. (pg. 3)

Dr. Tim Kimmel, director of Family Matters a non-profit ministry whose goal is to build strong families for every stage and phase of life. He is the author of many books on the family, including Why Christian Kids Rebel: Trading Heartache for Hope.

Dealing with Shyness

I am naturally quite shy. Yes, it can quite hard to believe because I can be verbose when online. But I really am shy in real life. I find it very hard to go into groups of people or even to meet people one on one. But I force myself. I have taught myself over the years how to control my feelings of shyness, although it is still a natural tendency within me.

I noticed that one of my girls was very naturally ‘reserved’ as well. Different from shy in that she would talk to me a lot but was very reserved and never seemed to open up and just let herself have fun. She was always so serious. She still is, but she’s learning. I taught both my girls how to talk to people. I tried to teach them that it isn’t about themselves, but about others. Meeting the needs of others should be greater than serving our own needs. That young, reserved girl has now fully embraced that teaching and is now very sociable. She can be the life of the party and give speeches in front of large crowds, but she has learned that whilst she is capable fo doing so, it drains her and she needs some quiet time along in order to re energise.

Shyness as a Mask

Sometimes, shyness can be a mask of something else – sometimes it is talked about as low self esteem. And who I am to say any different? but I do know that shyness can also mask pride. Yes, pride. I don’t want to look silly or dumb. I don’t want anyone to think less of me. So rather than speak up and risk that, I keep quiet.

Shyness can also be selfishness. We can deny others knowledge, friendship, and the benefit of others knowing they’re not alone, but we need to go out of our comfort zone, to think of others and learn to live despite shyness. As a believer, I try to think ‘less of me, more about others‘.

Shyness can also mask fear, which shouldn’t be allowed to control me. With a good attitude, skills, practice and prayer I can learn to live with it.

There are probably more serious conditions that are related to mental illness and other serious disorders which all need to be considered, but those issues are beyond the scope of this post.

Four Keys to Training

Seeing an example can foster desire. Coupled with learning skills and practicing the art of communication are important keys when training our children to be social and effective communicators.

As parents, we can address the shyness by using all four keys. Be the example. Enjoy relating with people and let the children see us using relational skills. We can directly teach skills and have role play sessions in the safety of home, and then we can practice those skills and arts throughout the day with other people.

I found that having a few good friends and family members was beneficial. I spoke to them separately and solicited their help! I gave them cues or particular points of conversation so that they would be able to open a conversation with my children. This allowed my children to practice their skills in a safe and non threatening environment. I reciprocated with their kids as well.

Important Points:

  • eye contact
  • firm but gentle greeting
  • open ended questioning style of conversation
  • learn to read people- tone of voice, body language, etc
  • practice good body language (borrow a book from the library)
  • offer feedback to person’s responses (narration helps with understanding)
  • less of ‘me’ (or personal pronouns) and more about the other person
  • learn how to ask questions

I’ve found that the more general knowledge I have, the better conversationalist I can be. Even though I don’t know a lot about much I have learned how to ask questions. This in turn gets the other person talking about their interest, and I learn something, which in turns comes back full circle by making me a better communicator. So while it isn’t about being smart, it’s about the ‘other person’ and not myself.

I am not the only one who struggles with being shy. A lot of people do! And so I need to be gracious and accept others. If they’re not talking to me easily, it may not be because they hate me- they simply may not be great communicators themselves or having a bad day. This allows me to then focus on someone else other than myself.

Like any new skill or art, this needs practice. And room for failure. It’s to be expected. But in doing so, we learn more about ourselves and how we think, how we respond and how to improve.

I am still shy. I still need lots of quiet time so that I can be re-energised. But I have learned not to allow my shyness to control me or to rule me.

Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.
~Proverbs 18:1

Reviewing the Year

Reviewing the current year

Well, it’s that time of the year where I start to look back and reflect upon the growth and change in the members of our family, including myself. While we don?t have school report cards or achievement cards I will be writing letters to each of the children. I shall tell them areas where I think they’ve had growth or that they need to focus upon in the future are areas such as:

 

  • SPIRITUAL LIFE ~Bible reading, study, worship, prayer, fellowship, devotional readings, journal writing.
  • LIFE SKILLS~ Chores, serving others, life skills.
  • RELATIONSHIP/CHARACTER~ Relationship to others, God and self. Exercise, sport, nutrition, hygiene, personal development, health.
  • ENGLISH~The art of communication – copywork/dictation, grammar, poetry, writing/composition, spelling/vocabulary, literature.
  • MATHEMATICS~ Problem solving, thinking skills, logic studies.
  • SCIENCE~Nature study, typing/technology, study.
  • HISTORY~Past people and events. History and biography.
  • GEOGRAPHY~ people and places of the world. Government, Economics, Foreign Language.
  • WORLD VIEWS, CURRENT EVENTS ~
  • CREATIVE ARTS ~ Music, art, crafts, drama, Shakespeare, instruments, and other creative activities.
  • AUDIO, VIDEO, TV & DISCUSSIONS~ Things I’ve discussed or learned by listening or watching.

This activity is much more important than an ‘A’ or 80%. Really, what does that tell a person? How does that encourage them? How does that help them to one day be self governed in the important areas of life? Our home learning journey is about real life, so I’ll want to let them know how they are going in those areas especially. So I’ll write them about their Spiritual Life, Life Skills, and Relationship and Character. I’ll probably spend more time in these areas than on the other academic areas. I have found that it?s of little use to focus heavily on academics if the child doesn’t have the ability to focus or apply themselves to a task. Similarly, it?s more important that they know how to relate to other people than have their touch typing skills at a high level. I find this sort of review helpful as I begin to pray, prepare, plan and ponder and peruse in preparation for a new year.

For those who don’t give grades or make yearbooks, how do you review the current year in preparation for the coming new year? I’d love to hear from you!

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Homeschoolers Told They Have No Rights

I don’t wish to start debate or controversy but I have to wonder how far away we are, as Australians, from scenes such as this?

Read here for the full article: http://www.hslda.org/hs/state/ny/200710300.asp

Homeschooler Told by Police ?You Have No Rights?

In September 2007, a single homeschool mother and her two elementary age children left their Florida home to go to New York to visit her father, who was recovering from triple bypass surgery.

Mrs. Denard (name changed to protect family?s privacy) was able to teach her children in her father?s apartment while assisting him with his recovery.

Everything was going well until, unfortunately, a neighbor made an anonymous tip to the Department of Human Services. A social worker came to the apartment and left a card when she could not reach the Denard family. Mrs. Denard dutifully called the social worker, who said she would return the next day to investigate allegations that the children were not in school.

In the meantime, Mrs. Denard contacted Home School Legal Defense Association and talked with Attorney Tj Schmidt. He said that the easiest way to clear up the case would be for Mrs. Denard to get the notice of intent that she filed faxed to her so that she could show compliance with Florida homeschool law.

When the social worker came to the apartment the next day Mrs. Denard, aware of her Fourth Amendment rights, opened the door while keeping the chain on, and handed the Florida Notice to Homeschool to the social worker. Mrs. Denard also explained that she was just visiting for a few weeks to nurse her father back to health.

The social worker?s response was very aggressive. She demanded entry into the apartment to ?strip search? the children to see if they had any bruises. She shoved the papers back to Mrs. Denard, exclaimed she did not want them, and demanded entry into the apartment. The mother steadfastly refused, even though she was shaking and scared to death.

The social worker then called the police, who came to the scene and also demanded entry. When Mrs. Denard explained through the chained door that she had certain rights under the Fourth Amendment, they told her ?You have no rights!? They furthermore said that if she did not let them in, she would be guilty of ?obstructing justice? and a total of three felonies. In the meantime, Mrs. Denard was trying to call on HSLDA?s emergency line.

My Journey to Middle Earth


Years ago, I wouldn’t go near it with a ten foot pole. All I knew of it was that there was a wizard. I wanted to stay well away from anything like that. I did not like fairy tales, myths and legends, or anything with magic, mainly due to my interest in occultish things when I was a teen.

My husband hired the FOTR for just us to watch. I sat through some of the movie, horrified that he could consider watching something like that. I thought it was dark and eerie.

Then, I started to see that some Christians were talking about the books. As I usually do, I didn’t want to take their word for it. I like to investigate things for myself…read all the for’s and against’s. This is how I grow. So I decided to read the book for myself. I didn’t want to read other’s thoughts…I wanted to read it from a clean slate (or as much as possible).

Aside from the literary richness and the involved and detailed plot and the insightful characters, I fell in love with Middle Earth. Now that alone is not a good enough reason to like it eh?

I found there to be so much good, noble and worthy attributes in the book. Unlike allegories (of which this is not) there is no one perfect character in LOTR. When I read an allegory I am usually trying to look for the spiritual reflections- sometimes, many times I must miss them ::). I tie myself up in knots trying to work through the spiritual truths I do find. But when I read a good book, I can plainly see the spiritual truths- things just jump out at you. But like in real life, not one person is perfect- they all make mistakes, but they either grow through them and learn or they don’t. I can learn things about myself, the nature of man but more importantly I can learn about the nature of God and His purposes for mankind.

I can see some characteristics of God in people: strength, courage, boldness, humility- these are characteristics I want my children to learn…I don’t believe it always has to come only from Scriptures. In fact, I wonder if sometimes that can have a negative affect. I don’t teach my children character traits from the Bible. 😮 I know many beautiful Christians who do and I have no problem with that. I simply have a problem with it for myself- I don’t want them to think of the Bible as a list of Do’s and Don’t- simply a Moral Code. It is much more than that. I believe that character is more caught, than taught. But we can also teach character through role models, either in books, tv, or real life. Of course we an teach character traits through simple means like teaching what honesty is, and giving examples of it. I do this with our Bible readings regularly when we study the life of a person in the Bible…but I am getting off track.

Tolkien doesn’t preach. He gives life to his characters. He allows them to develop, to learn, to make mistakes, to grow, to fail…this is how we can learn from LOTR.

Okay back to the magic: magic has always bothered me as a Christian parent, especially presenting magic as just ‘good fun’. Magic in LOTR is not good fun. The wizardry in LOTR is not as that in other fantasies. He made a point of saying that he uses the word ‘wizard’ to mean ‘something utterly distinct from sorcerer or magician’. (The Letters of JRR Tolkien)

LOTR was written from the perspective of the hobbit. The hobbit’s however, did not know much about magic, Elves or even humans. What appears to be magic to them (when Aragorn uses a plant to heal a wound) can simply be knowledge of which they know not.

Some characters like Gandalf and Saruman appear to use magic. In fact they are supernatural beings, created by Illuvatar, who was the God in Tolkien’s world. The ‘magic’ in LOTR is not portrayed as something to gain or even something to strive for. Hard work, strength, courage, truth, loyalty, self-sacrifice and other such traits are what Tolkien was upholding more than anything else. In fact, it was these very traits (from a simple, mere, hobbit) that enabled the One Ring to be destroyed. It was no easy feat that was accomplished by the wave of a magic wand. I found more truth and virtue and points to teach from in LOTR than in many other ‘Christian books or fiction’.

Tolkien was a professor and his knowledge and love of English history and mythology is plain. However, while he draws much inspiration from this, the lines do not get blurred as he isn’t preaching.

These are just a few of my thoughts…as I could write them. I’m not interested in writing a complete thesis so please forgive me if I sound incomplete or jumbled. I am well aware of the in depth and rather heated debates that take place because of these books and I’m not interested in taking part in them. I wouldn’t want or try to convince another person to read the books or watch the movies for it is not a gospel that I’ve been called to proclaim. Every parent should make up their own mind whether or not they will read the books. Don’t be convinced by mere man. But don’t let it become an issue that divides. If you feel I’m in error, pray for me. Email me. But don’t let it divide the unity we have in Christ Jesus. For those interested in pursuing a study of LOTR, I highly recommend seeking God for direction and if He gives you the go-ahead, you could look at Literary Lessons from LOTR.

How We 'Do' Christmas

We don’t ‘do’ Christmas. Years ago when the children were small, we tried. But we would get a knot in the pits of our stomach. A few years ago, the commercialism of it all used to be a huge bother to me…now I’ve pretty much accepted that is the way it is and I’m not gonna change the world but I can impact or influence my own family so I’ll stick to that. 😉

We have no problem with anyone who does celebrate Christmas though. For us, it is not a divisive issue – we are free to visit people and receive a gift (at the risk of our refusal offending them) and we are free not to. It isn’t an issue of salvation – our salvation is not dependent upon whether we celebrate Christmas or not.

Everything we do should be expressly Christ-centered; God-honoring.

We don’t talk much about it either as it is our walk, our decision, our beliefs and as is isn’t salvation dependent, there are more important issues to preach about! I have many discussions on forums about this and after receiving a personal email about it I thought I’d post here.

a) Why did you make the decision to not celebrate Christmas.
Firstly because of the commercialism but then because it all seemed to so empty and meaningless. We tried hard to think of ways to ‘put Christ back into Christmas’. Some people have said that there is no scriptural basis for celebrating the birth of Christ, but I don’t see that…I see that God desires us to teach our children His ways and he is into object lessons in a big way, so I don’t have a problem with doing things to remember the birth of Christ as it is all part of God’s redemptive story! We teach God’s story but we do it all the time. Plus the whole white Christmas thing is a bit over the top, especially as Aussies! 😉 We did try a few of the unit studies centred around Christmas and the symbols of Christmas, just in case I was being a stickler, but the more often we did them, the more the whole things stuck in my side and I couldn’t get past it. We tried doing Advent readings but I lost track of it all. We have read some of the books by Arnold Ytree but these are beautiful books that can be enjoyed at any time of the year! We’re about to start another one real soon.

When I went researching this whole thing a few years ago, I found some real loopy sites (be wary of what you allow your mind and heart to ingest) …some real genuine sites, some real genuine articles…but the more I read, the more confused I could sense I was getting. One could find a thousand articles against Christmas or celebrating it and another thousand articles for it…a lot of Scripture is thrown in there on both sides. What is one to do? I reckon its like most issues – we each need to seek God, study the Word and trust that in this, the Holy Spirit will lead you in all truth – John 14:26

‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.’
Matthew 15:8

It’s not something I think one can be convinced of – the Holy Spirit needs to convict us, we don’t need to be convinced by man. 🙂 I am glad that I am not saved because of this issue. I do believe that each person must seek God for themselves and not be lead my man’s teaching alone. God is our judge and He alone. I’m also glad that we are not bound by our stance with Christmas. Jesus gives us freedom, not bondage.

b) My family likes Christmas. I can’t not celebrate it. What can I do?
Rather than ask the question of should we or shouldn’t we, maybe we can ask God “how should we”? Sometimes a different question is the way that we can turn our ear and heart to hear His still, small voice. It’s really a matter of personal study, conviction and relating with God and His word. Do your own personal study. Learn the history of Christmas. It’s all very interesting.
If we take Christ out of everything Christmas, what would we do? What would we be left with? A get together, BBQ’s, presents, cards, holidays, lots of food, etc. If we take Christ out of everything Easter, what would we do? Take Christ out of Easter and you still have a holiday, eggs, chocolate, bilbies and lillies.

‘In vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrine the commandments of men.’
Matthew 15:9

I have taught my children how to bless me for Mother’s Day. I’ve taught them how to bless their Dad on Father’s Day. It is about honoring the person. (I teach my children to do this so they can bless and honor others- it isn’t all about me ;0) You wouldn’t honor me on Mother’s Day by giving me a drill and taking me to the hardware store! But you wouldn’t honor John by giving him a box of chocolates or a new PDA. 😉 You would consider the person who is due the honor. In what way would they want to be honored?

We should consider how God wants to be honoured. The things that are honoring to God are the songs we sing, the prayer we pray, the Scriptures we read, the talks we have, the way in which we live and breathe. But these things are to be done all the time or regularly as worship. If we want to have a get together with lots of food and give presents then we can- we don’t need to make an excuse which we think and the world says, is about Christ, when it really isn’t about Christ. The way the world treats Christmas (generalisation) is often nothing more than self indulgence! The world loves Christmas time with all its celebrations. Holidays, food, gifts, etc. Yet it denies the very one whom it is supposedly about! Oh it’s okay to remember Christ as a babe but not the Saviour of the Human race. For many, it is just about *me*. That is largely how the world sees it.

Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world?wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important?has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out?but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.
1 John 2:15-17

So, if Christmas is going to be something that you do, then how you do it needs to be considered. Who is it about? Why are you doing it? When are you doing it? What will you do? Where will you do it? And how will you go about it? (Sorry my little brain uses the 5 W’s and H) If it is the Lord you are seeking to honor, then go to Him and see how He would be honored? (Like the Father’s Day principle 😉 See, I did have a point in there somewhere)

I know these thoughts are not for everyone, and that’s okay. This is our walk and our journey. But I also want you to know that we don’t judge other’s for celebrating the birth of Jesus the Messiah.

A few links:

Spurgeon on Christmas
The Christmas Irony
What does Jesus want for Christmas
When there is crisis at Christmas
Christmas and Advent
The Babe who will not be tamed
We did this Christmas quiz a few years ago and we’ll go through it again this year.
Is Christmas Necessary?
Robin Sampson’s article: Holiday Dilemma’s.

Church History: History Lives series

History Lives series

Peril and Peace: Chronicles of the Ancient Church Volume 1
by Mindy and Brandon Withrow
Isbn: 1845500822
* This series is written from a Protestant perspective

Suggested age: 8-12 but I would easily say a student of 16 would be quite happy to read this book.

I love learning about Church History! But finding a good book that are not way above my head can be tricky, for me. Finding a good book that the children can learn from is also tricky. Not so with the series from ChristianFocus.

Volume One contains the history of the early and Ancient Church. You will read about Paul, Polycarp, Justin, Origen, Cyprian, Constantine, Athanasius, Ambrose, Augustine, John Chrysostom, Jerome, Patrick, and Benedict. This volume will allow you to discover the roots of Christianity and learn about issues such as worship; creeds and councils and the formation of the Bible.

This series is written in a fairly modern style, so it differs slightly from other books such as “Trial and Triumph“. It isn’t gory so it’s a good read to get an overview of Church History. This 240 page book has longer chapters interspersed with shorter, factual chapters.

If you’ve been wondering how to study Church history with your children, you’ll want these books! They aren’t too brief or dumbed down but they definitely aren’t textbook style, which puts many young people to sleep.

Volume 2 is Monks and Mystics: Chronicles of the Medieval Church.
by Mindy and Brandon Withrow
Isbn: 1845500830

Ever wanted to learn about Gregory the Great, Boniface, Charlemagne, Constantine Methodius, Vladimir, Anselm of Canterbury, Bernard of Clairvaux, Francis of Assisi, Thomas Aquinas, Catherine of Sienna, John Wyclif and John Hus? Well, you’ll want to get Volume Two in the History Lives series.

The period known as the Middle Ages wasn’t just dark and oppressive. God was spreading the message of Jesus Christ to previously foreign lands. In this book, you’ll learn how the early Church moved on…you’ll learn about the Crusafes and the spread of Islam and the Reformation. You’ll also see how and when the Bible was translated into various languages

Through this book you’ll have opportunity to learn about and discuss with your children, issues like the rise of Islam, The Crusades,Creeds and Councils and the Renaissance.

At present, I don’t have the other volumes but they are:
Volume Three – Courage and Conviction: Chronicles of the Reformation Church
Volume Four – Hearts And Hands: Chronicles of the Awakening Church

Each volume is approximately $10 – $15
Koorong:
Word:
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See more about this series here: http://christianfocus.com/series/show/40/-/d_series

If you read this and decide to read the series, or if you have read the series, drop me a line. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

p.s. [edited to add] How cool. Mindy Withrow, the author, just left a comment. How cool is that? She also left the link to the History Lives website, which you’ll want to visit: http://www.historylivesseries.com./
p.p.s. How cool. Mindy was also homeschooled! 😉

Super Simple Spiritual Sunday

Do Your Feelings Have Veto-Power Over Scripture?
http://www.oldtruth.com/blog.cfm/id.2.pid.636

Church Growth Movie
http://www.oldtruth.com/blog.cfm/id.2.pid.239
What Value Does The Bible Have, To You?
http://www.oldtruth.com/blog.cfm/id.2.pid.443

Teaching Teens How to Read Academically
http://mothercroneshomeschool.blogspot.com/2007/10/teaching-teens-how-to-read-academically.html

Raising Children
http://kitchencomfortlearning.blogspot.com/2007/10/raising-children.html

Job Assignments
http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/24/job-assignments/

Submission requires Courage
http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/26/submission-requires-courage/

Doctrine Discerns
http://voiceofvision.blogspot.com/2007/10/doctrine-discerns.html

Get started by selecting ingredients found in your kitchen. Based on the ingredients you choose, Pantry Chef will return a list of recipes. And, presto! Your dinnertime dilemma is solved with a delicious meal.
http://www.southernprogress.com/pantrychef/

Seven Wonders Of The Present World
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/842482/seven_wonders_of_the_present_worl
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Emotionally Absent

Light’s are on but nobody’s home.

As a homeschool mum I had given up any notion of a career outside the home. I did this joyously and because I wanted to. I didn’t want to miss the everyday happenings of my children…I didn’t want to be absent…but would you believe that a Christian homeschooling mum who dearly loves her children struggled with this very issue?

It all started about five years after we started homeschooling. I had tried a school-at-home approach, tried unit studies and was burning myself out by trying to rigidly conform our home and family to fall in line with Charlotte Mason’s methods. Previous to this my dear mother had *graduated* to be with the Lord and we started homeschooling within a few weeks. I also had a 6 month old baby at the time. My husband was away frequently and I found it hard. Then we completely uprooted from everything and everyone familiar to go to a new job in a new town, in a new state! My health was slowly going downhill. I think I’ve mentioned before that it can be draining and tiring to go our and make new friends and start all over again, so I didn’t. I was at a place where I was content…or so I thought.

The Internet is such an easy place to get lost in eh? One can roam around and meet new people, learn new things and justify sitting on one’s backside for large periods of time. (Oh, but maybe I’m the only one who struggles with that) I soon found that if I wasn’t actually physically sitting at my chair on the Internet, my head was on the Internet. Instead of my heart being turned toward the home, it was turned toward the Internet! You know, while in the shower pondering various situations and posts…thinking of email responses and hurrying the dishes just to write a quick reply…(or am I alone here too? I don’t think I am. )

It got to the point where I was hurrying through lessons…or when I was reading aloud my mind wasn’t really on the book. I was simply going through the motions of homeschooling and parenting. The lights were on but no one was home. I was physically present but emotionally absent from my home and the lives of those most precious to me.

But you know what? Simply recognising the problem wasn’t enough to fix it. 🙁 I asked some good (internet) friends to pray for me. They knew of my struggles and pray they did! I believe it was largely due to them, and due to the desire of my heart, that God released me from the bondage of Internet Addiction. Yep, I kid you not! Sad, isn’t it?

Part of the solution was for me to realise what attraction the Internet held for me. A large part of it was fellowship with like-minded believers. That was a huge part. There was another part of me that desired adult interaction. I also like to escape from the mundane. And I love to talk…I love to listen. I also love to learn. Aha, see all the causes that band together to fuel the fires of my addiction? Once I recognised these things, I was able to devise a plan of action. I didn’t want to get rid of the computer all together. It is simply a machine. Surely I should be able to control it, rather than have it control me? I didn’t see that getting rid of it would help deal with the root of the problem.

I need fellowship. I need to receive and I need to give to other adults. I love to talk and write. And I was like sponge, I was so hungry for knowledge. But in all this, I was suffering from Information Overload. Too much information floating around in my head. I found it hard to make decisions because there were always so many differing opinions on things. (Oh boy, what a mess eh?) I ended up emotionally paralysed because of Information Overload – my mind never stopped, never rested. It was always on the go, the hunt for new or more information. All this busyness and effort and stress on such low priority activities.

Needing to know

I had an urge to ‘keep up with what’s happening‘…(this is just a form of gossip, which the Bible speaks a lot about) to know what was going on within the homeschool circles. (See, I told you I was in a mess). The thing is, there is just way too much information, too many blogs, too many forums, too much info to try and keep up with! I was able to give it up…by giving it all over to God.

I have had to learn, and am still on a major learning curve, how to focus and to think more clearly. I have had to learn to be selective about the things I read, the places I visit and emails I respond to. I’m not on as many email groups or forums anymore. I’ve had to learn how to guard my heart and mind…but that’s for another post. 😉

Breaking Free

Taking a break or sabbatical from the computer is good…I found it especially easy on holidays or moving house. Actually, after not being online for a few days I really start to rest. Then, even when we return I’m not in a hurry to get back online because I know the pull it has toward me.

Firstly, I had to repent. I repented in front of my children. I told them the problems I was having but that it was not the true desire of my heart. I apologised to them and asked their forgiveness. I also gave my children permission to let me know (in a correct and respectful manner) when I was being ‘absent’ from them. If I was on the computer instead of with them, I taught them that they could gently come to me, touch my hand and ask me to do something with them. I taught them that they weren’t to nag me. Strangely, I don’t respond well to nagging or sarcasm or whining. 😉 You know, my girls did have reason to come to me. But you know what? They did not abuse that privilege. They came to me in love, touched my hand gently and looked into my eyes. Oh, what mother could resist? This was a big key toward helping me. It provided me with some accountability. My husband had offered to turn off the connection between certain hours but I new that the motivation had to come from within me, not an external source. I don’t suggest that all families try something so forward but I share this because it helped me greatly. It also taught my children a few things: we all need accountability…their Christian homeschooling mother isn’t perfect…how to correct someone in love…how easily one can use something good to ‘escape’…to know what it means to be emotionally absent and more.

Dear wife, dear mother, be there for your husband. Be there for your children. They want you. And they need you. No one else can do the job you are doing right now. God wants you, dear Christian wife and/or mother, to serve your family wholeheartedly, as unto Him. Play a game of cards or Uno with them. Do a jigsaw puzzle with them. If you want to have a great relationship with them when they are 15, then you need to have a great relationship with them when they are five! God is a God of miracles so I’m not saying it’s too late for any relationship that isn’t solid…rather that it’s so much easier to maintain a solid relationship than to repair a broken or hurting one, and then build on it from there. I’m not saying you have to be talking to your children every waking minute of every day. I’m talking about priorities and quality and quantity time.

Start now, today. Nothing is more important. Writing a book? Book orders to send off? Curriculum choices to make? Writing an email response…these are all things that need to be prioritised because they can take you away from your children. So, turn of the browser…go call your children and talk to them as you teach them or have them help you prepare tonight’s meal. Go on, you’ll be so glad you did.

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23

Homeschooling with Young Children

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This post is another post written in response to an online query. I had a good time writing it though as it caused me to reflect upon the times when the children were younger. I remember thinking that the time would never come when I wouldn’t have toddlers but I have experienced that this time, too, shall pass. My children are all approximately 22 months apart. So here is where I write about my experience with our toddlers and young ones while trying to homeschool.

  • It was hard work!
  • It was fantastic!!
  • It was draining and monotonous!!!
  • It was fun!!!!

I’m trying to remember how I managed…not just survived but enjoyed it. And I did enjoy it for the most part. The hardest times were when things would go wrong with the car or house and John was away! But that’s not the children’s fault.

Firstly, I taught my babies to sleep independently and I expected this to carry on. Even as older toddlers I would put them down for a Quiet Time. I wasn’t fussed if they slept but they needed a quiet time. I needed the Quiet Time.

I also gave my children LOADS of free time to play outside…to play inside. Just time to play and be children. They played outside in the mud, in the dirt, with the dog, pulling up the garden, digging, climbing, running, jumping and generally doing what most children do given the opportunity.

The hardest times were when my baby was about 18mt – 2yrs, next was John at 4yrs, ‘Miss R’ at 6yrs and ‘Miss A’ at 8yrs. Yep, this was a juggling act. But we managed by being flexible and spontaneous.

The children would get up and have breakfast and do some chores and then they’d go outside to play. I would send them ALL outside together. Sometimes I’d go out with them, other times I’d watch from the laundry or the kitchen while doing some work. The fresh air and sunshine, with lots of laughter really tuckered the young boys out so the youngest would come inside and go down for a solid 2 hour nap while John was content to be in the play pen with toys or books, listening to me while I taught the girls their very basic lessons.

After the2 hours were up, they’d be back outside again while I prepared lunch. After lunch it was cleanup and then we’d either do an activity, have visitors or go out. We’d back home in time for daddy to come home and we’d have tea and baths and then bed. I was always pretty strict on bedtimes as I was very protective of my time at night. I felt I needed it- that time for me, and with my husband. (Good job I got that time then because I don’t now that they’re older).

We did some arts and crafts but not much- I don’t like it. We were more into physical activity which I think is great for everyone. Plus being outside from such a young age helps to strengthen and build their immune system, I believe. But each family has their own unique fingerprint and God has placed your children with your family to learn particular things…so go with what you do and what you love.

I was asked the question:

How much sit down schoolwork does your 7yodd need? Is there a way you can simplify? What exactly are you doing that would need to take more than 1 1/2 hours per day, even when broken into smaller chunks?

There’s so much you can do with all the children that is ‘education’ yet not have it be sit down school work. Your children, even the 7yo, are so young! There’s so much to learn, to explore, to know, to be sitting inside on a chair with a pencil in hand for more than 2 hours a day.

Do you have a playroom where the children can make a little mess that doesn’t need to be cleaned up immediately? How about playing classical music every afternoon and having them ‘act it out’ or dramatise it? This is a wonderful activity that everyone can do.

How about Nature Studies– nothing formal just nice walks through a park while gently pointing out the various plants and wildlife to be seen? Stimulating their minds with worthwhile and rich ideas are what is important, much more so than pencil work at this young age. (If you’re worried about handwriting look into Copy Work and also let them play with Lego, do colouring in, drawing, play-doh and other fine motor and gross motor skill activities) Talking with them, listening to them (even when it’s really boring) is the best thing you can do for this also lays foundations.

How about choosing some really good picture books and reading aloud as a whole family? Your oldest child could occasionally read aloud and discuss the pictures with all the younger ones. I’m sure you are already doing this but it’s worth mentioning that training children to sit and listen quietly is an important skills and can’t be started gently too early.

Young mother, your job is so important and part of it is homeschooling. But academics are only a small part of it all. However, you are laying the foundational principles for academics now. If your child can’t develop in the habit of attentiveness then lessons will always be difficult. If the habit of self control or self discipline is not instilled early then it will be much harder later on. The habit of neatness and of trying your best the first time are all most worthy habits to focus on. Building a family of faith is not all that easy…and while we don’t want to use resources or teach academics that are contrary to our mission, we need to be more diligent in teaching and displaying love for God, obedience to God and His word and good character traits and habits.

Life Skills cannot be neglected and probably would take up a large chunk of your day. Don’t think that this is not teaching, or training or homeschooling because it is!

Now a few years on, I can look back and say DO NOT STRESS. Enjoy your children. Live life with them. For soon they will be older and you will face very different issues and concerns (not bad but different). This time of hard, tiring and monotonous work will pass.

Live your life to the glory of God, act justly in all things, love mercy and walk in fellowship with your family and with God. Focus on the eternal. Train yourself to see the Big Picture amidst the nappies, the tantrums and the phonics.

He has showed you, O man, what is good.
And what does the LORD require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God.
Micah 6:8

Reflection Award

The reason for The Blogger Reflection Award is to reflect on five bloggers who have been an encouragement, a source of love, impacted you in some way, and have been a Godly example to you. Five Bloggers who when you reflect on them you get a sense of pride and joy… of knowing them and being blessed by them.

I was chuffed to receive this award, although awards aren’t a reason I blog. Some people do…but I”m just not consistent enough with regular writing…I write for me, from me, to you and me.

I would like to award the following bloggers the Blogger Reflection Award. I’m not following the rules rigidly. I have had this post saved in my draft folder for a few months now so it’s time to just get on with it.

Margaret

Sally Clarkson

Robin Sampson

Nancy Wilson

Barbara Frank

The rules of participating are:

1. Copy these rules.
2. Reflect on five bloggers and write a least a paragraph about each one.
3. Make sure you link to this post so others can read it and the rules.
4. Leave your chosen bloggers a comment to let them know they?ve been given the award.
5. Put the award icon on your site

Tagged

Theresa from LittleDarlins tagged me.

1) What is your school name and why?
HomeGrownKids. Having a school name isn’t overly popular here in Australia, although I think it is starting to catch on. A few years into our homeschooling journey (in about 2003) we had a homeschool resource supply service called, HomeGrownKids! It became our family. Even after I closed the business down, the name had stuck. I was known on the Internet as HGK. My children had become known as the HomeGrownKids.

2) How is your weather today?
Warm, sunny and beautiful. 🙂

3) What steals your joy?
Disorganisation. Unfortunately, I am quite disorganised by nature. 🙁 Also the ‘tyranny of the urgent’ which is never really that urgent.

4) Name five blessings you received this week.
1. My husband bought new parts to make a new server to host our new website (yet to be launched). He spent his Father’s Day money on it.
2. I had cause to see some beautiful fruit in the life of my 16yodd.
3. I got to spend a day at the park with some other like-minded friends.
4. My hubby bought me a new phone with a camera, so I can take pictures of family.
5. I get to see my children and spend quality time with them every day, instead of feeling pressure to work outside the home.

5) Favorite Scripture
What? Just one? Colossians 1:15-23

6) Who in the Bible do you think are most like?
No idea!

7) The passage of scripture you read last:
Matthew 22:36-40

8) Have you ever praised God for something weird?
I’m sure I have…can’t remember much at the moment.

9) If you were making a greeting card for God what would it say.
No idea- aside from THANKS! Sometimes words aren’t enough.

10) What is the best miracle God has performed in your life, or what is your favourite answered prayer?
That I get to share my life with someone special…and follow Him all the days of my life. My cry for salvation…that He saved a wretch like me.

11) What is the most fun thing you have done lately.
Day at the park…visiting friends…watching softball…working with John on a website…

12) How did you choose your screen name.
HomeGrownKids- see answer #1. However, over the last few years I have also been drawn more and more into the home and into Bible study. So, my new screen name and website is Kerugma. Kerugma means ?proclamation?. It comes from the Greek word kerux meaning ?a messenger? or ?a proclaimer?. In fact the official kerux or herald would stand in the market place and blow a trumpet, calling the attention of the crowd to the edict of the Emperor, and his proclamation was as a command? it had to be obeyed. The kerux was called upon only to proclaim. His role was not to speculate about the message, nor to explain or justify it, but simply to proclaim the message, the essence of the Gospel. The onus was on the hearer to hear and obey. So, as a kerux, my aim is to proclaim the good news of Jesus Christ.

Now I get to play tag! I tag Lisa, Chrissy, ‘Miss A’ and Jacqui.

Free Modesty Lapbook

This lapbook is designed for girls of all ages.Your daughter will explore the scriptures and see what God has to say about modesty. This study will challenge your daughters to evaluate their hearts (and their closets!).

Large lapbook, filled with great folded booklets. All you need to print out and assemble this lapbook is included. This is a great project to have for a keepsake, as well!

Courtesy to the wonderful folk at Homeschoolestore

Work Smarter, Not Harder

In my early years of learning at home I worked pretty hard. I sorted curriculum, marked worksheets and workbooks and planned out each week’s work. A large part of my Sunday evening was spent in ‘teacher time’. I really enjoyed it…at the time. Once I realised that I could emulate school and do a fairly good job of it the novelty wore off, especially when I observed how well my children learned many things naturally, in their everyday environment.

Then came Testing Time! We tested by using oral narrations, as the children were still quite young and narration was our most frequently used method of learning and processing information. I was a little dismayed to find that while the girls were able to recall some of the information that had taken me some time to devise into a course of study, there was a lot that they simply didn’t retain! I was yet to learn (have understanding and wisdom, not just knowledge) that the early years of childhood and education are more about exposing children to great ideas, stimulating their minds, nourishing their heart and soul, forming good habits and developing daily disciples than sheer academics. 🙂

I think it all started when we went away on a holiday. We were exposing the children to a variety of experiences…we put stimulating ideas before them…we gave them nourishing thoughts to ponder, interesting things to do and see…and their learning took off, all of its own accord! They were growing, developing, learning (and enjoying it), and true education was happening yet it wasn’t laborious for me, nor for them! It wasn’t hard. I started to question the value of everything I had been doing. I was working pretty hard yet was beginning to sense that it wasn’t the most efficient way to work or learn.

I discovered that simply doing workbooks and reading lots of books is not enough life experience for my children to learn all that they have to learn – there has to be more. That ‘more’ has to be in the form of establishing relationships with others and with God. This enables them to have many experiences in which they can learn from. However, I also learned that I could spend hours reading a good book to the girls yet they wouldn’t only retain a marginal amount of it. How frustrating. Why did this happen? how could I maximise that proportion? I’ve found that by reading the books with them allows me to know what is going on so long after the book is finished, we can still talk about the book or movie. We can relate back to certain incidences and learn from that. If I’m not a part of that with them then that opportunity is limited. The key here is for me to be with the children. While it may seem the harder or longer road, it is actually the smarter, easier road.

The primary years are ones of collecting knowledge. I imagine it to be a smorgasboard where the children can sample a huge variety of foods, tasting each one a few times to see what really grabs them. I would have them sample the marinated mushrooms and picked octopus at least three times before they can declare that they don’t like them. But I’ll carefully observe them during this time…watching to see how they taste, what they naturally gravitate toward. This arms me with valuable information about each child. I take note of their individual likes and dislikes and I plan the meals accordingly. Naturally, I don’t cater to every whim and fancy. Some meals will still have picked octopus in them! It is good for them to learn character and good manners by eating something they don’t naturally like. Plus the slow and regular exposure to it may just help to form their taste buds and appetite. 😉 (but that’s a whole ‘nother post) How does one eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Even though my child may not be interested in nature study I will still want them to sample it. Even this sampling can have an effect upon their lives. But I don’t need to get caught up in it or feel guilty about not doing it if it is not pleasant to our palate. However, my time might be better served by focussing on the foods that they will eat. I can always disguise the octopus and mushrooms and hide them in another dish. 😉

There are times when we should require 100% of best effort from our students and other times when it is acceptable to ask for less, if they are sampling and deciding what next to focus upon. We need to teach our children how to give 100% and deliver good quality but we also need to teach them how to optimise their time and how to look for things that yield productivity.

What do you spend most of your time learning about? Is it working for you? What is most important to you as a homeschool mother? In your homeschool, what activities give you the greatest results? Do you need to re-prioritise and refocus your energies?

HomeschoolAustralia Website: A must see

Have I mentioned Beverley Paine’s website? HomeschoolAustralia. Oh, I have been remiss. You will want to check it out, but brew a fresh cuppa first as you can expect to be there awhile. 🙂

When we first started learning at home, there was nowhere near the amount of information available as there is now. But, there was Beverley Paine and her books! Beverley is very generous with her time and knowledge and is a great pioneer in the area of Australian Home Education. Don’t be too quick to look at the expensive, glossy, over priced books that often flood the market today…reach instead for some tried and true, down-to-earth, practical insight and purchase Beverley’s books.

Beverley began writing for home educators in 1989 an continues to add to her growing collection of homeschooling and unschooling titles. Her aim is to demystify the education process and make it accessible to all parents. She began home educating her children when it was almost unheard of in Australia and is a passionate advocate of true educational choice for families. She shares her perspective as well as great ideas to motivate and help you enjoy this wonderful family adventure through articles and books and online at www.homeschoolaustralia.com .

She has sections and sites for getting started, reviews, a blog, resources and a monthly newsletter, which you will want to subscribe to.

Whether or not you’re looking at starting the home education adventure or have been living the lifestyle for awhile, you will find something of interest at Beverley’s site, HomeschoolAustralia. Other sites are:

http://homeschoolaustralia.com
http://australianhomeschoolcurriculum.com
http://alwayslearningbooks.com.au

Super Simple Spiritual Sunday

Oh, it’s SSSS time and I don’t have much to share. I haven’t been on the Internet much so that will be reflected in my SSSS…nevertheless, here goes!

As I recently posted about my own Internet habits, I was encouraged and given cause to reflect further when I read Jacqui’s post on Internet Dependancy
What My Parents Did Right-Heart-to-Heart with a Homeschooled Graduate, now Homeschool Mom! Audio available at Cindy Rushton’s site
A Christian’s Cruise
at Following Judah’s Lion
Today’s Trendy Sermons Often Lack Repentance over at Old Truth

Family update

Hmmm, I see that when my life is busy, my posts dry up. It’s that life is happening all around me and I’m not reading as much, nor thinking as much…I’m in a season of ‘doing’. I’m living life…just everyday things that I choose not to post about, nor would they be of much interest to anyone else. Thus, my blog has been quiet. I’ll play catchup and share a few recent happenings though. ‘Miss R’ started a part time job! Yes, she managed to get some work at the same place that ‘Miss A’ works, a cake and coffee cafe. I’m so grateful to the boss as he takes on youngsters and allows their hours to be fairly flexible, the pay is award wages and it is quite a relaxed atmosphere. Perfect for a first job. Naturally, we expect their work ethic (that is being developed) to be of a high standard. I think that the part time work for ‘Miss R’ has been beneficial for her.

Last weekend, ‘Miss A’ and I were at a softball tournament. It was the U19 Women’s State Championship and our team was undefeated all the way- including the Grand Final. Mind you, tournaments like that are never much fun for either tea: the party being beaten or the team who is obviously not being challenged. There have been some good avenues for discussion from that weekend. The end of the tournament also brings the announcement of the QLD State Squad. We didn’t know how ‘Miss A’ would go as she is fresh out of U16 but to our delight and surprise, she was selected! The squad trains together twice a week (as well as they individual fitness training and their individual position training) and then they have a weekend camp in November where the team is selected. It’s always a tumultuous time whether one is selected or not. While one is selected, another girl misses out. The QLD State Team will be competing in Tasmania in 2008 against all the other states. She has a lot of work to do in the hope of making the team. She also starts a second part time job this week.

‘Miss R’ is having some confusion over life at school. I partly expected this as once one starts to earn money I think that they start to view their world, their life in a different way. However, she told me that she hasn’t used a pen or pencil at school all last term! (She knows how I feel about things like that) Being a computer literate family means she is weary of all her lessons being done on the computer at school. She also feels that there is not enough structure for her to learn effectively- she is missing any sort of one on one instruction, which I consider to be weird considering that she is at a school. However, my thoughts need to be proactive and not just ones of “Well, duh!”. We will spend the next few weeks discussing her options as she wants to do well for Yr10.

The boys are just wonderful, pottering along slowly but steadily with their lessons. I had to laugh at John the other day. I asked him why he wasn’t doing his Flying Creatures Science book and he said he feels he needs a break from it as it was becoming boring and that he’ll pick it up again when he feels ready! Ha! I laughed and marveled at him, telling that he doesn’t get to pick and choose when he will study. But that’s really not true. To a large extent I do let him do that. I let him know what he has to cover before the term or the year and I allow him the room to do it (or not). If he fails, then I have the chance to talk with him about time management, character, habits and study skills which all relate full well to life skills. This way he is learning much more than science through his science book. A homeschool mum has to be continually on the lookout for teaching opportunities, ya know. 😉

I’ve been trying to watch my health and fitness. This is not a new thing…it’s a constant effort but also a constant failing. Nevertheless, I keep looking forward. I ‘m finally able to admit the real reason I want to get fit. I was kidding myself in that I don’t want to be fat and unfit to go to Adelaide but they’re my family – they’ve seen me at my biggest.

The real reason is my children and *life*. Teens are so much fun and full of energy and excitement. I can feel that teens are so energising but if I’m unfit it isn’t – it is actually draining. I want to be energised! 🙂 I want to enjoy every second of the journey of life. I want to feel excitement at everything, great or small. Being unfit sucks the very life from a person. I want to enjoy my teens, every fast-paced, energetic, life breathing moment with them! I need to be fit in order to do this. That’s the real reason. I know it doesn’t seem hard to admit but for me, it was.

Convinced or Convicted

Issues, Convictions and being Convinced…
originally written in 2000

Married at the tender age of 18, I was blissfully ignorant of domestic duties and all that married life would entail. I loved my husband dearly and I thank God for giving me such a gracious and patient man, with which to spend and share my life with. We have just recently celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary and we tend to get a little sentimental around this time of year. Only the other day John recalled the first meal I ever made him, before we were married – ham, cheese and mustard sandwiches! Well, it really is a testament to God’s greatness that we ended up married as I’m surprised that John went through with it after I nearly burnt his mouth and esophagus with an over abundance of mustard. He had seen how I kept my bedroom in a complete and utter chaotic mess and had observed how my mother waited on me, hand and foot. How he was not at all worried or apprehensive about life after marriage I will never understand.

On our honeymoon (as a matter of survival) John taught me how to cook 3 min noodles. I already managed toast and hard boiled eggs so we lived on these for some time. After we had moved into a house I worked hard at making it into a real home, a castle for my king ! I taught myself to cook and clean house, largely through trial and error. For instance, I have learnt that nylon petticoats do not fare very well if ironed. One by one children started to come along and I would read and research on parenting babies, toddlers and so forth. I have always desired to be a Proverbs 31 woman (or as close as I could possibly be), to love my husband and train my children.

Then some time later we started on this fabulous journey of Home Based Learning. Typical to my nature, I researched and devoured anything I could get my hands on. (Thanks to a good friend for all her time and patience with me during that time) I then came to a point where I was happy and content with the “what and how” of what we were doing.

In my hunger for reading and fellowship with other like minded women I read quite a few periodical magazines and many websites that are designed to encourage and teach women in their calling at home. These magazines are great and a real source of blessing. Nevertheless, there is an issue that I believe the Lord wanted me to see clearly.

I need to continually remember my salvation. My salvation came at a great price to the Father and it is only the Cross that saves. Many issues that I held dear to us are simply that. Issues! Ideals! Yes, they can add fruitfulness to my life, make us healthier, wealthier and wiser but I need to be careful that I keep preaching the Gospel of Christ. I need to see these distinctions clearly and understand the differences. There are so many issues that today’s Christian woman needs to be aware of. I can homeschool our children using the finest Christian material, while my husband runs our own home business. I can sew all the families clothes or shop exclusively at second hand stores. I can bake our own bread and grind our own flour, eat our organically grown fruit and veggies, I can wear non-patterned dresses only and never cut or color my hair or wear makeup. To wear a head covering or not? We may not watch TV nor attend any function that isn’t termed “Christian”. To celebrate Christmas and Easter? We may listen to “Accapella” singing only, avoiding any music other than classical or ‘spiritual’. We may choose not to use soap or apply any chemical laden substance to our body. Home birth or hospital birth? Where does it end?

These are just some of the issues that I have pondered, questioned and had to speak with my husband about. I’m sure there are more as there is nothing new under the sun. Some of these issues are quite valid and can be of immense benefit to our families . Oftentimes though, when we as wives, have either stumbled across something that has been wonderful for us or that the Lord has led us to, we latch on to that and become so convinced of its merit and excited about it that we want to share it with everyone. Somewhere, somehow, amidst all this, something goes awry!

These things become the measuring stick. Oi voi, this is not good nor right. We stand ourselves up against these things to find out how we are going as a Christian woman. It is no wonder I often feel inadequate and as though I fall short! My dear husband even asked me to stop reading some of the material. The articles and books themselves aren’t bad but that they can be used in ways to take our focus away from the Truth! The Reality! Jesus Christ! Let us only preach the gospel of Christ. I have learned that I need to sit back and allow the Holy Spirit to convict me rather than being convinced of all manner of things that sound noble or righteous. When the Holy Spirit convicts, it is solid and real. The Holy Spirit doesn’t need all manner of sound logic and reasonable persuasion. If you have an ‘issue’ in your life, that is causing you angst or doubt or concern, take it to the Lord. Seek Him, study the Word and trust that in this the Holy Spirit will lead you in all truth.

Home Based Learning, for John and I is a conviction. Not a preference, but a conviction. It is not just another educational alternative but a calling from God. We don’t want to ever convince another family to homeschool but if the Holy Spirit convicts them, then I’d like to offer them encouragement and be there for fellowship. We need to be careful that we don’t spread the “Gospel of Homeschooling” before we spread the Good News of Jesus, which is essential for salvation.

The Friend, the Holy Spirit whom the Father will send at my request, will make everything plain to you. He will remind you of all the things I have told you.

John 14:26
The Message

Fragrant Atmosphere of Our Home

Ah, spring is my favourite season of the year. I like summer but spring is so welcome after the colder months. With spring comes a renewed interest in getting fit, cleaning and organising the house, planting herbs and all those activities that signal the end of winter.

Potpourri is a mixture of dried, naturally fragrant plant material. Once it has been dried, essential oils are then added along with a ‘fixative’ that helps to retain the scent. I love the fact that potpourri is so individual. I can’t fail with it! Every batch I make is different and unique. It is an eclectic mix of colour, texture and fragrance: much like our family. 😉

Spring is also the time when I renew the fragrant potpourri in my home. I have big jars of dried rose petals, and bowls with a few other dried flowers. I add different essential oils to it. I add vanilla or pine or something nice to the one in the toilet and lavender/patchouli/ chammomile for the ones in the bedrooms. I fill pretty little bags with it and hang them in various rooms, including the wardrobes. I love the look and the smell of them! Every room (except the boys room) has a bowl or jar of potpourri. I even have some rooms colour matched! Some bowls have more purple colours while other bowls have dried yellow and orange flowers (the earthy colours) while most of the jars have deep maroon/red coloured rose petals. I put sticks of cinnamon and some cloves, and other spices in some of them too: anything that looks nice or smells nice! I change scents to match the season. I use those little ceramic/pottery oil decanters. They look nice but more importantly, they hold fragrant essential oils. You can put any oil you like and they emit a gentle, smooth fragrance.

I also put a few drops of essential oil, such as chammomile or lavender, onto a cotton ball and tuck it into pillows in the bedroom and the lounge room. The faint odour is released whenever the pillow is used. For extra comfort and sound sleep, I use the best silk pillowcase in the market.

If the house is especially odoriferous I burn a few drops of essential oil in an oil burner. These can be found for a few dollars in the dollar stores. Mix a few drops of oil with some water and let it simmer gently. Apricot, peach, musk, orange, chocolate and vanilla are some of my favourites, although it depends. In winter I use herby type oils as it makes us feel all clean and spruced while in summer I like the fruity, light smells.

I also use essential oils in a spray bottle of water. I use this to clean everything! Benchtops, walls, table, chairs, etc. For this I use either tea tree oil, eucalyptus oil, spearmint or peppermint. It’s especially nice in the colder months as it helps everyone to feel ‘clear’ in the sinuses and gives that real clean smell. The mint types are excellent for use after there has been a bout of sickness like vomiting or diarrhea. :/

After making my own chai tea recipe I realised that it was a beautiful smell…so sometimes I make up my own concoction of spices and simmer it on the stove. Actually, I did the other day with a blackberry and vanilla herbal tea bag! I broke the bag open and gently simmered it on the stove. Hmmmm, beautiful! This is especially nice in the cooler months as the spices just make me feel warmer.

It’s lovely to have a vase full of herbs on the kitchen bench. One can’t help but rub them between their fingers when walking past and the oils are released and the fragrance fills the kitchen, momentarily.

I’ve also used a few drops of essential oils as perfume. This makes a welcome change to typical perfumes that are made with alcohol and are drying to the skin. I’m partial to vanilla and musks. 😉 Don’t use the cheaper oils for this though…I would only use the 100% pure essential oil on my skin.

The reason that I use essential oils so much is that my dh is very sensitive to unnatural or man made odours and it is something that will be inhaled into the body a lot so I like to be careful. So I try to use oils rather than chemical laden perfumes. I haven’t always used the expensive oils either. I used to use the cheap $2 oils from the dollar stores. They work fine, just have to top up the oil each season. I usually top up and refresh my odour producers at the beginning of each season. I feel that we can become a little immune to the benefits of essential oil fragrance so that’s also why I change it periodically.

However, more importantly than the fragrant odour in our home is the fragrance of the knowledge of Jesus Christ. As wives and mothers, we are the aroma of Christ to our husband and our children and those that we come in contact with each day. It is my desire that I will be as a sweet scent rising to God: that my family will breathe in the exquisite fragrance of Jesus the Messiah through me, as I am blessed by them.

But thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing, to one a fragrance from death to death, to the other a fragrance from life to life. Who is sufficient for these things? For we are not, like so many, peddlers of God?s word, but as men of sincerity, as commissioned by God, in the sight of God we speak in Christ.
2 Corinthians 2:14-16

Credo Trust: Aussie Supplier of homeschool curricula

Oooh, it’s so exciting! Another homeschool supply business is serving the needs of Australian homeschoolers.

Credo Trust is operated by a friend of mine, Joelle. She is a long time home educator of her five children. The aim of Credo Trust is to encourage families to continue teaching their children through the highschool years. They will provide you with an excellent array of products to help you achieve wonderful results and provide interesting learning for your family.

They have an assortment of curricula and books. Credo Trust aims to build a supply of great biographies, historical fiction, and reference and living books to assist you in whatever learning style you favour.

Do pop over there and take a look around their website. You can even receive updates to their catalogue via RSS. Be sure to let them know that Susan says *hi*. 🙂

Credo Trust
Family and Educational Resources

See other favourites sites and suppliers here.

The PM Equates Church Attendance with being a Christian

Hello reader! Do you believe in Jesus Christ, the Son of God?

Oi Voi! For a person who has been going to church regularly one would think that Mr. Rudd might be able to answer the question with a straight answer. Surely the answer to a question such as “do you believe in Jesus Christ, the Son of God?” is either a yes, no or don’t know, don’t care!

I find Mr. Rudd’s response to be scary. Scary in that if he has gone to church regularly then he should have heard enough to answer the question with a yes, no or I don’t care. Or maybe it is just a matter of politics. Maybe the truth in his heart is not the image he wants to portray to the general public. Maybe he was momentarily caught off guard and wants to give the best ‘political answer’. Either way it is scary.

Question: ?Mr Rudd, do you believe in Jesus Christ, the Son of God??
Mr. Rudd’s response: ?Well, I?m a – I?m a, a person who attends church regularly.?

If you want to hear it for yourself, head over to SBS and watch this clip. It is the very last line of the clip so keep watch or you’ll miss it.

Why am I blogging about such things? Australia is gearing up for an election and for quite some time now I have liked Mr. Rudd and thought he was a good candidate for Prime Minister. But I despise using Christianity as a political vehicle to gain votes and as time goes on, it seems like this is happening, just as it did many years ago when Mr. Howard was running for first time election. He too, voiced many Christian values and gained the support of many churches. Often, I post about things that are on my mind. This has been on my mind for days…so I thought I’d put it out there. What do you think? Am I being overly picky or is this an issue?

So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven.
Matthew 10:32-34 ESV

Technological Noise and Mental Clutter

I haven’t been online much lately…too many things going on that needed my attention. We’ve been rushing around this past weekend, getting up before the crack of dawn to head out to the diamonds to watch ‘Miss A’ play softball. I love it. The sun beating down upon my head, filling my whole body with warmth…the fresh air pouring into my lungs and over my skin. Ah, it makes me wonder why I spend so much time inside, on the computer. 🙄

Some friends have gone for a long overdue holiday to the country. I am so happy for them and hope they have a time of rest, rejuvenation, relaxation and refreshment but, inside I’m a little green. :mrgreen:

Whenever we move house or interstate I go without the computer, our tv viewing is limited and we are simply together more, as a family. We don’t have a phone, other than the mobile for necessities. I love it. Even the children don’t mind, although one likes to have their MP3 player glued to their ear. 🙄 Often, after time away from the computer, I am in no hurry to get back to it. I don’t really want to visit the forums or email groups again. Oh, I’ve missed people and catching up with friends but the things I’ve gained simply are simply precious. Ah, to be a self controlled person who doesn’t struggle with addictions and can use all things in moderation.

It’s times like these that I become terribly aware of the constant and almost silent hum of everything electronic. My laptop is quiet but it still hums.The TV reverberates with its drone, the music from the tv or the stereo or the MP3 player or the light of the microwave oven, the phone beeping at every text message, even the lights seem to hum with noise.

Silence is more musical than any song.

~Christina Rossetti

When we’ve been away, my senses and my heart are more tuned in to people, to family, to friends, to God. It is my prayer and hope that my friends will experience all this and more…but it is also my desire to change things in my life so that I can experience this daily, amidst the busyness and noisiness of daily life. To take the phone of the hook, turn the computers, tv, radio and lights off and head to my bedroom for true peace and quiet as I hear from God and spend time in His presence. I’d love to be able to go away for a holiday but at this time, it isn’t possible. Our next holiday will be at Christmas time when we head home to South Australia to see family and possibly to Tasmania for the National Softball tournament- it won’t be a time to pull away from everything electronic and really rest.

What about when there is a storm and a blackout? Oooh, my children get all excited and run around…for a little while. Then they start to realise how much they rely upon electricity. Me? i love it! It gives me the excuse to be quiet and rest. But why don’t I do that more often? Why do I need a holiday or a blackout to do that? Hmmm. In the meantime I do what I can but I’d love to hear your comments. So inspire me, motivate me, give me tips and ideas for how to eliminate electronic hustle and bustle while living in a family that loves electronic gadgets and technology.

❓ What about you? Does electronic noise bother you? How do you deal with it?

Crowns of Fire and other Aussie Nature Study Resources

Crowns of Fire is a rich, literary story of the Australian bush, originally written by Amy Mack (and I love her work) and it has been adapted by Michelle Morrow of Down Under Literature. The illustrations, by fellow Australian Cath Chegwidden, are just stunning! This book would be a timely addition to any homeschool library as it talks about the effects of drought and bushfire.

This 29 page hardcover book is available from Down Under Literature, who also publish and supply the fantastic Wonderland of Nature by Nuri Mass. But wait, there’s more! In addition to the Wonderland of Nature is a ‘must-have’ companion book: The Wonderland of Nature Journal CD which has three sections: How to Nature Journal, Discovery Sheets (excellent!) and Web Links.

For all things Aussie, and Nature, and Grammar, and Copy Work, check Down Under Literature for pricing details and generous samples. Tell them Susan said hi. 🙂

Parent to Parent Chat on ADHD ebook

I’ve just had the opportunity to read an ebook A Parent to Parent Chat on ADHD – The Book I Wish I Had by: Theresa Lode

Theresa (an online friend of mine and real funny lady) shares a little of their own personal journey as well as gives some down to earth and practical tips that she has learned along the way. This book is not for those wanting an official report on ADD or ADHD. Rather it is for the parent who wants to understand the condition a little more and gain real life ways to help the family flourish.

Theresa is a home educating mother but her ebook will not heap condemnation upon you if you don’t homeschool. Theresa writes in her humorous, bright and sparky way that will give you a chuckle as well as give you information and creative ideas.

The chapters are: The Gift that is ADHD, Getting a Diagnosis, Picking Your Health Care Team, The Heredity Link, Co-Morbid Conditions, Sensory Inte-WHAT?, To Medicate ? or Not, What We Decided to Do,
Diets and Supplements, Neurofeedback, Lifestyle, Dealing with Behaviors, Learning Styles, The Brilliance of ADHD, Education Options, What is Education Anyway?, Parent Stress, and You are the Expert.

For the low price of $24.95US this 26 page, honest and real look at parenting a child with ADHD can be delivered straight to your computer!

Visit the website today to look at a sample chapter and see what others are saying.
http://www.theartofaccounting.com/motherlodepublishing/

You might also like to visit Theresa’s blog at: http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Theresa/

Cleaning Up My Internet Habits

Moreover, as they go about from house to house, they learn to be idlers, and not only idlers, but gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not say and talking of things they should not mention.
1 Timothy 5:13

Many years ago, I read an article that convicted me of the sin of ‘needing to know‘. But you know what? Just because God taught me some things about that then, does not mean that I now have all my ducks in a row and that I don’t struggle in this area anymore. I do.

And something happened this week to show me how things get mucked up when I try to operate in my own strength and do things on my own.

I have a confession to make. I have been lurking around places, (read: forums, blogs, etc) simply to know what is going on. I have not been contributing to them, I just want to know. I have again been convicted that this isn’t any better than the woman that Paul describes as wandering about the neighbourhood, dropping in to say hello and finding out the latest goss. [ouch]

Its time for a cleanup- of my heart, mind and websites I am on. If I am not involved in some way with a person or site or blog (by praying for them or commenting them) or if I’m not serving them by responding to queries then maybe I ought not be there. I need to ask myself: Why am I here visiting this site? Is it to serve, to be edified, informed, to pray? If not, then I need not be there.

Lord, I am sorry. Teach me to keep myself busy with my tasks here at home instead of wandering ‘around’ getting into everyone else’s business. Forgive me for straying from your ways and set my feet upon the right path again Lord. Help me to guard my heart and mind, that in all things I give glory to You.

Nurturing Ourselves is Vital

It’s about that time of the year when the pages of the calendar are flipping over quickly which, for the homeschool mother, often means praying, thinking, stressing, researching and considering options for the upcoming year. Many people start planning for Christmas or vacation trips or entertaining plans and somewhere in it all, a mother’s heart can start to feel overwhelmed or even dry up.

Sometimes as mothers, we can feel like we’re pulled and pushed in every direction…others feel like butter that’s been spread over too much toast. Sometimes it is just all part of life so we soldier on, but if this happens to often then it can lead into being part of a negative or destructive cycle.

If you are in the homeschooling journey for the long haul- if this is a marathon and not a sprint, you will need to find ways to feed your own heart and mind. By feeding our heart and mind I’m talking about continuing to learn, to be stimulated, to serve, to be nourished in body, mind and soul. Bible reading and resting in God is a must! Our cup can overflow with the abundant love and grace of God, but we still need to exercise our physical body occasionally. So, we need to consider ways to cultivate our souls.

“Mothers should cultivate their souls, that in turn they may cultivate the souls of their children.”

~Billy Graham

The things I’m talking about need not be expensive- expensive doesn’t mean better! The key is however, finding some things that make you feel energetic…things that put a spring in your step…put a smile on your dial…something that makes you want to get up in the morning…something that stimulates your mind or body… For some it is volunteer work, a craft hobby like scapbooking or quilting, others find that gardening or cooking invigorates them. Some ladies love to decorate and paint stencils along their walls while others might like to pop out into the shed and build something for the home. There isn’t one right thing that suits everyone. But, the difficulty that a lot of homeschoolers mother face is how and when to fit it into their already busy or harried schedule. Please share how you fit your ‘Sanity Saver’ time into your family routine.

I used to love playing and coaching softball. I couldn’t wait for trainings. I also love entertaining and having visitors. I love watching good movies. I like watching Sci Fi with my hubby (sci-Fi can be intellectually stimulating) I like taking the children to the pool- they swim; I read a good book. I like to write. I may not be very good at it but there really is something to be said for the processing that goes on when one attempts to convey their thoughts, dreams and ideas via the written word. I like to serving others and help them. I find this invigorates me. I just have to share what I did that has truly nurtured my heart. I bought myself the Paul Potts CD. I have never been a real fan of opera but honestly, this talented fellow is making me do a complete turn around in my attitude. I bought the cd, popped it into my computer and just soaked it up- I was so refreshed and moved by it. Opera and jazz are not amongst my favourites genres of music and if anyone else feels similar or is wondering how to introduce opera to the children, pop out and buy the Paul Potts CD, called One Chance. You can hear some samples here, but they don’t do the CD, or his voice, justice.

  • Cindy Rushton has a lit of ideas on her site that you must check out!

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Matthew 11:28 -30

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me?watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Let’s encourage each other and share ways to cultivate our souls and nourish our hearts, bodies and minds while serving our families. I’d love to hear from you!

Super Simple Spiritual Sunday

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Yes, it’s Super Simple Spiritual Sunday again. I love this meme as I get to share the blogs that have spiritually blessed, informed or edified me this past week.

1. Cindy Rushton writes on Battling the Big D: Depression.
2. Not My List, But Yours Be Done
3. A Proverbs 31 Woman is what Robin shares on HOW.
4. Nancy Wilson shares some wisdom on Idle Chatter
5. Voice of Vision writes on how the gospel affects all of our life in “Let’s Do Lunch
6. A timely article worth reading right to the end, including the comments is Experience/Relationship or Academic? at Catch the Fire ministries. Timely, as Australians are bombarded with propaganda as we are propelled toward an election. (not saying I agree with everything it presents but it is good food for thought)
7. Perspective: The Invisible Woman – As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we’re doing it right. Go read this- it’s good.

Identity Directed Approach

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After viewing my profile, a reader sent me an email with the question, “What is an Identity Directed Approach” so I thought it was about time I tried to put my scattered thoughts into a more coherent form.

Identity Directed home-based learning goes hand in hand with a Bible Based, Christ Centred approach. It simply means to teach the child with a view to his/her God given strengths, weaknesses, interest, passions, and talents… their natural bents.

Recognise God’s Call

Firstly, it’s important to recognise that God has put you, the parent, as the responsible authority in the lives of your children. Remember also that when God calls, He also enables! If God has a plan and a purpose for you as well as your child (and He does!), the best way to find out about that plan is to learn more about Him and His ways. Look at Isaiah 55:8-11

Prayer

Pray! It almost goes without saying yet it’s often the most neglected facet of homeschooling. Acknowledge your weakness and lean on His strength and His ways. Yes, it is a walk of faith. For great information on homeschooling in faith I recommend Robin’s article at Heart of Wisdom. As I have looked to God, more and more He has taken care of all our homeschool needs. In other words, the less I have planned and struggled, the more He has been in control and provided for us.

Resting in Him

Listening is so important. We need to listen more to God. Once we’ve asked for His help and direction, we need to stop and listen so that we may hear.

Recognising and Identifying

We need to watch and observe. We will often sense the prompting of the Holy Spirit (and gain help and direction) just by watching and observing our children. But one caution; recognising the individual make-up of each child and who he/she was created to be is an ongoing process. We need to understand that we will become students; students who study our children!

It’s important to spend time identifying the following in each child:

  • Strengths and natural ability and aptitude, also called talents
  • Weaknesses
  • Interests; what sparks their curiosity or desire to know more
  • Their passions (things they would do if left to their own devices)

Once these things have been identified, pray and ask God to help you as you devise a plan to develop their strengths and to build up their weaknesses.

Balanced education

Identity Directed education is not child-led. It does not mean that the whim and fancy of each child is indulged. It doesn’t mean only doing what the child is good at and ignoring everything else. While it is part of Delight Directed education, it isn’t only about following delights. An athlete must train the whole body. It would be detrimental to their being to only train the areas of the body that they use most in their sport. A softball pitcher must have strong core muscles, upper body and leg muscles but they risk severe injury if these are the only areas they develop. They must also develop agility and speed, combined with power and explosiveness. They are required to use the muscle which allows them to pitch underarm yet if they don’t develop the muscles that allow them to throw over arm, they risk injury. Athletes use their whole body in a natural way and they never isolate a single muscle group or joint in the competition. In training yes, in order to develop the area but, only with an aim of building a strong whole body, fit for competition. Training with balance in strengths and weaknesses is the key! Just as an athlete has a training routine, so must the education of a child have structure and routine. These things are [natural, God ordained] biblical principles just as day turns to night and autumn comes after summer.

An individual’s strengths and weaknesses and interests are part of their God given make up! By identifying and encouraging their natural bents you will be launching them toward their purpose. Most of all, train in the ways of God and in wisdom!

Wisdom’s way of learning is about seeking God for His plan for our family.

Starting Out

Well, after you have recognised your God given responsibility, and prayed for wisdom, guidance and direction you will have been observing your children closely while leaning on God. So what comes next?

Mapping out a plan – start with the end in mind.

  • What are some skills that you want your strong, capable child to be have as an adult?
  • What are the attitudes, character traits and information/knowledge that you want your children to have as adults?
  • What are your educational, moral, spiritual personal, ethical, goals for my family?
  • What direction has God shown you regarding you and your family’s ministry in His Kingdom?
  • Do your aims line up with the Bible?

Each response to these points should look different based upon the personal convictions, values and calling of each family. (However, all should line up with #5 Do your aims line up with the Bible?)

Many people realise the immense benefit of home education but sometimes it isn’t until later on that parents come to see that homeschooling is more than academics… that it is a natural extension of God’s purpose for the family. This brings us to another set of points worth pondering:

  • What is ‘family’?
  • What things are important to us, as a family?
  • What abilities and interests and concerns has the Lord given to us, as a family?

The response to these points will also vary greatly. This is an interesting exercise to do with your spouse as it can help you identify your family’s unique purpose.

After identifying your family’s goals and purpose you should be able to see what is most important and worth your time. Is it academics? Skills? Information or knowledge? Or relationships? Our family has a priority list of relationships (with God, others and self) first, then skills and then knowledge. One of our highest priority areas is to grow in wisdom, which only comes from God and falls under the category of ‘relationships’.

“Academic education, as we know, should not be life’s goal for the Christian, rather, the goal should be discipleship to Jesus Christ.”

Marilyn Howshall ‘Wisdom’s Way of Learning

I’d like to encourage you to recognise God’s call, seek Him for direction, rest in Him yet all the while listening and observing. Put fine, rich books and ideas before your children. Watch for a spark and allow them to dig further. You will see the learning.

If you have any questions or would like me to clarify anything, please leave a comment or send an email.

Some recommended reading if this topic is of interest:

Addendum to Diary Day

After my past Diary Day post, Leonie commented that I seemed to do a lot of reading aloud. Yes, I did…On That Day! 😀

Monday’s are usually my heaviest read aloud day…but I’d like to share what happened yesterday, just in case anyone was under the false impression that I have everything all together.

After getting John off to work, I immediately jumped into the car to take ‘Miss A’ to work for a 7.30am start. I came home, supervised a few chores, cleaned the bathrooms and jumped in the car to take ‘Miss R’ to school. Home by 8.45am and at 9.30am a tradesman arrived to install blinds in the bathrooms, toilet, laundry, kitchen and dining rooms. Yay, we finally have some privacy. He ended up being here for 2 1/2 hours!!! During this time, I have to be available as he might need to ask a question plus he he roaming around my house. The boys went on with all their individual lessons.

We popped out to the shops, before picking Rebakh up from school. I was at the checkout, having put all the groceries through when I realised that I didn’t have my keycard. ‘Miss A’ had it from the night before!!! So, I ask the shop to hold my goods in the fridge. We run to the car and pick ‘Miss R’ up. We get home, she gets changed and we’re back into the car to take her to work. Thank the Lord that both girls work at the same place! ‘Miss R’ and ‘Miss A’ swap shifts and I get my card back. We zoom back to the shop, which is 10kms away, passing John (DH) along the way. We pick up the groceries and head home where I have 15min to catch up with my husband before ‘Miss A’ and I head out the door again to go to softball. Ugh, traffic was shocking. Took us 15min just to get over the Gateway Bridge. The traffic report said traffic was slowed to 60kmp/h on the bridge but we were only inching our way over it. John had to pick ‘Miss R’ up at 6pm.

Whew, we’re at training and I sat in the car and read and spend some much needed time with the Lord. We amble home to find that everyone has had CatchWhatYaCan for tea. Ugh, this means they tend to catch what they can but not clean up after themselves. Oh well, I’ll face the mess in the morning.

How much reading aloud did I do yesterday? NONE!!!!!

So if anyone got the guilts after reading my Diary Day post, I hope you feel better now. 😀 Each family is different and has their own uniqueness. Praise God!

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There are now countless websites and blogs devoted to the teaching and philosophy of Charlotte Mason. Back in 200, when this article was first written, I intended for this to be brief. Considering the amount of information now available, this is now ridiculously brief. Rather than attempt to rewrite the article I’ll simply post some links to good websites.

So Can We Sum Up The Methods Briefly?

We are leading the children to self-education. The reading of the best books facilitates this. Instead of comprehension questions and workbooks, narration is used. Narration is a natural yet extremely powerful tool that we can use in all areas of learning. Very simply, it is the telling back of what they have read or of what has been a read-aloud. Through narration, we can also see what the child does know, not what the child does not know. Whilst narration can be easy, natural and free it is also a complex process of which is very valuable and important in later years.

There is a strong emphasis on “living books“. (A living book is the opposite of a textbook and workbook) Texts and encyclopedias are good and contain much valuable information, however they are only facts. Dry facts. Living books allow the readers to become a part of the book, enabling them to understand the story, time custom etc. more clearly. They are well written and what Charlotte Mason would say are “clothed in literary language“. Living books do not talk down to a child’s level or leave out odd and interesting vocabulary.

Short lessons, which take place in the morning, keep children stimulated and focussed.

Copywork begins with careful penmanship, learning to make the letters and numbers correctly, producing a few perfect examples rather than a page of work that becomes sloppy. Once the letters are learned, then simple words, then sentences, paragraphs, and so on can be done, according to the age and ability of the student.

Charlotte Mason strongly emphasised the formation of Habits. She wrote, “the habits of the child produce the character of the man . . .every day, every hour, the parents are either passively or actively forming those habits in their children upon which, more than upon anything else, future character and conduct depend.” Many, who have read Charlotte Mason’s Six Volume Series agree that one of her favorite analogies with regard to habits is that they are similar to tracks for a train. The same way that it is easier for the train to stay on the tracks than to leave them, so it is for the child to follow lines of habit carefully laid down than to run off these lines. Because habits are so powerful, she tried to emphasize to parents that it is our responsibility to lay down these tracks. Charlotte Mason considered habit a delight in itself, and the training in habits becomes a habit for the mother. The choice is ours, as Charlotte put it, “The mother who takes pains to endow her children with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days; while she who lets their habits take care of themselves has a weary life of endless friction with the children.”

I hope I have assisted you in becoming more familiar with the woman, Charlotte Mason and the methods that she espoused.

Recommended reading
“For The Children’s Sake” by Susan Schaeffer Mcaulay
“A Charlotte Mason Education” A how-to manual. By Catherine Levinson
“A Charlotte Mason Companion” by Karen Andreola
“Charlotte Mason Study Guide ” by Penny Gardner
“Charlotte Mason’s Original Homeschooling Series” by Charlotte Mason (six volume series)

Charlotte Mason series:
Part One: the woman and the philosophy,
Part Two (methods in brief),
Part Three (subject covered)

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WHAT SUBJECTS ARE COVERED USING THIS METHOD?

Primary Curriculum

Bible, Literature, History, Science, Language, Spelling, Independent Reading, Composition, Poetry, Handwriting, Math, Foreign Language, Art Appreciation, Music Appreciation, Geography, and Handicrafts.

High School Curriculum

Add to the Primary curriculum:
Geometry Science Botany, Entomology, Geology, Physiology, Languages, Morals & Ethics, Astronomy, Algebra & Economics.

Add to that those everyday lessons that homeschoolers teach and you have a full inexpensive curriculum of which every member of the family can benefit and learn from.

Charlotte Mason series:
Part One: the woman and the philosophy,
Part Two (methods in brief),
Part Three (subject covered)

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Charlotte Mason Methods

originally written in 2000

Charlotte Mason’s philosophy of education is becoming more popular as people realize what a simple, yet profound, method it is. Still, many home educators have never been introduced to Charlotte Mason’s ideas.

Who was Charlotte Mason? When did she live?
masonCharlotte Mason was born in England in 1842. Her parents mainly educated her while at home. She was orphaned at the age of sixteen. Miss Mason was an innovative educator who developed a unique approach to education. She believed that all children should have access to a broad, liberal education and to be allowed to reach their full potential. She started a teacher’s training college and many parents who educated their children at home flocked to her ideas. During her life she taught school, was a lecturer at a Teacher Training College, wrote many books and pamphlets, started a training school for governess’ which became Charlotte Mason College, became a popular public lecturer, established the Parents National Education Union (PNEU), and was Editor of it’s magazine, “Parent’s Review”. Charlotte Mason also taught parents, held retreats and classes on building the family. Charlotte Mason believed that all would benefit from a rich education and life. Her philosophy of education is designed for homes, private schools, and homeschools. Charlotte Mason had never claimed to have invented the methods that she put forth, rather she modified and combined them in a practical and intelligent way. Her methods include Narration and copywork, Nature Notebooks, Fine Arts, Languages, a Literature based curriculum instead of textbooks, and real-life applications. Charlotte Mason passed away in 1923 and was and is admired by many people. She was a Christian woman who dearly loved children and education.

What are the benefits of using her approach?
This is true learning. Children’s listening, attention, comprehension, retention, speaking, and writing skills all improve from using narration as a major part of education. It has been called a literature based approach and whilst this is an important aspect of the methods, it is definitely not limited. Most people find that they enjoy their homeschooling so much more since using Charlotte Mason’s methods. It can be inexpensive to use this method of schooling.

All one really needs to purchase is a language/phonics program and a Math book. Most that use this method buy lots of good literature, and in fact, have been known to be avid book collectors. But, you can get all resources from your local library. We enjoy the short lessons, which helps cut down on dawdling. The utilisation of “short lessons” helps prevent dawdling and encourages the student to have a focused attention span and sets good study habits. Families enjoy learning about real people in real places instead of dry, hard, cold facts. Science is a hands-on approach with lots of nature study. Fine literature, good art and music also are studied and enjoyed in this approach.

Another benefit is that each child is free to work at their own pace while still having a sense of achievement. No push to reach a particular *grade* or level. So this approach may be used with intermediate or advance learners or with slow or special needs children.

Charlotte Mason series:
Part One: the woman and the philosophy,
Part Two (methods in brief),
Part Three (subject covered)

Share Your Life With Your Children

Driving in the car…washing dishes…sweeping the floor, preparing a meal…reading a good book…visiting the new neighbour…running errands and paying bills.What do these have in common? These are a few things that I have had opportunity to do this week…to do with my children. And it is through these tasks and delights that I have opportunity to share the good news of God with them.

One of my favourite verses in God’s word is Deuteronomy, chapter 6. I particularly like Chapter 6: but that’s only because of the surrounding verses. The writer of these verses is Moses.

Moses went to Egypt and led the Israelites out of Egypt. They wandered around in the wilderness for 40 years. So close yet so far away from the Promised Land. During all this time the people of Israel had fallen away form the Lord and the teachings of Moses. Moses goes to Mt. Sinai and receives the Commandments from God. I often need to remember why the Law was given. It was given to reveal divine holiness!It showed who God is… His standards of righteousness. When I look at the commandments I can see how far short I have fallen…and how I can never attain adherence to them of myself.

I was intrigued to learn that it took the Israelites about 40 hours to get out of Egypt but it took 40 years for the Israelites to find the promised land- or as I’ve heard is said somewhere before, “It took 40 years to get Egypt out of Israel.” However, the other interesting point is that Moses didn’t get to enter the promised land. Only two of the Israelites who were taken out of Egypt got to enter it and they were Joshua and ‘Master C’ . Al the others had died and there was a new generation.

Just before his death, before the entrance to the promised land, Moses gave a final word of admonition and exhortation or additional instruction. (Interestingly, Jesus also quotes this verse) Moses was their leader. He helped them to live godly lives amongst heathen nations. As THE Word was taught to us, so we must teach it to our children.
God knows that our teachings, lives and beliefs can influence future generations. He wants us to think this way. How many generations can you see in the verses? Three! That means me, my children and my grandchildren!

I’ve heard many people say that they wish there was a handbook or guidebook for this whole parenting caper. But there is!!!!! It is the Bible!

So, what are we to pass down to the generations- to our children. Head knowledge? Well, I believe it can start there but it must be more than that. It must be in our lives. The word must change us. Along with a knowledge of God we must also have a fear of the lord – a love. Otherwise, all we have is religion. I wasn’t raised a Christian although my mother converted before I came to know the Lord so I say that my mother is the first generation Christian. It began with her 🙂 She started to live out her life in God in front of me…and I picked up on that passion. I think that a possible danger for me is that I may become complacent in the living out of my faith and thus my children will become that way or even acknowledge God’s commands but not live in the fear or love of the Lord. Oh Lord, create in me a clean heart…keep my heart drawn to you.

I often ask myself if I am really excited about what God is doing in my life or has done for me? Do I share my walk with them? How are they to ‘catch’ my passion if I don’t share it with them?

Living, loving and learning together…that’s our family!

Structure or Routine?

And everything, whatever ye may do in word or in deed, do all things in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father by him.
Col 3:17

There are scheduled times that I clean the house, mop and vacuum the floors and other jobs that need doing on a regular basis. However, if these were to be the only times that I cleaned or tidied, my house would be near uninhabitable! I’ve learned that while it is good and necessary to have these cleaning times, if I don’t tidy or pick things up at other times the scheduled cleaning time is staring at me like Mt. Kosciusko!

We’ve developed a motto from a book that I read, of which I cannot remember the title or author. This motto is something that I repeat several times a week, in a sweet voice and slowly, the children are beginning to get the idea.

“Always try to leave a room in a better way than you found it.”

It might be that I rearrange the pillows in the lounge-room or put the TV guide back where it belongs. It might be cleaning the kitchen cupboard door fronts while I have the sponge in my hand, rather than wait until Monday- my cleaning day. Whatever it is that I do, it all makes tackling Mt. Kosciusko on the cleaning days that little bit more achievable and less daunting.

My homeschooling efforts used to be a little the same: I felt like the task was of mammoth proportion! To only fit all of ones academia into certain hours is daunting! But since I’ve come to see that academics and education is much like my housecleaning routine it is so much more achievable. Here a little, there a little… Sure, we have set scheduled times where we focus on an area (like we do with housework) but it was when I saw that it is more about cultivating a lifestyle that more learning could actually take place! Here a little, there a little…

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatever ye do, do all things to God’s glory.
1Cor 10:31

The other thing I have noticed about myself is motivation. I enjoy having visitors as it requires me to do a certain amount of cleaning. Years ago, I used to use visitors as a motivation for cleaning the house! I don’t need that anymore, thankfully. It’s good to not be motivated by fear. However, I wondered about my motivation for my children’s education: why did I want them to read this book and that book? Why was it important to me that they have done this, that and the other? Was it again, similar to my housework in that a fear of some kind was my motivation? As I was able to release these concerns and fears to God, I started to live in freedom. Which I then took, as one often does when on a learning curve, to the extreme. Over time and circumstance, God brought me to a place of healing and restoration in the area of “education”, I can now set about my day and goal with a clearer motivation…one that is not based on fear.

~ What if my child doesn’t know everything he/she needs to?
~ What about the other children his/her age? They can all spell,write, do trigonometry, etc.
~ What will my neighbour/friend/Ed.Dept. think about my child not learning a foreign language?
~ Accck, do they need a foreign language?

Sure, all these things are concerns and ones that may need to be considered but the point isn’t the concerns themselves rather the motivation behind them.

Lord, help me to truly understand my imperfection and to know that I have not attained nor will not attain here on earth the state of perfection that I so often seem to desire. If the apostle Paul had not attained perfection on earth, then I know that I won’t either. Help me Lord to press on, toward the goal, to actively pursue your grace through Christ- not in and of myself – but knowing that Jesus has taken hold of me. Help me to keep my eyes upon heaven and your kingdom… that everything I do be for your glory.

but one thing–forgetting the things behind, and stretching out to the things before, I pursue, looking towards the goal, for the prize of the calling on high of God in Christ Jesus.
Phillipians 3:13-14

Living, loving and learning together…that’s our family!

Lifestyle of Learning

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One of the first and most profound statements that I had ever read was the one by William Butler Yeats, “Education is not the filling of pail, rather the lighting of a fire.”This has been a cornerstone of our home and family along with the Scripture of Duet 6: 4-9.

I guess if I had to label the how of our home/family, I would say it is loosely based on a ‘discipleship method’ or a “Bible-Centred, Eclectic, Discipleship Based, Spirit-Led, Identity-Directed, Relational, Literature Based Learners-at-home” approach. This approach (for want of a better term) can look a lot like natural learning but in our home, has a few differences. It isn’t focused upon academics- it is spiritual and real life based; and after that comes academics. It is only after sitting with John and praying and talking about our goals or aims for our children that we have come back to this. I believe that if we have a goal then this goal will influence the how and what we do with our children. Our aim is to have children who love and reverence the Lord and abide in Him. We believe that knowledge just for the sake of knowledge puffs up and fills us with pride if not done/learned with humility and a goal of serving the Lord. The main way we try to achieve this is not on content or *what-to-teach-when* rather a focus is relationships- relationships with parents, siblings, others and God.

To me, this approach is a lot larger than simply not using workbooks or a scope and sequence. It is looking at the child’s uniqueness- his gifts and interests and trying to develop other skills from this- or using this interest as central to his development. This doesn’t mean that my children just run amok each day but it does mean that no two days look the same (although at this stage the boys do look similar).

I’m still trying to find a balance between exposing the children to things that they don’t have a natural bent for without overloading myself or tying myself to a schedule of MUST DO THIS or MUST DO THAT . Eg: Fine Arts is not something that ‘Miss A’ takes a lot of delight in but I still try to encourage an appreciation for this in her life. Listening to different forms of music, view different works of art, etc can all be used to gently enhance my family and my home but do I need to turn it into a lesson? A subject? Maybe for one child that is appropriate because of her interests and gifts (be it even wooden watches) but does the other NEED to study that? These are things that John and I have worked through and are now happy to be at a place where we can answer these questions for our own family.

This approach, for us, also means that I strive to *keep their hearts* turned toward John and I and the family. This takes time and work. I also believe that true natural learning takes a lot of work by the parents. It isn’t just a matter of letting the kids run amok and see what they learn- it is more about putting things before the children and also praying for wisdom in discovering their interests and then developing their basic skills in and around those interests.
This form of learning allows the children to pursue their own (God given) interests with my support and guidance *and* I can be included with them in this! My children are surrounded by books (lots of ’em), good TV programs and other learning resources but mainly, (and I think this is a big key) and hopefully they will see my example of loving to learn, to study. This fits in with our goal of keeping the children’s hearts as I am actively involved in their course of learning. Another benefit is that their learning isn’t as ‘artificial’ as it has been. It hasn’t necessarily been spoon-fed to them- they have dug a lot of information out for themselves.

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An example of modeling learning – this is part of the naturalness of learning at home. Our children can memorise Scripture and colour in Bible pictures galore but if they don’t see us living and breathing that Truth, then what do they really learn? This doesn’t mean that we don’t use workbooks but that within the use of books, our focus is now different. Our focus is not upon WHAT we want to achieve or how much we want to read but that we view our more formal learning times as training- training the hearts of the children amidst some English, history or science lessons. (The real interesting thing is that we have shared this with the children and they understand this. Now, instead of just trying to plow through the work or books, they recognize the need for me to stop and address an attitude or behaviour. ) Anyway, it wasn’t until I could let go of ‘my‘ ideas of what we should cover and when (otherwise called a scope and sequence) that I was able to look at other ways. I never used anyone else’s S&S but nevertheless there was one: it was my own rigid but ‘original’ plan of what I wanted to do. I wasn’t homeschooling in liberty or freedom but I was in bondage- to my own plans! Rewinding my thoughts back to 6 years ago, I now see again that the ‘process of learning‘ is more important than the ‘what’ or ‘how much’ we are learning. How much of this learning is force-fed? Artificial? How much am I simply trying to fill the bucket? Is my child remotely interested in this subject or am I forcing her to do it? I think that there is a difference between becoming literate and loving to learn.

I’ve also learned (and am still learning) that this type of learning is more natural… (naturally) 😉 – we see it all the time. Students in school take the morning off to have a visit to the Fire Dept and learn about firemen and our students and learn this in the course of a trip to the supermarket when they see a fire truck on its way to a fire and we have a discussion about it. This is natural and we can accept this but we tend to draw the line with other areas. Why? I’m not saying we should or shouldn’t draw the line but it’s a good thing to ask ourselves eh? Why do we draw this line? Is it based on fear? Or a desire for academic excellence? What motivates us or drives us to feel the way we do?

When we understand that no one else will teach our children the wonderful things in the world, we realise that we have to make the most of our time. This is often best achieved as things arise naturally. When you are out in the garden and your little boy asks a zillion questions about a spider that has piqued his interest, you don’t say, “Oh, not now honey…that will come up in your science book so don’t worry about it for now.” Rather we seize the opportunity and make the most of it, explaining (or trying to) the answers to his questions. Maybe you don’t know the answer. That’s okay too especially if you answer with, “Hey honey, I’m not too sure on that one myself. What a great question. But let’s look that up in a book when we go back in the house, okay?” Through this you are modeling a lifestyle of learning…you are showing your child that even adults like to learn.

I believe that this natural approach to learning is good but I also don’t think that it is a formula. Well maybe it is touted as such but I don’t think that it should be. As homeschoolers, we are prone to latching on to formulas hoping that it will give us success. (In whatever we deem as successful). Combining the principles of natural learning and the discipleship approach (Deut 6) can be purposeful, beneficial and have its own structure or routine of learning. It need not be the random, haphazard look that often scares people away.

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I too, sometimes use labels and like many, recognize the small scope that labels allow for. I think that sometimes natural learning is almost a dirty word in some circles and I think this is a shame. It’s hard not to use labels when trying to communicate to a wide variety of people, especially when one is trying to get a whole viewpoint across in as few words as possible-and to an extent labels can help us achieve that.

Living, loving and learning together…that’s our family!

Super Simple Spiritual Sunday

I have not been one to get overly involved with many online meme’s but I’m really enjoying Robin’s Super Simple Spiritual Sunday meme. Tehee, it’s a chance for me to rave on about all the truth-filled, beautiful, inspiring and informing posts I’ve read during the week. 😀

Last week I included two links that posted about blogging addiction and blogging motivation that I thought were good. If you read them, you’ll also want to read Robin’s post which I’ll link below.

(By the way, all outside links will open in a new tab. Links within my own site will open in this tab. Of course, this only applies with FireFox, SeaMonkey or Opera. Who knows what will happen in IE. 😉 )
1. Robin from Heart of Wisdom posted her thoughts on Blogging Addictions? Blogging Balance?
2. Sally Clarkson wrote on Cultivating Civility
3. Sherri writes on getting back into the home.
4. Fish and Cans writes a thoughtful post on ‘Purge the evil person from among you
5. Robin at HOW writes about a Classical Education.
6. Marianne Miles writes a truthful post that we can all learn from with When Christians Abandon Their Own
7. Dana writes on Beautiful without makeup!

And a few more because I didn’t blog last Sunday:

Bible Study Scope and Sequence

HomeGrownKids Scope & Sequence
Our scope and sequence is a similar pattern to what we follow for history. (internal blog link) It is closely linked with my understanding of the Stages of Learning, which you can view here.

Birth to age 9 ( birth -G4)
>> If you have older children that are following the same sequence, it is easy to add simple but beautiful picture books into the junior schedule. Even better if the older children read it and discuss it with the youngers!>> Songs and memory work are of great benefit during this stage. (Colin Buchanan is a classic!!) We also go through the book, Training Hearts Teaching Minds: Family Devotions Based on the Shorter Catechism by Starr Meade.>> We go through the Old Testament – using a children’s Bible such as:

  • Day by Day Kids Bible.
  • Beginner’s Bible-NIrV ISBN: 0310926378
  • Family-Time Bible ISBN: 0842365761
  • Egermeier’s Bible Story Book ISBN: 0871622297
  • The Childs Story Bible by C. Voss

Devotional type of reading: Books like;

  • Little Visits with Jesus ISBN: 0570058074 might come in handy.
  • Little Visits with God ISBN: 0570058090

A few links(more to come)
http://gardenofpraise.com/bibleles.htm
Age 10-13 or (G5 – G8)
>> Review the same chronological cycle, if desired, but in greater depth. Pay attention to biographical stories and Christian fiction.
>> This is the time to develop or use a Bible timeline.
>> Songs and memory work are of great benefit during this stage. We also go through the book, Training Hearts Teaching Minds: Family Devotions Based on the Shorter Catechism by Starr Meade.

Bible reading:

    • Archeological Study Bible
    • Greenleaf Guide to the Old Testament

Studies:

    • How the Bible Came to Us by Meryle Dooney
    • Genesis, Finding Our Roots by Ruth Beechick

Books:

  • Ben Hur
  • The Bronze Bow
  • Adam and His Kin: The Lost History of Their Lives and Times
  • Discover Jesus in Genesis: An Illustrated Biblical Theology for All Ages
  • God King – A Story in the Days of King Hezekiah by Joanne Williamson Timeline: 700 B.C., Egypt/Judea
  • Hittite Warrior by Joanne Williamson Timeline: 1200 B.C., Judea
  • Victory on the Walls- A Story of Nehemiah by Frieda Clark Hyman Timeline: 445 B.C., Israel
  • Jotham’s Journey A Storybook for Advent By Arnold Ytreeide as well as Tabitha’s Travels and Bartholemew’s Passage
  • The Great Dinosaur Mystery and the Bible
  • Life in the Great Ice Age and others like this
  • Twice Freed by Patricia St John
  • Runaway and others by Patricia St John
  • Lots of Bethlehem books

Age 14 through 17-18 or (G9 – 12)
>> Time to tie things all together using a chronological and narrative approach.
>> Doing a survey of the Old and New Testaments is good, as is doing a study on the Life of the Messiah.
>> Consider biographies, historical fiction and unabridged Bible readings.
>> Pay particular attention to discussing thoughts and ideas, updating the time-line or Book of Centuries.
>> Tie all studies in with a Book of Centuries (Timeline), good living books, and a Bible Encyclopedia and other study tools.
>> You may also consider learning a little about Church history as the students get older. Biographies are great for this, and there are too many good books for me to even begin to mention.

Bibles:

  • Narrated Bible in Chronological Order – Chronological accuracy, easy-to-read format. Includes: Moses’ laws by subject; Proverbs presented topically; Psalms arranged by sentiment; Paul’s teachings integrated into Acts.
  • Archeological Study Bible
  • Serendipity Bible for Study Groups

Studies:

  • How to Read the Bible for All its Worth
  • Wisdom Unit Study
  • Messiah Unit
  • Learn the Bible in 24 Hours by Chuck Missler (Literary narrative style. Great read aloud for older students)
  • 30 Days to Understanding the Bible by Max Anders (this is more visual than the one by Chuck Missler)
  • For the Layman- Survey of the Old Testament by Kenneth Levy. This survey is a non-denominational, historical overview filled with foundational information every student of the Bible should have. Using a workbook, Ken Levy guides students on a chronological tour through every book of the Old Testament. Students study how the Old Testament was put together, its major divisions, and what makes it unique using the workbook and cassette tapes.
  • For the Layman- Survey of the New Testament by Kenneth Levy. Life and ministry of Jesus, the growth of the early church, the letters of Paul, and more in this workbook with cassette tapes.
  • 100 Most Important Events in Christian History

Tools:

  • Proverbial Wisdom and Common Sense
  • Evidence That Demands a Verdict
  • The Complete Book of Who’s Who in the Bible – provides readers with a complete listing of people in the Bible with descriptions of their lives and accomplishments.
  • Manners and Customs in the Bible.
  • Student Bible Atlas (Here is a great study guide to go with the Holman Bible Atlas.)
  • The Kregel Pictorial Guide to Bible History (and others) ISBN: 0825424623
  • Victor Journey Through the Bible is our favourite
  • The Case for Christ and Case for Easter by Lee Strobel

Books:

  • The Cross and the Switchblade by David Wilkerson
  • A Voice in the Wind by Francine Rivers (good series)
  • Listen to Her Voice: Women of the Hebrew Bible by Miki Raver
  • Vinegar Boy by Alberta Hawse. This is the gripping story of a boy’s dramatic encounter with Christ on the Cross.
  • Lots of Bethlehem books
  • The Priest, The Warrior, and The Prince. Novella’s by Francine Rivers.

Church History resources

Bible Study Guides Bible Study Guide for all ages
Family Bible study!Positive Actions
Teaching a child’s heart and his head. Kindy, Junior High and High School. Teacher Manual and Student Book including memory verses and worksheets. Able to be used twice a week or 4-5 times a week.

Explorer’s Bible Study
Daily lessons from Preschool to Adult level, including activities, questions and maps. Apparently families are able to study the Bible together but using the different books for each level.

Deeper Roots
Has studies from grade 7-12. Inductive study.

Firm Foundations – From Creation to Christ
This curriculum is set up to chronologically teach through the Bible, from Creation to Christ! Extremely thorough.

My students will be completing a Survey of the Old and New Testaments and a great resource is the For the Layman series.

For the Layman: A Survey of the Old Testament and
For the Layman: A Survey of the New Testament

by Ken Levy
These are a set of cassette’s and a workbook where Ken Levy takes you through the Bible. Full of information and ties events and people together!

An excellent study! Study guide for the Holman Bible Atlas! This is a 69-page pdf download file.

Prayer

The Five Finger Prayer

1. Your thumb is nearest to you. So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you. They are the easiest to remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C.S. Lewis once said, a “sweet duty”.

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders. Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators. These people shape our nation and guide public opinion. They need God’s guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is fact that this is our weakest finger; as any piano teacher will testify. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger; the smallest finger of all. Which is where we should place ourselves in relation to God and others. As the Bible says, “the least shall be the greatest among you.” Your pinky should remind you to pray for yourself.

By the time you have prayed for the other four groups, your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.

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ACTS ? Prayer

A is for Adoration.

“Dear Jesus/God, you are so _____”

C is for confession.

Of our sins, wrong thoughts, anger etc

T is for Thanksgiving

For all the things we have- family and needs.

S is for Supplication.

For others – “Help so and so get well,” or Bless Poppy in his bus,”

For yourself – ask for wisdom, good dreams, protection in certain situations.

HOW Bible Lessons with Little Ones

Families who have an older child using a HoW approach seem to find it easier to know what to do with the younger siblings. A few people seem to need further help with instituting a HoW approach with a young family. I wonder if this confusion arises because people are trying to use a HoW unit study without understanding the thoughts that make up the approach. A few other methods have a similar difficulty in that they are foremost a method or an approach. AmblesideOnline is one that I have seen other people struggle with until they understand the *why* of it. Without understanding the principles behind the approach, AO is just another booklist; dry and long. But, when that booklist is combined with the methods espoused by Charlotte Mason, the booklist becomes so much more. It is the method or the principles that are the binding glue. So it is with HoW. The units are great! But, they are only a small part of the greater work. The Heart of Wisdom Teaching Approach is an approach that is based upon biblical principles- it isn’t simply sprinkling a few key Scriptures throughout the pages of a book nor is it reading only Christian books with no regard to methods used in teaching. It is an entire method or approach that can be used from birth through to adulthood. In my own life, I use a HoW approach!


So, onto the daily practicality of using HoW with a young family.
What could such a day look like? Firstly, a principle of the HoW approach is Bible First- regardless of the ages or number of children in the family. You will study the Bible and use Bible study tools relevant to your children?s ages and development level. Then, you can study thematic unit studies, using living books and the Internet. Through this study is where you will develop the little ones language skills and start to focus on building good habits essential for further study: habits like attentiveness and producing one’s best effort, and the art of narration. You’ll need to do some phonics instruction and maths with your child.

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Bible Study using Heart of Wisdom

HOW has been a great launching pad for our family and has put some wonderful ideas before myself and the children. Here I’ll share how we use the unit studies.

 

 

For a few weeks before we start, I look at the books in my shelf and get the appropriate ones out. I put some of the commonly used resources out on the table or desk. In fact, they are always within easy reach and readily available for perusing. eg; ‘Amazing Expedition Bible‘ and ‘Who’s Who in the Bible‘ and a ‘Bible Encyclopedia‘.

Firstly I look at the objectives of each lesson on pages which is in the front of the unit study and I briefly tell the children what we will be focusing on that day. If we don’t do a lesson a day (and we often take more than one day) I use these objectives to go over what we did do the day before ? sort of a revision.

So, I’ll describe lesson one for you;

I will tell the children some things that I’d like them to focus on…to listen for…to consider…In this, I would say something like,
?After this lesson I’d like John and ‘Master C’ to tell me the Creation story. I’d like ‘Miss A’ and ‘Miss R’ to know two Hebrew names for God. I’d like you to think about why God created us or to think about how Creation reveals God. So, you guys think you can do that?

We start by reading the ‘excite passage‘ or a CMish way of putting it is to Prepare the Lesson. Sometimes I will be organised and have the timeline figures ready, other times I won’t and will just quickly do it on pieces of paper. So, after we muck around a bit we will arrange the cards into chronological order.

Then, after we’ve done this, which doesn’t take long, we move on to the next step which is titled ‘Examine‘. I will read straight from the HOW lesson (page 25). I will ask the children if any of them would like to make a mind-map of what I just read. We may or may not read the first 11 chapters of Genesis as we have done this numerous times.

Then, I’ll grab some of the books from the shelf that we have ? Amazing Expedition Bible and Who’s Who in the Bible, the Victor Journey through the Bible and a Bible Encyclopedia. We might look over the relevant pages all together although sometimes I’ll give ‘Miss A’ a book and tell her to look at it for herself. Often, we will look at the Internet links that HoW provides and they can be very good. Many times, while doing this part in HoW, I will pair the children up: ‘Miss A’ will work with ‘Master C’ and ‘Miss R’ will work with John.

Then, I tell the children that I want them to do something with this information. I give them all of the choices in Step 3 (Expand). My artistic child will often go for a hands-on project and in this lesson she chose the mind-mapping activity whereas my dd who likes to write might choose activity 2 ? writing summaries. They will refer to the books we have, although I usually like to find the internet sites for ‘Miss A’ , as she is older and likes to research on the PC.

Now, this is most often where we get stuck or stop! Everyone goes off and does their own thing and it’s hard to get them back. Sometimes, we can move on that very day, but other times it has to wait until the next day when we will move to the next step, (Excel) where I wrap it up. We will review a little by putting our figures or pieces of paper into chronological order or in our timeline book. We aren’t very diligent with our timeline book though.

We often show Dad everything that we’ve done that night or the next night. There is always some time when we get to share or to show what we have been learning.

The thing is we could easily make one lesson spread out for one whole week! But, then I fear, we’d never get out of Genesis. So, I try to move them on a bit- in my own mind allowing 2 days per lesson but I’d like to make it one lesson per day.

We do things a bit different in that we have a separate English program and vocabulary program so while I make mention of new vocabulary words we don’t keep the notebooks like HoW suggests. We ‘ll also have our current read aloud that ties in with the unit. It might be ‘Adam and His Kin‘ by R.Beechick or “The God King” by Joanne Williamson or one of the new books like ‘The Priest‘ by F. Rivers for the older girls.

The thing that I really appreciate is that the objectives are laid out and this enables me to quickly see the point of the lesson, which is especially good if I want to move on at a moderate pace. If I’m happy to go at a snail’s pace and chase bunny trails, then I ignore the objectives. However, the other thing is that it teaches how to Prepare the Lesson. So often I think, this is ignored. Charlotte Mason expected her teachers to Prepare the Lesson yet often in CM circles we aren’t told that, let alone shown how to do it.

The HoW unit studies and teaching approach Prepares the Lesson, Gives the Lesson, Asks for a Response to the lesson and then gets student to Relate that knowledge. How cool is that?

I hope that gives you a little insight into how we use HoW. I also like the philosophy of HoW and the methods of excite, examine, expand and excel. Even when we don’t use HoW units, we use this 4 step method because it is easy for me to remember and to work with. Hebrew roots is also a personal and individual study that I have taken on…not always for my children. The Hebraic roots of our Christian faith is a constant interest of mine – one that I pursue for myself.

Family Worship

“Hear, Yisra’el: the LORD is our God; the LORD is one: and you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might.
These words, which I command you this day, shall be on your heart; and you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up.
You shall bind them for a sign on your hand, and they shall be for symbols between your eyes.
You shall write them on the door-posts of your house, and on your gates.”

Deuteronomy 6: 4-9

From this, it is my understanding that we, as parents are to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness…and then to teach and lead our children in that too.

The Hebrews didn’t separate knowledge into divisions of spiritual and then secular. Rather, they saw that the main aim of education was to train the whole person for service unto God. It is because of this that our family has the aims that it does- that we use the methods that we do.

We aim to do a few things each day. The most important one is to read God’s Word. And to pray- to talk and listen with God. Ultimately, to become hearers AND doers of the Word.

Along with this, we have some other goals for our family although we recognise that these don’t need to be accomplished in one year!

    • Read through the Bible twice.
    • To learn how how to use resource tools-to use study materials such as, concordances, lexicons, and dictionaries.
    • To learn the flow of biblical history and geography.
    • Learn of Proverbs and practical wisdom
    • Learn about the life of Christ and develop a relationship with Him.
    • To learn about the story of God’s kingdom on earth- the history of the church.
    • To learn correct doctrine (teachings).
    • Become hears and doers of the Word!
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Cold Brew Coffee, Butter Blend, Bliss Balls

Cold Brew Coffee. Sounds gross eh? We’re talking about it over on HOMEschool Fellowship and one of the ladies posted a link so I thought I’d try it. Here’s what I did:

Cold Brew Coffee

Coarsely grind about 1/3 cup organic coffee beans and put it in a jar with about 1.5 cups of water

Stir and cap and leave for about 12 hours or so. This makes a concentrate, and from here you can make coffee milkshakes, cappuccino and other things. We’ve just had some, and it is nice! It isn’t bitter or acidic.

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Butter Blend

And I’ve been whipping butter. We use real butter (500grams) and I let it get to room temperature. I put it in the blender along with 4 tablespoons of olive oil and 4 tablespoons of either flaxseed oil or coconut oil. Then, I blend it and put it in a container, ready for use. Not only is this healthy, but it seems to stretch the butter out and make it last longer!

Favourite Fruit Brekky

1 Banana (sliced)
1 Gala Apple (Diced)
2 tablespoons Organic Oats
2 tablespoons Organic Raisins
2 tablespoons pecans OR walnuts
1 teaspoon Organic Honey
Mix above ingredients together and drizzle honey on top. ENJOY!

Banana Pecan Bread

1 1/2 C. bread or plain flour
2/3 C. Sugar
1 t. Baking Powder
1/2 t. Salt
1/3 C. Olive oil or pure butter
2 extra-large eggs, lightly beaten
1/4 C. dairy sour cream
1 t. Vanilla

When beep sounds, add:

2/3 C. Mashed ripe banana
1/3 C. finely chopped pecans or walnuts

Put everything in pan except bananas & nuts. Use “cake” setting. When machine beeps after about 5 minutes, add banana and nuts. Press “start” again. The “complete” light will flash when bread is done. (check on it often after it bakes for 40 minutes.)

Garden Salad

1/2 head red leaf lettuce, torn
1/2 head Romaine lettuce, torn
1/8 cucumber, thinly sliced
1/2 carrot, thinly sliced
1/2 zucchini, thinly sliced
1/2avocado, thinly sliced
1 Roma tomato, in wedges
2 tsp lemon juice
2 Tbsp extra-virgin olive oil

Toss all ingredients. Serve immediately. Makes 1 serving

Bliss Balls

1 cup sunflower seeds
1/2 cup almonds
1/3 cup dates
3-5 tbs. carob powder/pure cocoa
Pinch of nutmeg and/or cinnamon
Small pinch of sea salt

Put the sunflower seeds and almonds in the vitamix to make them into a flour or powder. Then, mix them with the rest of the ingredients.
Get about 1-2 tbs. of the mixture and shape it into a nice round ball. At this point you may roll it in sesame seeds, coconut flakes, or carob powder. Continue this process until all of the mixture is gone. Put the bliss balls into the freezer until ready to eat. Source of protein and keep hungry little bellies happy.

Dehydrator

This is the dehydrator that my husband made for me. It cost approximately $60 and this was only because he used brand new racks and had to buy a light switch and light batons.

I use the dehyrator to make all sorts of things including yoghurt and proving bread.

FAITH ~ Forsaking All, I Take Him ~

My Health Philosophy

Health is an ongoing interest of mine. There are so many areas that affect our health from the air that we breathe, the water we wash in and the food that we eat. I have immersed myself in learning more about food and other choices- they really do make a difference!

It is important for me to keep our family as healthy as possible so that we can do the work that God has planned for us to do. It is my aim to provide a diet and lifestyle that fights disease, promotes health and vitality. At present, I’m focussing on a diet primarily of proteins, whole-grains, fruits and vegetables, legumes, nuts and seeds.

I really like the principles outlined by Rex Russell, author of “What the Bible Says about Healthy Living

1) Eat only substances created for food

2) Eat foods as they were created (or as close to as possible)

3) Don’t let any food or drink become your God.

As I have been learning and practising  ‘health’, the children have been motivated toward caring for their own bodies too! My girls have been very enthusiastic about learning to cook with new and different ingredients. This is all a part of their home-based-learning adventure, as they are learning many life skills in the process.

I generally cook a hot breakfast for my husband and sometimes the children join him. The other children usually have cereal or fruit. By cereal I mean, Puffed Millet or Rice, Bran Flakes, Porridge, Eggs, Toast, Pancakes or a Smoothie.

Sometimes, we have our main meal at lunch-time and have a smaller meal at tea-time. Usually, I just prepare a large salad and everyone can take from that along with a slice of bread.

I have been making small but gradual changes to our evening meal:  more salads and grains and a little less meat. We eat kangaroo meat as I think it would have less chemicals, hormones and other substances and we use a chemical-free chicken from La-ionica.

My children have very hungry bellies and like to snack a little throughout the day. Some of our snacks include; fruit, dried fruit snacks (prepared in the dehydrator that John made for me!) or bread snacks. I try to include lots of protein as well.

Spiritual Health

However, there is much more to healthy living than diet! Firstly, and most importantly is Spiritual Health. My spiritual state greatly influences my physical and emotional state. The Bible, Devotional books, and other good writings, along with fellowship with others helps to keep me spiritually fit. But none of these things can keep me in a spiritually fit state: it is only having a relationship with Jesus Christ that can do that. He is the only one that can give me peace.

Emotional health

… is also important. One of the definitions in Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines ’emotion’ as:

” Literally, a moving of the mind or soul; hence,any agitation of mind or excitement of sensibility.”

When I am angry or sad or happy and joyful my body is affected in that I am not overflowing with vitality or energy. In fact, I feel drained. And so, it is to God’s word that I run to, seeking comfort and strength.

Physical health!

There’s so much confusion around today. Don’t eat fats- do eat fats. Don’t eat this or that…this list goes on forever and honestly, it is exhausting and draining! It can all be so hard and we want the children to try and be involved too! Whew! I try to keep things as simple as possible by remembering to try to eat foods in their natural state as much as is possible.

We have also invested in a relatively cheap and small water purifier. Chlorine and flouride have been added to the water but I also wonder about the possibility of lead leaching from the pipes. There are other nasties in tap water but the levels of these may vary depending on where you live. The problem with these nasties is that they are carcinogenic.

We try to avoid preservatives, food colourings and other additives as much as possible. Much of the fruit and vegetables we buy has been sprayed with pesticides and fertiliser. These were not designed for our systems! I wash all of our fruit ‘n’ veg in the sink with cold water and vinegar.

We try to clean our home with basics, such as bicarb of soda and vinegar or other products that can be found at your supermarket- brands similar to Earthcare.

Edited: It is now 2017 and I looked over this old post and was amazed at how well we ate and yet I marvel at how much better we eat even now. Feel free to look over the posts in my kitchen/health and recipes category.

Terrestria Chronicles

Here are the thoughts of my 12yods. He hasn’t done any formal writing so bear that in mind when reading his thoughts about the series, Terrestria Chronicles by Ed Dunlop.

Book: Terrestria Chronicles series

by Ed Dunlop


Name: John
Date: 2007

This book is an allegory, written by Ed Dunlop. It was written in 2006. It is set in medieval or castle-times. Mr. Dunlop writes the book from one person’s perspective: an omniscient perspective.

The basic plot about this story is good vs. evil, right vs. wrong, like many books. The main characters in this book are Josiah and Selwyn. Josiah is a slave boy to Argamor, an evil blacksmith. After making an attempt to escape with the help of a stolen file, he is caught and tied to a tree, where a flogging would take place. After being tied to the tree, the King arrives and frees Josiah of his Chain of Iniquity and his Weight of Guilt. The King then adopts Josiah into the Royal family, and Josiah is taken to the Castle of Faith.

The spiritual value of this book is pretty good, being an allegory. I think that other boys, and girls would enjoy this book. I would like my Mum to read it aloud to us, but we are still reading the Kingdom Series.

More information can be found at the Dunlop Ministries website.

Catching up…

Whew, what a weekend! It all started on Friday when we had to go across town to take ‘Miss A’ to a softball tournament. That in itself is not hard. Crossing the Gateway Bridge is not my favourite thing to do. Not necessarily because the bridge is high (it looks worse than it is) but once you go through the toll, it is like a drag race as about 10 lanes merge into 3 or 4 lanes! The whole drive is about 50 minutes. On Friday, I did this twice.

Saturday and Sunday was also spent with me trooping out to softball, which I probably make sound like a chore but the truth is that I love it! A day in the sun, watching my daughter, play my favourite sport, cappacino, chocolate and a new book! What’s wrong with that?

‘Miss A’ was hit with a pitched ball on Sunday. So off we went to the nearest hospital for an x-ray. Four hours later, we returned to the softball grounds, said goodbye and drove home, with ‘Miss A’ hobbling along on crutches. Apparently she only has soft tissue damage with extensive bruising, but time will tell more. We’re hoping it is only that as she hopes to be back on the diamond on Sunday. ‘Miss A’ wasn’t able to go to work on Monday or Tuesday which suited me just fine! I loved having her home with me again…I’ll have her for a whole week.
Saturday night was a bit disappointing. Being avid Crows Fans (AFL), John taped the match of the final and we sat together and watched the poor Crows claw their way to a devastating loss. There was much mourning in this home, for the next few days.

‘Miss R’ secured herself a part time job, at the same place as ‘Miss A’ ! Im very thankful to the boss at this patiserrie, for giving the girls such opportunities. ‘Miss R’ did an extra shift on Monday, to help cover for ‘Miss A’ ‘s absence.

Tonight we’re off to the school Music Night where ‘Miss R’ is going to be singing, in front of a live audience for the first time ever. To say she is nervous is an understatement. She has sung in the school choir before, but this is just her and one other girl.

Life is busy and full at the moment, and I haven’t had much time for writing or reading which doesn’t necessarily make for the most interesting blog, considering the caution I use when choosing to share a little of our life. 😉

Bless you,

Daily Rhythms : Blocks Schedule

We don’t have a set daily schedule. We don’t eat meals at specified times or have a daily to-do list. Instead we tend to work in blocks of time. In the morning, we discuss briefly what blocks of time we are doing that day and this way the children know what to expect.

(Times given are approximate and are determined by the day’s activities)

Breakfast and Responsibility Time

(2hrs)

  • Personal Bible reading and prayer time.
  • Tidy room and make bed.
  • Personal hygiene.
  • Breakfast and put on bread machine
  • General cleaning and management of the day to day clutter.
  • Discuss the day and things to do.

Table Time (3 hours)

  • Bible
  • English
  • Maths
  • Science
  • History

Family Activity Time

  • Meals
  • Watching movies
  • Softball
  • Bike riding
  • Photography or computer with Dad
  • Board games

Household Responsibility Time

  • Car cleaning
  • Yard cleaning
  • Major housecleaning jobs (Bathroom, windows)

Family Reading-Time

  • Purposed Reading as a family
  • Other subjects such as history, science, literature, art, music etc.

Productive Planned Activity

(2 hours)

  • Bible reading and word study
  • Scrapbook or other self directed project
  • Home or Life Skills… Sewing, cooking
  • Foreign language
  • Computer Skills (not Internet or games)
  • Construction Projects–Legos, Carpentry
  • Piano
  • Read books

Productive Free-Activity

(2 hours)

  • Bible reading and word study
  • Scrapbook or other self directed project.
  • Home or Life Skills – Sewing, cooking,
  • Foreign language
  • Computer Skills (not Internet or games)
  • Construction Projects–Legos, Carpentry
  • Piano
  • Calligraphy or drawing
  • Craft box
  • Letter writing (Make a card for someone)
  • Jigsaw puzzles
  • Write a story
  • Board games
  • Listen to music and dance
  • Do a nature hunt
  • Trampoline
  • Clean backyard
  • Iron clothes
  • Bake a cake
  • Make popcorn and then make jewelry
  • Have a bath and play in it
  • Chess
  • Do a word search
  • Leaf or tree rubbings
  • Make paper or soap (paper kit)
  • Rehearse a play and put on show
  • Write book review
  • Science experiment
  • Hide and Seek
  • Create cubby house
  • Make paper airplanes / dolls
  • Garden
  • Have a ‘drinking water contest’
  • Do a crossword
  • Look at photo albums or scrapbook
  • Play dough
  • Coin collections
  • Stamp albums
  • Press flowers

Veg Out Time

  • Unstructured rest and relaxation time

Quiet Time

  • Sleeping, praying, reading, playing quietly in room.

 

 

 

 

Diary Day Monday

I awoke at 6am and jumped in the shower while John watched the morning news in bed. He actually pretends to watch the news but I think he really snoozes! He showers and gets ready for work as I head to the kitchen to make grilled muffins with eggs for breakfast. ‘Miss A’ awakes and the three of us have breakfast together before John heads off to work at 7am. He has a long day today and won’t be home until about 10.30pm.

‘Miss A’ and I jump in the car as I drive her to work. Upon returning home, I remind ‘Miss R’ that it is time to get up. I open the boys blinds and let the sunshine stream into their bedrooms as I greet them with a hug and kiss and a loud ‘good morning!’ John and ‘Master C’ take quite a few minutes to wake up so they follow me into the kitchen and watch me as I prepare their muffins for breakfast. I steal a few minutes to clean my bathroom and put on a load of laundry. Over breakfast, I ask John to unstack the dishwasher and drainer board from last night. ‘Master C’ ‘s chore is to re-stack the dishwasher while I take ‘Miss R’ to school. Upon my return, the boys have nearly finished their chore. John then gets the vacuum cleaner out and vacuums the entire house, while ‘Master C’ cleans all the mirrors and a few windows and screens in the house. They have done all their chores without grumbling and complaining and I tell them how proud I am of their choices and attitudes. I have a 30min break on the computer to quickly check boards and emails while the boys finish building their current lego construction.

At 10am, we sit down to start our more formal part or ‘Table Time’ of learning. Today I read from the gospel of Matthew where Jesus feeds Five Thousand and we talk about how Jesus is able to meet all our needs. We discuss how Jesus thought of other’s needs more than His own…we want to be more like Jesus, considering the needs of other’s before we consider our own needs. We discuss what it means to have a giving heart as compared to a selfish heart. We give thanks to God for His word, that we are able to learn more about Him and we ask that He do a work in us…that we may consider others more highly than ourselves. The boys and I take turns in reading from the Scriptures in their own Bibles. I love seeing them become familiar with learning the books of the Bible and seeing them thumb through God’s word to find the relevant book, chapter and verse. 🙂 We also read and discuss another chapter in our catechism: Training Heart, Training Minds.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
Philippians 2:3

Then I read from Herein is Love: Genesis. We’re only up to chapter 12. But we’re getting there…slowly. It is now nearly Elevenses, time for Second Breakfast. The boys prepare pikelets with jam while I read another chapter from Boyhood and Beyond. This chapter is about Justice. Then we head into the lounge room for a snuggle while I read a few chapters from our current read aloud book, Kingdom’s Call by Chuck Black. Midway through the chapter, ‘Miss A’ calls from work to say *hi*. 😀 After read aloud, of which the boys do not want to stop, it is time for a little independant work. John starts a lesson of Math-U-See while ‘Master C’ completes a page in each workbook. He has a book on Building Your Thinking Skills and Writing & Comprehension Skills. He also does copy work and then goes outside for a bounce and thinking time on the trampoline. 🙂 Meanwhile, I sit at the computer, do a quick round of the forums and email and start to compose this post. Ooh, ‘Miss R’ emails me from school, during her English class, so I respond to her and give her my perspective on her upcoming debating topic. (yes, the homeschool mama never stops homeschooling, even when they go to school!)

The phone rings. Usually I screen calls when I am busy but not when I know it is my lovely family…and it is! ‘Miss A’ calls me to remind me about softball training tonight. Then John calls me from out whoop whoop somewhere so I really want to take that call. I call him back and we chat for a few minutes. He reminds me of a few phone chores I must tend to. I don’t like being on the phone a lot- although I can laugh at the irony of that statement. 😀 Meanwhile the phone is beeping at me with call waiting, which I despise but can’t be bothered to turn it off; I just don’t use it. It is my Dad so I have to call him back. Meanwhile the boys are making themselves their lunch. I’m not phased by this as I made them a good breakfast and had some quality time with them.

Another quick check of email and answered a few posts and paid for some curriculum. Maybe I’ll have some lunch now too. Nope, took a business call which lasted 15 minutes and then I run like a mad woman to the car to pick ‘Miss R’ up from school. We stop off to get petrol and I give her a lesson on how to fuel up the car. We drive home (yabba yabba yabba all the way home) and we sit in the car for about 10 minutes as she tells me of her day.

We’ve only got a few minutes before we go out again to pick ‘Miss A’ up so we all sit on our computer’s for a spell. ‘Miss R’ is checking a few sites for a homework assignment while the boys play a PC game and I check Aussie Homeschool Ads and continue this post. 😉

Out the door to get ‘Miss A’ and home again…but not for long! We spend 40 minutes catching up and then we head out the door again to drop her at training. After having a few healthy meals lately, tonight is CatchWhatYaCan for tea. ‘Miss R’ and I spend a bit of time on the Internet designing her new blog. It’s clean up time and then shower time before we head out to pick ‘Miss A’ up from training. She fixes something for tea and then we settle down to watch a show on television.

John arrived home at 9.30pm as I was on my way to bed. ‘Miss A’ had gone to bed, as had the boys although they were still awake reading (John is hooked on the Terrestria Chronicles and ‘Master C’ was engrossed in his Bible). John and I had a few minutes of catching up and then ‘Miss R’ sat with him for while and they talked before she went to bed.

Whew, that was my day. It wasn’t terribly exciting but it has changed in appearance and structure over the last few months and years. I’m not longer in the world of toddlers but my children are growing and emerging and developing. I do a fair bit of driving around on some days but not all days are that hectic with me out of the home.

I did want to blog about my thoughts on the purpose of the law but it seems that I won’t get to it for another few days. Oh well, it will happen.

Anyone care to share a day from their week? If so, please leave a comment or trackback so I can read your post!

Sad but True – Copyright Issue

To the person who is visiting this site and using the information and ideas contained therein, to promote their own website or forum without giving due credit I would ask again that you stop it. You know who you are. My site stats know who you are too. You can see that I write not for my own glory but for the encouragement of others. You can see that after the most recent activity of plagiarism I wrote a new copyright page and have joined copyscape. I see that you have indeed taken these same ideas and put them on to your own forum. I have always tried to acknowledge those who have helped or inspired or ministered to me in some way. Anyone who visits this blog would know that I have been deeply inspired by the writings of Robin Sampson and Sally Clarkson- I don’t try to hide that in any way. I believe that imitation is a form of flattery so I am slightly flattered that you choose to draw inspiration from my site, but it would be nice to treat others in the same way you would like to be treated. If you have put up a copyscape icon it means that you’d like others to treat your writings and content with respect. I would like to think that you would do likewise with my content.

To those who have no idea what I am raving on about, please ignore this post and I’ll get back to regular blogging soon. 😉

Do We Do Bible Study Every Day?

Do we do Bible Study every day?

I think we have tried every approach that is bantered about in homeschooling and family circles. We have tried starting our day with Bible study. We have tried doing Bible study after lunch when the main academics are finished. We have done Bible study every day. We have done it three or four times a week. I’ve had issues or problems with them all!

So how often do we do Bible study? That might be so much easier to answer if we had a regular lifestyle with no interruptions. But we have many interruptions. Just a few weeks back, I had a particularly harrowing day and I took 16 phone calls. Now some would say that I shouldn’t answer the phone. But you know what? I was screening the calls. Those 16 calls were all from my family: my father, my husband, ‘Miss A’ or ‘Miss R’. Now how’s a gal supposed to fit in meal preparation, laundry, lessons, Bible study and stay sane? The only way that I know how to do all those things and stay sane is to not stress over the minor things…to understand that every day brings its own opportunities to minister, to serve, to love, to read and to pray.

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Super Simple Spiritual Sunday

Super Simple Spiritual Sunday Meme is simply a list of encouraging links I have enjoyed this week.
1) If you read my post about Teenage Rebellion, then you will want to read Sally Clarkson‘s post, ‘Suggestions for preventing and helping prodigals‘.
2) Those Sneaky Idols over at As The Lord Works
3) Blogging: What’s your motivation
4) Leonie on ‘Being a Parent of Older Kids
5) An slpime alipcatoin of a wrod tcrik to rdeanig bliabcl nratveirs
Reading the Scriptures with a view toward the whole story is a post written by Says Simpleton: the sojourn of a simpleton searching for ways to bridge the gap between understanding and articulation.
6) Phyllis Sather recommends Adobe? Digital Editions as an engaging new way to read and manage eBooks and other digital publications in this post.
7) Are you, or your teen, suffering from Teenage Affluenza? This is a great satirical video that reminds us we lead such lucky lives.

Cyber flowers for commenters and fellow bloggers!

Cyber flowers for commenters and fellow bloggers! Hmmm while looking over my blog for the last month I saw that there are a few people who read it. And there are a few comments. Wow, firstly I am delighted that you do. 🙂 I also realised that I like to receive comments. Ah! is this because I need the affirmation or is it because I love interaction with people? (Inquiring minds need to know!) I believe it is the latter. 😉

Amanda, you are like a breathe of fresh air. I can’t wait until you have your own blog so I can leave you comments. 😉

Leonie, I am constantly amazed, informed and encouraged by your posts on your blog. You seem to have such an amount of energy that I dream about. Thanks for being such an inspiration to me, and to many others.

Margaret, mum of the 2kidschoolhouse: Thanks for stopping by and commenting! I think you already know how much I enjoy your insight and humour.

Jacqui, thanks for your comments, your openness and your honesty. You must be a blessing to those you know in real life because you are a blessing over the Internet. Your humour also cracks me up. I wish I had a sense of humour like some of you ladies…while I don’t, I love being around you, if only in cyber-land. 🙂

Jocelyn, your blog and knowing you both in real life and over the Internet has enriched my life in more ways than one. You are such a calming influence, often seeming to sit back, take your time and then come out with profound wisdom.

Chrissy, lovely to meet another Heart of Wisdom user. I check your blog regularly now. I also love your theme and colours. 🙂

Lisa, you crack me up! But I also appreciate your insight as a fellow homeschooler with teens.
Shelso, your determination and perseverance are inspirational!

Well, that’s my roundup for this month! I am inspired by you ladies and while I don’t blog for you, (I blog because I like to) commenting on each other’s blogs is fun, enjoyable and enriching.

Bless you!

Grace: 3

We have seen and learned about the unavoidable wrath that is to come for all man, and that no matter how much we might try to strive to reach God or to please Him, we cannot do so. We have learned that it isn’t what you know but who you know. We have learned that it isn’t about our performance rather our position, through Christ. Today, I’d like to explore Romans 7 as it teaches about law and grace. Bear with me a little as I stretch the picture of two men. Mr. Law and Mr. Grace.

Mr. Law is over-bearing, demanding, rigid and points out every fault and error. While he has very high standards himself, he continually reminds you of your inability to keep to his standards. He doesn’t help you in your efforts. He is correct though – for he is pure and holy – but his standards are unattainable. Not only all this but you cannot be released from this through death as he will never die- he is eternal. Would you feel like a captive? What, where, who and how is grace in all this?

Well, Mr. Law won’t die. He won’t pass away. How then, can you be released from the control of Mr. Law? The way out is death – but not the death of Mr. Law rather that of our own death! As we identify with Christ, through Him, we can die to the Law!

Likewise, my brothers, you also have died to the law through the body of Christ, so that you may belong to another, to him who has been raised from the dead, in order that we may bear fruit for God.
Romans 7:4

When we ask Jesus to save us, when we accept His suffering on the cross, when we believe in His shed blood, when we have been justified through faith, we are said to have ‘died with him‘ So, once and for all we have died to the law. We have been released from the Law’s control and authority.

Wow! So where does that leave us? Are we now wandering around doing whatever pleases us? Do we not submit to authority? Do we have no rules? Ah, we need to keep reading Romans.

But now we are released from the law, having died to that which held us captive, so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit and not in the old way of the written code.
Romans 7:6

Now we have died to the Law, we have joined with Christ. We can run into the eternal arms of the graceful, kind, powerful Lord Jesus. But wait, there’s more. 🙂 Jesus wants us to bear fruit. It now looks like this:

 

PERFORMANCE —-> LAW —-> STANDARDS —-> INSTRUCTIONS

 

JESUS —-> POSITION —-> GRACE and LIFE —-> FRUIT

 

Jesus gives LIFE! Grace gives life! The Law does not give us life. You don’t have to live under the authority of the law. Choose life! Choose grace! You can have victory in life by living in and of grace.

Some common objections are often voiced to this preaching of grace. Some may say that it sounds like I’m dissing the Law. Not at all! But we do need to understand why God gave the Law and what its purpose was. Scripture holds the truth.

The law doesn’t save. It doesn’t produce righteousness. It does not impart life. It does not sanctify. The law is not evil or wrong, it is indeed holy. So what is its purpose? The law shows us our failure, our inability to obey God’s law. But rejoice with me for as we see our sinfulness, the more we see God’s abounding grace!

What does it mean to you, to be ‘dead to sin and alive to God’?

I hope to journal my thoughts here, as I explore the purpose of the law. If you have enjoyed these few posts so far, feel free to pop in with a quick comment or subscribe to this blog.

Grace- For the Homeschool Mum

Have you ever wondered what ‘grace’ has to do with the homeschool mother? Grace is a word often used but what does it mean and how does it relate to us?

Are you fulfilled in your walk with God? Are you doing enough to deserve His pleasure and acceptance? Is reading the Bible a duty, a chore, a bore or a pleasure? Are you reaching God? Have you searched for Him and found Him? Sometimes we can get caught up in a vicious circle of trying harder to deepen our walk with God, to reach Him, to please Him, yet we end up tired and weary, closely followed by a feeling of failure and disappointment. (Or am I the only one who has experienced this?) What is missing in all this? Is unfulfilled striving all there is?

The bad news

There is a wrath awaiting us! Yes, it is true. Couple this with the fact that there is a Holy God, in whose presence we cannot be, and you find ourselves in a terrible situation. No matter how hard you work at being or doing good, no matter how much you try to avoid sin, you still, in and of yourself, can not avoid the wrath nor can you enter His presence!

Now for the good news!

The believer knows and accepts that Jesus the Christ has made a way possible to avoid that wrath – through Him we can gain access to God’s presence. Not only does Jesus rescue us from that wrath, not only are our sins forgiven but He bought a place for us – so we can stand in a place of total acceptance and security. So, it isn’t what you know, it is WHO you know. It isn’t our doing or being that was able to attain this. It was all by his grace…all by His favour that we did nothing to deserve.

Now that we’ve been accepted, forgiven, rescued by grace, we need to learn what it means to live in grace. We not longer have to try and reach God. God reached down to man! No more striving. Wahoo!

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
Romans 8:37

Living in Grace

Do you live in victory or in that vicious circle I wrote about above? Early in my walk as a new believer, I would set my feet to making resolutions. I wanted to get closer to God, to be used by Him and other fairly noble but misguided thoughts. These thoughts would lead me to going to the front of church during the altar call, repenting (again) and asking forgiveness (again) and making yet another commitment or resolution to do better in my efforts at growing as a believer. Within a few weeks or months I would be back again at the altar, repeating the same action. Oi voi! What a trap! What an unfulfilled path to tread. Where was the victory that Paul speaks of in Romans 5:17 and 2 Corinthians 2:14 In another post I’ll be looking at Romans 5:17 and Romans 7. It is very interesting and I gleaned a lot from it. I hope you will to.

How do you define ‘the gospel’? What does the Good News mean to you? How has it impacted your life? Are you living each day in the knowledge of God’s saving grace, knowing that God is not pleased any more or any less by your works? Are you living in the victory of the cross of Christ?

Whatever your heart clings to and relies on is your God.
~Martin Luther

Writing Lessons with the Boys

Charlotte Mason’s methods and other natural learning methods were wonderful with my girls for teaching them English skills. They both write quite well. Narration has formed the cornerstone or basis of their English lessons. However, the boys have an aversion to pencils and paper so writing has always been tedious and something down further on the ‘to-do’ list. I’ve been trying to focus on it a little more lately by using the 5W’s and an H and requiring more detailed narrations. It’s been like pulling teeth. So I did what I always do when I need to go back to the drawing board. I researched new curricula and/or methods. But nowadays, I am pretty particular as I have learned what I need, what the boys need, and what has most chance of success. A program could be the best program available, with all the bells and whistles available, but if it relies too heavily upon me, then it won’t get done. If it requires too much pencil work from the boys, then it won’t get done. If it is something that needs to be done every day, of every week, of every month of every year, then it won’t get done.

I was leaning heavily toward Institute for Excellence in Writing products as they have a dvd lesson which teaches directly to the student, yet also requires a little of me. The boys are achieving success using Math-U-See so I thought that something similar would be a hit. I received the program in the mail (Thanks Linda from Adnil) and spent some time looking over it. Wow, to say that I felt overwhelmed would be an understatement! However, I am trying to persevere with it.

Yesterday, the boys did the first lesson on outlining using key words. Today, the learned about writing a new paragraph from their keywords. I am allowing them to use the computer rather than handwriting their keywords and paragraph as getting the ideas and thoughts flowing is more important to me than using a pencil. I was very happy with their work today. Below is 10yo ‘Master C’ and 12yo John’s paragraphs. (I have their permission to share their work)

Sea Wasps
By ‘Master C’

Sea Wasps are the most venomous jellyfish with a poisoning ability greater then any snake. Sea Wasps search for shrimps on the beach. Sea Wasps have a deadly sting after humans get stung they only have seconds to stagger back to the beach. Sea Wasps are transparent and are difficult to see. Sea Wasps are not found in America and Europe but they are found in Australia. This blob of neurotoxin is quite capable of killing fifty or more people.

Sea Wasps
By John

The Sea Wasp is a venomous type of jellyfish, with poison stronger than that of a snake. While looking for food, it often floats into the shore of Australian beaches, causing danger to swimmers that swim along the beach. When a swimmer gets stung by one, the effect is deadly and gives them seconds to reach the beach. It is very transparent, making it difficult to see and making it harder to avoid. It is not found in anywhere in America or Europe, but makes its home around Australian beaches. It is quite capable of killing fifty or more people. Some may consider it the most dangerous creature alive.

Narration has always been a little more difficult for the boys and after years of persisting and encouraging I knew I needed to give them some key skills that narration could give them, but it wasn’t as they found it cumbersome and difficult. I’m hoping we’re on to a good thing here for the boys.

The Passion of the Christ

My husband and I both watched the movie, The Passion of the Christ. I spent a few days in prayer and study in order to prepare for the movie. I’m glad I did. During the week after the movie, God revealed something to me during that time that has convicted me so deeply… affected my life in a way that I have only shared with 2 other people (my husband a friend). It wasn’t something that I feel the need to share with everyone, and I know not everyone would understand it, as it quite contrary to popular mainstream Christianity but it is too special, too personal to share lightly. Of course I would share in the right situation but flippancy is one downfall that I have seen as a direct result of this movie. I think that’s a shame. :-/

We also prepared 16yo ‘Miss A’ to view the movie. Only she has seen it, out of our four children here. (Damian is 23 and the eldest but is not living in QLD with us) She is a Christian of her own volition, by fact that she has repented and taken responsibility or ownership of her faith as she matured which is different to my other children who still believe because mum and dad believe. Do you know what I mean?  There’s nothing wrong with this… it’s as it should be. But there comes a time in everyone?s life where they need to know what they believe and why… that it isn’t just because it is tradition to do so.

I started preparing my daughter for this a few years ago. We read books, she did the Messiah unit through Heart of Wisdom, etc. We taught her (as we also continue to learn) about the wonderful, liberating, profound, sacrifice that happened on that cross. This movie, as with any movie, focuses upon the physical death of Jesus the Christ. History shows us that many other people since that time have suffered horrendous torture.

We have taught our daughter in depth about the cross…it is so much more than physical punishment…so much more than the flippancy than it is often preached. With every fibre of His being, Jesus suffered more than any other, not physically but in that “he bore our sins in his own body on the tree“, and “he who knew no sin was made sin for us,” as “he suffered the just for the unjust” when God “laid upon him the iniquity of us all“. In being ‘the propitiation for our sins’ he bore the wrath of God upon all evil. The physical side of his crucifixion, painful as it was, was very minor in comparison with his sin-bearing…his separation from The Father.

No amount of emotion or painful sight can pierce the heart in such a way that a viewer can truly comprehend the real meaning of the death on a cross. This death was not just this way as to move us to feel sad, or feel emotion. Jesus told his disciples, “. . . this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.”

I have seen many people who watched the movie, were touched at the time but have continued on with their lives as though they had just watched a horror flick! Aacckkkkk! I have discussed with others how they didn’t think much of this whole ‘Jesus thing‘ because others have gone through more pain – therefore they missed the message of the cross. God is the one who will draw people…He will reveal Himself to people in His time. He doesn’t need a movie to do so, although He can use it if He so desires. He chose instead, to use words, language, vocabulary, the tradition of oral story telling in which to let us know of His message. So, we are preparing our children in the Word of God first so that they will be grounded in His teachings before being exposed to the visual and emotional pull of such a movie. We need a solid grasp of what happened on the cross before we see it *performed*. After all, no matter how good, it is still a performance – acting. No actor can thoroughly communicate the victory of His cry, ‘It is finished!‘ nor truly portray the utter trust of Jesus when he said, ‘Father! Into thy hands I commit my spirit‘. What did these words mean? I’ve been studying them for over a year and a half and I’m nowhere near finished yet!

Those who read this blog or know me in real life will also know that we aren’t overly cautious or protectionistic (it’s my word) with the television. We like Sci-Fi and LOTR (Oh boy, I’ve lost some people now eh?) but there are some things that are simply too precious, too meaningful to throw before our children in an attempt to impact a generation or teach them understanding.

Super Simple Spritual Sunday

SSSS Blog Meme

Here are a few blogs that I was really touched by or ministered to by this week. They’re in no particular order.

Margaret’s blog is one of those places where I will usually get a laugh (I don’t count on it, but it usually happens). However, after the chuckle has gone I am often left with a deeper insight than before I visited her blog.

Today, Margaret has written about Gomez Addams, from the Addams Family (who doesn’t like that show?) being a homeschool advocate. It’s funny but there’s also food for thought. Don’t take my word for it- pop over and visit her. Leave a comment if you liked what you read.

Phyllis wrote about Sowing and Reaping over on her blog. I was encouraged yet challenged by her post.

?If we focus on our needs, we will always be needy,? As I read this to my children this morning I was stopped in my tracks by what a profound statement it is, yet this is often where I find myself stuck.

Sally Clarkson over at Wholeheart Moms always motivates, inspired and encourages me and her post, Getting Back to Basics was no different.

I have pondered, lately, what I observe in many of the children that I meet along the way, how they reflect their mother?s philosophy of education and life. If you don?t start with the end in mine?what you want to see produced in your children?s lives, then you won?t build the right things along the way. I see so many sweet young moms going to these homeschooling fairs and piling themselves up with all sorts of colorful curriculum and work books?and even other moms who think they will accomplish their goals by using videos. Yet, the pioneering spirit of homeschooling, seems to be lost and I see the choice of these materials having an ill effect on so many children.

I purchased an inexpensive ebook to share with my daughters from Sheri Prescott. We have done a few of these type of books before but it has been awhile since our last one so I thought her new ebook looked good. It is!

How To Be a Super Model: A Guide To Inner Beauty. My goal is to encourage and challenge young women to seek Jesus with their whole hearts; modeling their lives after Him.

Well, that’s about it for me and the SSSS blog meme. Now that I have participated in one I will make sure I continue. if you have no idea what I’m talking about you can visit Robin’s blog for more information.

Teenage Rebellion in the Homeschooling Family

This post was in response to a thread on an email group. The discussion was about the high incidence of teenage rebellion in homeschooled children.

Sadly, I think there is a lot of myth and fear surrounding the teen years, especially amongst home schoolers. We don’t need to stick our heads in the sand and only discuss that which we want to hear- we need to know what is happening.

Big Questions

I believe that there comes a time in everyone’s life where they start to examine and question the big issues of life: why are we here? Who put us here? What happens when we die? Our answer or thoughts to these questions make us do the things we do.

We want to teach our children these things that we have taken on as belief and faith. We do teach them. We homeschool so we can spend more time with our children, building the relationship, instilling values, etc

There comes a time when a child starts to question those big issues of life. That isn’t wrong- it is necessary if one is to grow and be an individual person (a child of God), rather than a sheep. I see this as a transference of faith– where the child may start to take responsibility for their relationship with God. They are able to go directly to God for themselves and not relying upon their mum or dad. (Of course this is when some parents start to get concerned as that relationship may appear different to their relationship with God)

What happens if this taking ownership of faith does not happen? Well, it still may shift but instead of relying upon Mum and Dad’s faith, they may rely upon someone else’s: their boyfriend, husband, pastor, friends, magazine, tv, etc (The enemy is vying for the heart of all and is actively working toward gaining it via any means). They either take ownership of the faith they were raised in or they transfer it and take the beliefs or faith of someone else.

I think that we make a grave mistake in looking for any kind of formula. We think that if we homeschool, then our children will turn out okay. But then we have to homeschool a certain way or it won’t ‘work’. We have to avoid this, avoid that, do this, don’t do that…Oh, it’s all so hard – so many rules.

I believe that many of us deeply believe that there is a formula:

1 child + homeschool = Success

I also believe that many of us believe there is a recipe for failure, and it looks like this:

1 child + school = Failure.

Oh, I know that when we see it written so boldly like that we don?t agree that we think that way but?when it gets down to the heart of the matter it is often what is in our heart.

A Matter of Grace

Raising children is a matter of grace, in my opinion. It isn’t about a formula or a recipe. Whether or not a person realises they’re forgiven and walks in it when they are 15 or 45 doesn’t change the fact that it’s all about GRACE. Salvation is a work of grace and after all, salvation is what most of us desire for our children more so than simply the appearance of right living.

If one does follow recipe number one : 1 child + homeschool = Success, then I have to ask, is it about them and their parenting methods or is it about God’s redeeming grace? We need to know and accept that we cannot obtain our child’s salvation! (Having accepted that we can start getting on our knees)

We can lead them to Him, lead them in the ways of Him…teach them all about Him, and teach them to obey us as parents…but that internal work of the heart – to respond to God and obey Him is not within our control. We are the messenger, the herald who proclaims the message. The onus is on the hearer to hear and obey.

So what can we do?

We can pray! We can proclaim the message unabashedly! We can live by example. We can train in matters of outwardness. And we can hope.

There will come a time in their life when they question what they believe…it might look shaky for awhile but if the foundation is solid (that foundation being the message- the message of the work of the Cross through Christ) then we can be assured that God will indeed graft them into the vine and call them His own. They will start to see this as their faith…their belief and not just that of their parents. This is a most BEAUTIFUL happening!!!! Truly wondrous!

I have met and had the pleasure of knowing a few Christian young people. Young ones who have a desire to serve God, to serve others and have a great relationship with their parents and siblings. Yet, they were not taught at home. They attended schools. Both public schools and private schools. Upon talking to their parent’s, I came to see that there are some common denominators: Relationship, time, love, acceptance, gentleness, firmness, boundaries, laughter, etc.

However, I still think we’re missing something in all this. It’s all too easy to look at family and judge their efforts or judge the fruit by the 16yo. However, I don’t believe that we can or should do that. I have heard it said, and I believe it to be true, that our true test of parenting isn’t seen until we watch how our children parent. How do our children parent our grandchildren? That’s when we see the fruit of our job.

We can’t look at a 15yo, who is mulling over the big issues of life and struggling with it (which can be a normal part of maturing into an independent adult), and judge a family by that! In the same way, we can’t look at a family who has an obedient and God-fearing 16yo and assume that they have it altogether, thereby desiring to emulate their parenting. We don’t know where that person will be when they are 30, once away from the watchful eye of parents and responsible for themselves. So often we look over the operative word in Proverbs 22: 6 “when he is old”, not when he is a teen.

I was speaking to a beautiful elderly man a few weeks ago at church. He had previously preached and I thoroughly enjoyed it and learned things. His son is an assistant pastor at the church (the elderly fellow isn’t a pastor) and preaches…just not quite as deep and insightful as his dad 😉 Anyway, we were talking about parenting and John and I questioned him about his parenting approach, as we usually do when we see the ripe fruit 😉

He encouraged us to do as much with our children as we could- to teach them God’s way, to love them, to laugh with them, to be firm with them and to not get too hung up over the teen years. He found out we home-schooled and was encouraging about that but he just kept saying the same thing:relationship! His children went to public school. I know of others who have sent their children to public school and they have grown to be productive fruits in the kingdom of God, serving Him with their lives.

I believe we’d do much better to study and learn about how God parents us! For He is the ultimate parent! How does he love, teach, guide, command us? What does He expect of us? Then as we relate our parenting from God, we may be parents after His own heart.

So with the whole rebellion thing…gee I went down a garden path there eh?

What do we really mean by ‘rebellion’?

Do we mean that the children haven’t adopted our way of thinking in every aspect…do they not adhere to ‘our’ standards of dress, music, etc or do we mean that they have discarded (turned their back on) the ways of God and His word?

Ah, it’s truly a big question I believe…and one that would be good thought and discussion for Australian homeschoolers as home education continues to grow and develop in this country.

As for me, I’ll keep praying for my children… I’ll keep living according to Micah 6:8. Keep proclaiming the gospel of Christ- salvation by grace through faith. And keep building relationships with them so that when the days of questioning come, they will see the Jesus living in me and know that Jesus is the way.

He has showed you, O man, what is good.
And what does the LORD require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God.
Micah 6:8

Getting Back to Basics

Sally Clarkson has written a beautiful blog post that I just knew needed to be spread far and wide. So while I will include excerpts from the post here please go and read the full entry, which you’ll find at: Sally’s blog

I have pondered, lately, what I observe in many of the children that I meet along the way, how they reflect their mother’s philosophy of education and life. If you don’t start with the end in mind, what you want to see produced in your children’s lives, then you won’t build the right things along the way. I see so many sweet young moms going to these homeschooling fairs and piling themselves up with all sorts of colorful curriculum and work books’ and even other moms who think they will accomplish their goals by using videos. Yet, the pioneering spirit of homeschooling, seems to be lost and I see the choice of these materials having an ill effect on so many children.

One of the problems of homeschooling today, is that it became big business and so all sorts of companies developed materials to tempt moms, who have so many feelings of inadequacy, to buy. The more of these curriculums a moms buys, the more stress she is putting on herself, because she will surely expand her feelings of inadequacy each month because of all the pages of assignments she will not finish. Multiplying guilt and inadequacy is never a formula for success in my book. More options does not necessarily mean more excellence.

Just because we now have hundreds of channels on television doesn’t mean the quality of shows has improved more doesn’t always mean better. This is also true of education. Plying your life with myriad activities and opportunities and lessons and classes are costly in time, money, and peace. Choosing wisely a few focussed activities, and choosing the make home the center and priority of a mom’s life is the wisest, most historically and classically soothing way to build peace in the home and godly character in a child.

There is no substitute for a mom diving into great thoughts, with her children, and passionately discussing these together. If one of our primary goals for our children is to inspire them to love learning and to give them a passion about knowing and learning and creating, then this passion is caught when taught by a living, breathing, responsive person. No child or adult can get as much inspiration, personal attention or focussed attention from a video or online school. Now I am not saying that these things cannot be employed for some of the education or for a few subjects in which a mom and child can benefit from the expertise of others (and mainly in the high school years or for math tables or language study).

But, if we replace the love and care and encouragement and passion that comes from a mother’s heart to her children with a machine, we cannot expect to have the same heart and character results. Jesus’ impact on his disciples was because of the personal heart and mind and relationship and life time He had with His disciples. Can you imagine Him putting them on a video and telling them, “At the end of this multimedia course, you will be expected to give up your life for the cause of my Father, who is in heaven.” No, indeed. They gave their lives for His cause because He loved His own and shared His whole life with them. He befriended them, cared for them, instructed them.

Your children are pre-wired to looking to you for love and approval and inspiration and care, they want you most of all. Your heart, your imagination, your joy, your love, your direction. May God so fill your heart, and give rest to your body, so that you will always have the resources from His Holy Spirit, from which your precious ones may have life to draw from.

Have you been blessed by Sally Clarkson’s books? If you haven’t had opportunity to read them yet, you need to! Buy yourself one or more as part of ‘parent training’ if you need to justify. Just get a copy of Sally’s most recent books. You’ll be glad you did.

Using the 5W's and a H

Do you use the 5W’s and a H to teach your children? I do! I have found it beneficial in more than one way.

When the children were younger and narrating orally to me, the would sometimes forget, especially with some literary books that seem to waffle a bit and take time to get to the point. I started by telling them to remember as many nouns as they could.

Then I came across the idea of 5W’s and a H. It’s not a new idea at all…but it helps me to teach my children to research, to think logically and to organise their thoughts. I made a sheet which listed the W’s and a H and how it could relate to each and every chapter, book, story or movie. I also made a blank sheet so that the child can fill it in while reading. It can be used for all ages.

What are the 5W’s and a H?

Who? What? When? Where? Why? How?

I call it our Observation Sheet.

We have used these sheets for every subject, including Bible study. They can form as memory joggers or prompts when making a lapbook, writing an essay or a project. This sheet can easily be incorporated with other study skills such as mind-mapping. You can also use them as narration or writing prompts.

You can download a copy of the sheets below. Let me know if you use it, and if you find it beneficial.

Download link: Observation Sheet

A Sabbatical Year in Homeschooling

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Last year I was tired and weary from eight years of learning at home with children. (We withdrew Miss A from school and began testing her in late 1997)

In 2006 I had planned to start afresh with a new plan, and I was trying to gather enthusiasm for the new school year. I had blogged about it all, and one thing led to another and I decided to take a year’s Sabbatical. The entries and thoughts are scattered throughout this blog so I thought I’d compile them in one place.

It all started when I was studying Rest’ and Sabbath in the Bible.
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I’m going to try something a little different this coming year!

December 28th, 2005

Usually I pray and ponder and peruse all the curriculum catalogues so that I can plan an approximate guide for each of my children. Late last year I roughly planned out the years for each of the children until they are 16years old. It was a very loose plan with lots of room for delights, interests and purposes. I then broke that down into the various years. I had planned to break that down even further and map out what things we would do this coming year but I’ve decided not to! I’m going to try something different. Instead of the 4 P’s (pray, ponder, peruse and plan) I’m going to focus on the 3 R’s. No, not Readin’ ‘Riting and ‘Rithmetic but…

Rest, Relationship and Refreshment.

I want to rest in God more and lead my children to do the same. I want to focus more upon relationships than ever before and I want to make sure that we have quality times of refreshment amidst our life of work. I don’t want to always be striving toward the next academic goal nor feeling good about achieving my goals. I just want to rest in God. The practical implication of this is that I won’t be planning, rather I will record what we have done each day. Each of the children will have their own recording journal, which we have designed ourselves and had spiral bound, (Learning Lifestyle Journal) and it will cover the following areas:

  • SPIRITUAL LIFE ~Bible reading, study, worship, prayer, fellowship, devotional readings, journal writing
  • LIFE SKILLS~ Chores, serving others, life skills
  • RELATIONSHIP/CHARACTER~ Relationship to others, God and self. Exercise, sport, nutrition, hygiene, personal development, health
  • ENGLISH~The art of communication – copywork/dictation, grammar, poetry, writing/composition, spelling/vocabulary, literature
  • MATHEMATICS~ Problem solving, thinking skills, logic studies
  • SCIENCE~Nature study, typing/technology, study
  • HISTORY~Past people and events. History and biography
  • GEOGRAPHY~ people and places of the world. Government, Economics, Foreign Language
  • WORLD VIEWS, CURRENT EVENTS ~
  • CREATIVE ARTS ~ Music, art, crafts, drama, Shakespeare, instruments, and other creative activities
  • AUDIO, VIDEO, TV & DISCUSSIONS~ Things I’ve discussed or learned by listening or watching

There is also room at the bottom of the page for student notes or comments and parent notes or comment. Maybe I’m becoming more this way the longer that we do this [learn at home].

I’m tired of seeing myself as a homeschooler! We are a FAMILY! And that is how God designed us to be. Academics are one part of life and so much of it can be done within a different time frame to what we (as school-ised parents) know of.  I don’t want to “measure my success” by the amount of Table-Time that we have or the amount of books that we read or how structured or unstructured we may be.

The New Year came and I still wasn’t getting excited:

January 19th, 2006

I’ll confess. I’m not jumping up and down with excitement over lessons (school) this year. Nope! There was a time when we would visit Officeworks and stock up on all manner of new stationary and papers and binders and filing systems but (this is the beginning of our 9th year) I can’t even gather some motivation to do that at the moment. There was a time when I would devise some great plans but not this year- we’re just plodding on from where we left off. I love making plans though and if I must say so myself, I’m kinda good at it too. However, it gets really tiring seeing those plans NOT become reality due to one reason or another (usually called “real life”) so I decided not to make any fresh plans or schedules. Years ago, I decided not to make New Year’s Resolutions for pretty much the same reason yet it took me awhile to realise that the same thing happens with my lesson plans.

So, we’re easing back into lessons next week but we’ll start slowly. Bible, English and Reading Aloud and Individual Reading (Yes, I still have to insist upon individual reading for some of my children) will happen first and then once we are rolling with that, we’ll add Maths, Science and History and just keep going from there.

I have tried all of my usual tricks in order to find some motivation or inspiration and it just isn’t happening! Yes, I know that God has called me to this job and that in Him I can do it, but I’m still weary. I want to keep pressing on toward the goal but I’m still tired. I’ve read articles on burnout and while I usually glean something from them, I’m not this time round.

Last year I thought about the possibility of a Sabbath Year- one year every seven years spent in just *rest* before God. No striving, planning, feeling driven, etc. but to simply REST in Him. Yes, I know that this can be a daily process and it should be, but I also think I need a Sabbath Year.

Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen thine heart. – Psalm 27:14

I thought about this last year and decided against it BECAUSE I was scared! Scared that my daughter is getting older and couldn’t find the time to have off but I realised that be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest. Joshua 1:9

So, with our Sabbath Year this year I’m committing to NOT striving or planning, but to just *live* and rest in the author and the finisher of my faith.

By July 23rd, 2006 we were midway into our Sabbatical

Here we are midway through the year, and it’s time to look back, to assess and take stock of how things are going.

In January of this year, I decided to have a Sabbath period. I called it a Sabbath year but later changed it to a Sabbath Season. I was content to take up to a year but didn’t want to be bound by that. The point of this Sabbath Season was to not strive. Not to plan. Not to be so consumed by homeschooling. To not feel so driven most of the time but to relax in Him. To focus on relationships. I knew that this should/could be the way of learning-at-home but it wasn’t reality for me. Not really.

So, where are we now six months later? What have we been doing? Surely we haven’t just been sleeping in late each day and doing nothing? No. As I had posted we really have been focusing on the 3 R’s – Rest, Relationship and Refreshment.

Yes we’ve been moving interstate, having visitors stay with us and going away for softball trips but we’ve also been doing some things that could/should/would be classified as lessons.

How is this different to what we were doing last year when I thought that God was directing our home? Well, it’s the same but different. The change is in *me*. I didn’t realize exactly how many layers of self I had wrapped up in homeschooling- but there’s a few. A few years ago, I thought I had given it all over to God… that He could do what He wanted with me and that I had died to self and let go of my ideals. And I did do that. However, I believe that there were still parts of it, my goals that had to be given over to God. I’m learning at a deeper level what He means when He says to commit our ways to Him.

So far this year, we have read history, science, done maths and English, watched many movies and had great discussions on the nature of man, practiced real life skills, trained our physical bodies, and implemented new chores and routines. But more than that, we have spent more time in God’s word- reading, studying, immersing ourselves in Him.

It’s not that we have stopped learning how to write or spell or do maths… rather that I don’t plan and wring my hands with worry. We simply pick up the lesson where we left off and if this means that we don’t do maths for 2 or 3 weeks then so be it! It isn’t going anywhere, and we’ll get back to it one day. Meanwhile, there are other things for us to learn or do.

I have been pleasantly surprised at how much my children have been able to achieve independently WHEN THEY ARE READY. Oh, I used to try and have them read this and that… to do this report and that essay but it was a bit of a slog. Now I see that as they are ready, (and I’m watching all the time to see when the time is right) they are able to go through 3 -4 times the amount of work that I could have taught them. But the added bonus is that they have done it themselves and so they taste success in doing something themselves.

So where to from here? Learning-at-home is a marathon, not a sprint. Maybe if I only had the one or two children at home I could do academics with 100% focus but I don’t- I have four beautiful children. This means that it is truly a marathon… the long haul. It has to be a lifestyle for it to be sustainable (for us). This means that I approach the educating of our children a little differently to someone who is homeschooling for a year or so or until high school. This is our 9th year (at time of writing), and I have approximately another 7-8 years before my youngest son finishes yr 12. It isn’t about ‘resting’ and not planning for another 8 years. It’s about not being consumed by that planning. It’s about truly trusting in Him and committing my way to Him.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

This Sabbath Season isn’t meant to be just for a month or so, for me. Rather it is to be the way we live for now, until the Lord directs us differently. This will come too, I think as there is a time for work and a time for rest. But on a much smaller scale, I’m even finding this to be true WITHIN our Sabbath Season. There is a time to focus on spelling, on maths, on history, etc. but I don’t need to focus on them every day, every week, every month. Seasons – what a gift from God!When I wake in the morning are my thoughts about curricula, lessons or history or are they on the Lord and how I can best serve Him this day?

What I have learned from our Sabbatical Year

November 25th, 2006
Well, it’s getting on toward the end of the year, which means a new year is coming. I’ve had such an interesting journey so far this year, and I’ve chronicled it a little on my blog but in scattered bits and pieces.

It all started when I pursued my own study on the Sabbath (Nov 2005). I decided to try focusing on the 3 R’s for 2006- the new 3 R’sRest, Relationship and Refreshment. Jan 2006 saw me not too excited about lessons this year so deciding to have a Sabbath Season.

We moved interstate in May so we had to ride the waves of moving. Throughout this I was becoming more interested in getting fitter and I realised something about our home and family, from reading Body for Life. The book talks about hitting high points and efficient workouts, etc. Gee, this sounds a bit like my homeschool- instead of wanting to do lessons and booky stuff all day every day, I want to do our lessons efficiently, hit some high points AND have a life!  In July, I was having such a good time that I decided to take stock of the year so far: and in August I started to formulate our recipe for success or not!

Throughout this time of Sabbath I have learned a lot about myself, the nature of Man, the nature of God, how we learn, etc I also learned, in a whole new way, that people will learn what they need to know, when they need to know it.

So where to for next year?

I’m getting a little excited about planning for next year but with the lessons I’ve learnt firmly in my mind.

Our focus will still be on the 3 R’s.

Rest, Relationship and Refreshment.

There are so many books that we haven’t read … books that I know we won’t even get to read … lessons that I haven’t done, but that’s okay! The important ones have been read, the important lessons have been discussed, relationships have been nurtured and the curiosity that is essential for learning has been kindled. Whenever I start to look at how much a child hasn’t done, I stop and look at how much they care, not how much they know and I’m left feeling content.

My family dynamics have changed a fair bit over the last 12 months, and I’m looking forward to a new season of working with my boys. The girls and I have always loved learning about history- it has been our favourite subject, but the boys are more interested in geography and science. Science is something I’ve tried to almost avoid but I’ve even been writing a unit study based on a Willard Price book in preparation for next year. My goal is to bring John to a level where he will be able to work more independently so that I can spend a little more time with ‘Master C’ . I want to streamline the basics so that we an all spend more time in God’s word and learning according to their delights and interests.

We’ll still have interruptions as we’re probably moving again in May, and with two girls working part time and youth group, and ‘Miss A’ ‘s softball this means the waves are starting get a little bigger, but that’s fine because that’s life! It’s how we know we’re alive!

So I’m excited about switching focus to a new subject (science) and teaching my boys, which is totally different to teaching my girls. I’m excited about teaching and showing them God’s word … ahhh, much to be thankful for.

Postscript

All in all our Sabbatical Year was a beautiful opportunity to learn about many things in ways that we hadn’t before. We tried new things, we tried new ways of doing things, we rested, we were refreshed and we were ready to start the new year (2007) full of energy. Most of all, I spent time growing in God’s word, gaining fresh and new motivation for the remainder of my days as a homeschool mum.

In the year 2006, the ages of my children were approximately: 15yodd, 13yodd, 11yods and a 9yods.

If You Can't Beat Them, Join Them!

You’ll be so glad you did.

Okay, what am I rambling about? Many years ago, when I was a young wife, my husband used to follow the football (Go Crows! AFL) My childhood was spent playing softball in summer and going to watch mates play baseball in winter. Football just didn’t enter into my life at all. Actually I never understood the rules and thought it was a little silly that grown men would chase an oval shaped ball all around a field. The strategic game of physical chess, called softball, was much more my style.

As newlyweds we would often have visitors over on the weekend: we loved entertaining! However, on a Saturday or Sunday the footy would come one and the men would disappear and the women would find them shouting and cheering at the television as they watched the football. I slowly became more and more frustrated as the months and years wore on. I really did not like how the football came between John and me. I didn’t like the feeling of “the men watch footy while the women do their thing‘. Oh, my husband didn’t do anything that made me feel like that but other guys did, as did their own wives. It just seemed to be the ‘norm’. ;(

So what’s a gal to do? I have learned that if you can’t beat ’em, then join ’em!!!!

Yes, I have been a mad Crows supporter for years and years now. You know what? My husband loves it! We have a ‘date’ time every week where we plan something to nibble, provide an activity for the children, if they don’t wish to support with us, and we have our footy time. It’s just one of the things we do together to help build and maintain our relationship.

In your own life, have you decided to ‘join ’em’ rather than nag or try to change something in your husband?

Shakespeare Study, the HomeGrownKids Way

To study, or not to study Shakespeare: that is the question:

When I first read Charlotte Mason’s writings I was thoroughly blessed. The CM series gave me some valuable tools that I could use to enrich our home and family life. I had never read or viewed any Shakespeare play until about eight years ago! We didn’t read or study any when I was at school and I confess I thought it was very outdated. However, once I became a parent and desired that my children learn to speak well and appreciate books of a good literary standard I knew that at some point, I would like to introduce them to Shakespeare. When and how were what I didn’t know. But the CM series taught me how I could introduce my children to the world of Shakespeare.

The girls and I shared a few Shakespeare stories. First, we read the version by Arthur Mee, then the next week I’d read another story version by Charles and Mary Lamb and then Edith Nesbit but our favourite retellings are those by Leon Garfield.

I would have the girls write out a few paragraphs of the story for copy work. Then, I’d also have them write out a few selections from the play. We would use narration as well as paper cut out figures to keep the characters straight in our minds. Eventually, we would tackle the play in its entirety. Oh! the fun we would have by taking a part each and reciting in our most dramatic voices! 😀 We watched a few of the plays that have been made into good movies (but be very selective). Some of our favourites were with Kenneth Branagh and /or Emma Thompson.
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However, I have decided not to introduce my boys to Shakespeare at the same ages as the girls. I will at a later stage but not yet…I don’t think it is necessary. Why, I hear you ask? I’m happy to tell you why not…but before I do I would like to say that this is my conviction, this is something that I believe was right for our family and I wouldn’t like to tell anyone else what to do. Now having said that (my disclaimer) I would also say that I don’t believe your children will be missing out by not covering or learning of Shakespeare while in the primary years. There, I’ve said it! (I know there will be some that will disagree)

As I said, we read the story versions so that the girls would have an overview…a basic understanding of the plot. However, if we weren’t going to continue and read the original play I don’t see what value there was in starting to learn Shakspeare at such a young age. I do know that it felt good to be able to say to other homeshool mums, to non homeshcooling friends, that we were learning Shakespeare. Oh, some looked at us in admiration or with a stare of incredulity. Over time though, I was convicted of my motives. I was feeling homeschool pride! I felt that we were doing something that typical primary/middle schools didn’t cover- yet we could! Oh, to have the girls run around quoting a few lines of Shakespeare certainly did my homeschooling ego good. (I’m sure that none of the readers to this blog have ever felt such a thing as homeschool mama pride eh? 😉 ) Oi voi! God had other plans. He picked me up and gave me a solid talking to!

Shakespeare is fairly intense. The characters and the plot are complex. The original language certainly is beautiful and rich yet the story versions seemed so watered down. In fact, the story versions are almost twaddle, in my opinion. Twaddle that sees some characters blaspheme or joke about sin. As an adult or young adult, we can learn to discern these things. In fact, Shakespeare can be like a spotlight shining into our lives, revealing sin. Black is not always evil and white is not always pure with Shakespeare, which is how it is in real life but I wonder if it is too confusing for a younger child is who still in the process of learning basic Biblical doctrine.

I don’t want my young children hearing or learning about the racism and prejudice of the Jews. I want them to hear God’s side of the story first. I want them to learn about the history of Israel first. Of course, they will learn of bigotry and racism and hatred, but it won’t be dressed as humour or satire or with cynicism that can be difficult for a young child to discern. I firmly believe there is a time to teach Shakespeare. And the process is still the same: introduce via story versions, mind map the plot and characters, watch a good movie version and study the original play. I just don’t believe it is necessary with younger children. How much better to fill their young minds with Bible stories, stories of nature, stories of heroism, fairy tales, poems, stories that inspire? The time will come when they will need to know about Shakespeare and it is then that we, as parents, need to seize the moment and teach with discernment.

Yes, I have read all the benefits for reading Shakespeare. (Here and here are two well articulated arguments) My girls have already studied many of his plays. Yet I have chosen a different path for the boys (currently aged 10 and 12). Why? I think it is all part of an Identity Directed education…being able to tailor the curriculum…being Spirit Led in the education of each individual child. God knows these boys intimately. He knows the plans he has for them. So I seek Him for the educational direction of each child. This is how He is leading me with my boys. It may not be for you. It may be. What is important is that you, and me, individually seek God for direction of our family and homeschool, that we rely upon Him to meet the needs of our families.

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What do you think? Do you teach Shakespeare to your young children? If so, why? If you don’t, why not? I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts.

(No condemnation, I promise ;))

Homeschool Copyright/Plagiarism issues

Better is the poor who walks in his integrity than one who is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.
Proverbs 19:1

After being quite sick for the last week, I awoke this morning to a horrible, disappointing shock that has left me reeling and very hurt. I feel like I have been robbed. But let me go back a little in time.

Years ago, like most homeschoolers I looked for ways to be frugal in our homeschooling. I learned to use the library a lot. They have some great selections of video’s, DVD’s, and CD’s. Sometimes we wouldn’t get around to watching or listening to them so I came upon the idea of making a copy before returning it to the library. I even felt quite frugal while doing so. After all, if I had to buy that CD I would need to have spent about $40. But now I had saved that. Before long, I ended up with a stack of things that I don’t think I would have needed or used, but as they were free I might as well have them on the shelf, just in case. I had even lent out my resources, feeling fairly sure that the person was going to make their own copy!

Oi voi!

Praise God! He taught me the error of my ways. He did not allow me to stay at that place. He showed me my sin. I was convicted of my wrongdoing. I set apart searching for every little bit of illegal stuff in my house and then we burnt it all. It was a whole family affair. Something started fairly innocently. I did not set out to steal or deceive. I just wanted to save a few pennies…but the fallen nature of man, and the enemy that seeks to devour worked and saw me down a path that I hardly recognised…a path I didn’t set out to take, but ended up there anyway. Thank God that He rescued me from that path and put me on the straight and narrow.

As is often the case with reformed drinkers or smokers, I developed a hot spot (a bug-bear, a passion) for copyright protection and violations. I now stringently try to protect the lawful copyright owner and go to great lengths to ensure that everything I do is above board. I encourage others to always check out the law and consider the use of a Fair Use Policy. Copyright is far more than a list of black and white words- it is legal, ethical, moral and Biblical values.

I administrate a second hand curriculum and resources website. I plaster this site with the homeschool copyright notices and information from homeschoolcopyright.com I want everyone to be informed as to their buying and selling (and borrowing/copying) practices.

Imagine my surprise when I logged on to the Internet this morning to discover a new website has been set up, on the same free board host that Aussie Homeschool Ads is on. That’s okay, I though. Anyone is free to set up their own board. I did not expect this person to set their new board up with the same URL plus one digit. I did not expect them to copy and paste my board structure (ideas which took months to create) on to their own board.

Yes! The board names, the descriptions, the categories (my intellectual property) were all EXACTLY the same as mine! It took hours and lots of effort to come up with those forums and title them and someone has just stolen them!

I ventured into he forum and discovered that some posts that I had written on Aussie Homeschool Ads had in fact been copied and pasted to the new forum…as though this other person had written it. I was livid. I was sad. That was directly stealing my post, my words. Maybe I should have been flattered, but at the time I wasn’t.
Well as with everything in life, I will deal with this…but the reason I blog about it is to increase awareness of homeschool copyright issues (while my issue here is more about fair use, and intellectual property and Christian ethics it still bears a mention).

HomeschoolCopyright.com
Join the Campaign Do you know what is fair and right use of the materials that you use, buy, sell and lend?

Aussie Homeschool Ads and Community Forum

He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.
Psalm 101:7

Some Bible Based Freebies

My family has been laid down with a horrid flu-like virus/bug. It is nasty. Fever, nausea, body aches and vice-like gripping headaches have saw us all have a quiet, lethargic week. Just when I was starting to get back into the swing of things! I have found some goodies on the ‘net for those that like handy dandy tools and gizmo’s. Check out some of these:

INSTAVerse
Do you visit Christian web sites or receive daily devotional emails? Ever want to look up a scripture fast? InstaVerse? by WORDsearch will let you instantly see the actual Bible text for scripture references like John 3:16 ? just point your mouse at it, and the text pops up in your preferred translation! The best part is that InstaVerse with the KJV Bible is free!

Get InstaVerse!

Power Point Bible Maps
In cooperation with eBibleTeacher.com, SearchGodsWord.org is pleased to offer 41 FREE Powerpoint Bible Maps. Ideal for teachers and pastors, each map comes in three different sizes (640, 800, 1024) to suit your needs. Also available is the original PowerPoint file used in the creation of the image files.

Daily Wallpaper for your computer
Heartlight has joined together with Paperquote.com to bring you an exciting feature: Daily Heartlight Wallpaper! Now you can have a new Heartlight image appear on your desktop each morning when you log onto the internet. By simply downloading the free software, you will be downloading new wallpaper for your desktop in no time!

That’s about it from me for this week. I’m off to do some much needed grocery shopping to stock up on some fruit and veg as well as get some party food for tonight is a special celebration! Our youngest, ‘Master C’ , turns from single digits into double digits!!!! Double digits is a pretty big event in our home. Double digits is when one goes from being a boy to a MIT: a Man In Training. It’s special. 🙂

Does Your Child Read Aloud?

Is there any value in having children read aloud? As tedious as it may be, it has tremendous value! I love books! I love reading and I like reading aloud to the whole family. But what about having children read aloud to us?

Family reading

Having a child read aloud is recommended by teachers and experts (and deservedly so) as it has immense benefits such as:

  • diagnosing language and speaking problems,
  • building speaking skills,
  • developing hand/eye coordination between paragraph and page structure,
  • develops vocabulary,
  • stimulates the imagination,
  • encourages creativity with voice and, if practiced regularly, can help with self-confidence and esteem.

Whew! Reading aloud accomplishes an awful lot… so much for such a simple exercise. Exposure to good books will also assist later on in the years with creative writing and journal keeping. Some ideas for writing to read are to:

  • have the child write out your shopping list and then help you with the shopping,
  • read suitable sections of the newspaper with them,
  • create and maintain a journal with them – you write one day, they respond the next day. This provides them with positive feedback in a non-threatening way.

Start Early

While it’s never to late too start having your child read aloud, it’s never too early either! If you think about it, most parents naturally do it anyway. Think about reading those first baby picture books that have pictures of single words like Mum, Dad, house, ball, dog, etc. Parents point to the picture and say the word, hoping for some response from the baby. Then gradually the books change and start to include more Repetition and Rhyme. Small children love repetition and rhyme and it is really important to their development. They will enjoy memorising and anticipating what comes next in a favourite book.

I have my children read aloud when they are learning to read. It isn’t something that is burdensome, it’s quite natural. When I am reading their book or reader with them, I simply ‘buddy read‘ with them. I’ll read a paragraph and then I’ll ask them to read a short passage. if they stumble over a word then I will help them. The goal is to build confidence and develop skills and fluency not to major on every word or expect perfection. Over time, they are able to read larger and more complicated passages. This is fairly standard with new and developing readers. Sadly though, once a child is fairly fluent in reading, many parents stop requiring their child to read aloud. 🙁

Next we might read some short poems. Choose poems that tell a story, have rhyme and rhythm and paint a word picture. Your child will love them!

Then comes the short chapter books with simple sentences where we help our child to decode words and read entire short sentences. As they try to sometimes make mistakes, we are there to help them along the way:correcting mistakes and helping them deal with frustration and congratulating them when they get it right. Once the children are fluent and capable readers there is no read to have them stop. Simply choose harder books and challenge them! 🙂 You can move on to read difficult passages in the Bible using the King James version, unabridged classics, poetry and speeches.

Good Literature

Reading aloud fine works of literature (or fine speeches) is the basis for public speaking (oratory skills) and is especially good for older children and boys. My boys are verbal with each other but not necessarily with me and the rest of the family. They don’t give wonderfully verbose and detailed oral narrations yet I know that they have the knowledge so I require them to read aloud a fair bit- to each other, to me, to their sisters and we still buddy read. I have them read their Bible and poetry out loud.

I also use reading aloud as an elocution (pronunciation) lesson. My boys can tend to mumble so we need to continue to practice it. Plus, I’d like it to be a habit so that they will naturally read to their own children. So why stop it?

My boys do lots of their own reading as they are in the ‘building fluency‘ stage so their books are suited to their developmental stage. When choosing passages for them to read aloud, I try to make them according to their level and ability without being too hard, yet still challenging. I try to challenge my daughters though as they are capable of handling more.

I still have all my children read aloud! It is a skill that needs to be practiced. I find that if we’ve been busy (like moving house or holidays) and I haven’t read aloud even I stumble and sound ‘bitty’ for a few pages until I get back into it. However, I’m not super-mum so I won’t pretend that we do it every day. Like most things, there are times of focus and times when it goes on the back-burner.

Live It! Model It!

If we value books and reading then our children need to see it in practice. Why will they value reading if they never see us read? They may start to believe it is something that only children do, and in their desire for maturity, give it up!

  • Make sure your children see you reading a variety of writing.
  • Make sure that you read aloud a wide variety of literature to them (personally, I think the Bible is the best and most important).
  • As the children get older tell them why it is important for them to know how to read aloud well. Often older children respond well to knowing why they are required to do something- they’ll often give their best once they know what they’re doing it (part of assuming responsibility for their own education).
  • One way for older children to practice reading aloud with character and inflection in a non threatening way is to have them read good books to their younger siblings. Younger children will rarely complain about it and it is also a lovely sibling bonding time. This has worked well in our home.

I think the key is all about giving the children opportunity to practice something- achieve a good standard which will build their confidence, which has the roll on effect of continuing to build necessary skills.

Do your children read aloud? How is it in your family?

Feel free to share via posting a comment or writing on your own blog (just comment me and let me know you’ve posted so I can read your blog).

That Which Is Plain

That which is plain to you and concerns you — do. That is righteousness.

That which is plain to you but does not concern you — do not demand of others. That is judgment.

That which is not plain to you, study, and pray. That is wisdom.

Fr. Tobias S Haller, BSG

Genesis, A Commentary for Children

Genesis, A Commentary for Children is part of the Herein is Love series by Nancy E. Ganz. And I really like it! 🙂

Yes, this is a Bible commentary on the whole book of Genesis, From Paradise to Promised Land – Genesis to Joshua, written to children but it isn’t dumbed down in the slightest. Even adults will learn valuable lessons and gain valuable gems from this book. I nearly cried as I read the Introduction as the author tells why and for whom she wrote this book. Even from reading the introduction I knew that this was a book that I needed to read and needed to share with my children.

This mammoth 545 page book includes 68 lessons and includes a teacher’s study guide to correspond with each lesson. The teacher guide is very similar to what I already do as she suggests the use of visual aids, memory work, craft, review questions, prayer, psalms to sing and a field trip.

This book is one part of a 4 book series that covers the four books of the Old Testament. You can see more about this series at ChristianBooks.com. Simply Click here. The promises of God, His promise of a Saviour, His wonderful grace, mercy and love are delightfully and truthfully told while also telling the stories of history with wonderful accuracy. Cultural and historical insight is offered throughout this doctrinally correct yet warmly written and captivating storehouse of God’s truths. It would be able to be used as part of family worship or it could be read daily by an individual student who is accustomed to reading independently.

I cannot wait to finish Genesis so we can start the next book. If you have children from 6 years and older, love the Scriptures and love to teach your children about the Scriptures, then will will want this book. Aussies can purchas at Light Educational Ministries.  Or you can buy the Herein is Love Series at ChristianBook.com

Bless you as you strive to teach the ways of God to your children.

Reading for today…striving to find a sense of normality

Well, we’ve been in this house for over one week now but I have to say that this seems like one of the hardest, longest moves we’ve done in quite awhile. I don’t know if it is because it wasn’t an interstate move and only 20 kms away or that we’re just plain tuckered out but we are nowhere near settled. Not wanting to wait until everything is perfect, I wanted to start easing into lessons today- sounds good eh? Until ‘Miss A’ couldn’t find the MUS DVD needed for her Maths. Oh well, she did Wordly Wise and read 2 books before going to work.

The boys and I read some from the Psalms and Proverbs and then we read a devotional lesson from Training Hearts, Teaching Minds: Family Devotions Based on the Shorter Catechism by Starr Meade.

We also read another chapter from Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Steps to Becoming a Man
by Bob Schultz which always challenges the boys.
The boys listened as I read aloud a poem by William Blake and then they practiced their oral skills by reading it aloud themselves.

The major highlight was starting William Wilberforce: The Freedom Fighter by Derick Bingham. We are preparing to watch the movie when it comes to a cinema near us. Is anyone else reading a biography of this man’s life in preparation for the movie? I’d love to hear about your reading and discussion.

This afternoon, I’m taking ‘Miss R’ to the library so she can get some good books to read while she waits to go back to school on Thursday. Then I need to try and make sense of the study or the lounge room. Everything is in the rooms, just not where they should be. I can’t put my hand on books that I want- there just seems to be less room here even though the measurements of the house don’t agree.

Also, please continue to pray for Robin (from Heart of Wisdom) who had to go back into hospital following her heart bypass surgery. You can find updates on her blog. Your prayers for her and her family would be most appreciated.

Oh well, that’s all for now.

Where we've been…

Whew! What a few weeks it has been. A few weeks ago, we went to Sydney to watch ‘Miss A’ play in a softball tournament for the Youth Development Squad for Australia. It wasn’t too bad except two children didn’t want to be there and are totally bored by it all (their idea of fun is not to spend 10 hours a day in the cold watching training and games- how can they not enjoy that?) and it was freezing cold. we did pop into Featherdale Wildlife park which was good but two of us came down a little ill and we had to leave for the cabin early. It was a good week of softball. We arrived home (to QLD), after a 1400km drive home (leaving at 3.30am). We plonked ourselves into bed (on the Friday) and prepared mentally for a rough few days.

We awoke the next morning (Sat) to laundry and getting ready to move house. We continued laundry and packing and cleaning of the yard on Sunday and early on Monday morning the sole packer arrived to start prepacking our belongings. It was a very late night. Bright, crisp and early on Tuesday morning, the removalists arrived and started finishing the packing, all the while bemoaning the amount of books that one family can own. They then spent the rest of the day and early evening uplifting our things into the truck while John and I stayed late to do the final clean of the house. ‘Miss A’ worked on both days and I really missed her help. ‘Miss R’ and the boys pulled their weight though with the washing of walls and yard work.

We all arrived at the new house on Wednesday and the fun (chaos) really began. The removalists just drop the boxes and have little idea of where to put everything. We could require them to unpack everything but by 2pm I was sick of them and just wanted them to leave my new home and let me get to work. Our first priority is to do the children’s bedrooms so they have a quiet place to retreat to and they can sleep at night. Then we do the kitchen. Suffice to say that John and I slept on the couch that night. The next day (Thursday) John got the washing machine going and made a fence to keep the dog contained and we started unpacking some of the 450 boxes of belongings!!! We’re about half way through.

John always does his homework with regard to internet connection to a new location and this whole area is serviceable, EXCEPT for this cul-de-sac!!!!! So being unable to survive on dial-up, he went searching for new ideas. We’re now connected to wireless broadband which is good but a little slower than our previous speed. Oh well, I’m just glad we don’t have download limits or times.

My house is about 60% unpacked and ordered. We had our first home cooked meal in 3 weeks tonight! / / /

Anyway, that’s the very brief description of what our time has been like. I stumbled across a cool section from TIME and it shows a photographic snapshot of 15 different family meal tables around the globe. Check it out– it’s very interesting…

Small, Average or Great Minds

Routines and family life changes as the children get older and start to spread their wings. John works, ‘Miss A’ goes off to work and softball, ‘Miss R’ goes to school, leaving the boys and I at home to learn, live and love together. While I thoroughly enjoy my time with the boys, I miss the girls. So our family meal table is often loud and harried with thoughts, comments and opinions flying everywhere. Often though, the thoughts expressed can start to become negative or critical so we’ve used a variety of ways to put a stop to that.

Using the THINK principle often cements life-giving, true principles into our minds but after reminding the children of the THINK principle, the conversation can often go quiet. 😉 I came across a great quote by Eleanor Roosevelt and we have printed it out. The children even quote it to one another now. We call it Great Minds.

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”
~Eleanor Roosevelt

What do you discuss? Do you encourage your children to discuss people, events or ideas? Are you modeling these principles? It’s a challenging thought, isn’t it? One way I’ve found to discuss events is to talk about the day’s learning and studying activities or to discuss a current event. Good, living books are filled with great ideas that will stimulate your mind. Good T.V. shows can do the same. Twaddly books and shows will lead into the discussion of people, which is nearly always negative.

In what ways do you encourage your children toward discussing ideas and events rather than people?

Is Body for Life Suitable for Homeschool Mums?

The other day I received an email from a fellow Aussie homeschooler questioning why I seemed to advertise books by Bill Phillips (Body for Life) and Tom Venuto (Burn the Fat). You can see the page in question here. I thought that maybe other’s might have thought the same, so here is my response.

Hi,

Thanks for your email. I’m not quite sure what you mean about not expecting to read about exercise/fitness on my site. Firstly, I’m not advertising them. I don’t receive any commission or any profit whatsoever from my sites or writings. I write about things that have helped me in my walk [as a believer in Christ, a woman and a homeschooler].

Have you read BFL or Tom’s Burn the Fat book? If so, what did you think of them? [If any reader’s have read the books and/or used the programs, feel free to leave a comment].

Over the years I have struggled with my weight and have tried virtually every diet and exercise program known to man. I know of them all- but applying them by doing them is another story. However, I am learning more and more about it all. I am learning how important resistance training is for women. Oh I know that most homeschool mums want to learn about nutrition but sadly, the physical side of health is often neglected in homeschool circles.

Homeschooling is a marathon, not a sprint. Homeschooling long term requires endurance both physical and emotional. Nutrition, strength and fitness are essential for endurance. I don’t believe that [only] cardio is enough to develop and maintain good health and fitness.

Then, I read Body for Life which taught me about resistance training and how beneficial it is for weight loss but also for health. I also read Tom Venuto’s book. These are the best books on the subject, IMO. They provide balanced information.

I used to be an athlete (many years ago) but since getting married, I let my fitness go. My daughter is an athlete and being in good physical shape is important to her sport. While my other children have not chosen to pursue a career or an interest in sports I still think it is vitally important to be strong and healthy and fit, especially for males. So, I want to set a good example- by living it! I can’t expect my sons to pursue health, fitness and strength if I’m not prepared to be an example!

We need a healthy measure of good nutrition, cardio exercise and strength training. Building strong bones and muscles is important in the prevention of osteoporosis. It is also a key to losing weight! Jeannie Fulbright’s messages are the BFL program in a nutshell…and she is a Christian as well. But I don’t believe that we can’t learn things from people just because they aren’t professing believers. Just like anything else found on the Internet, there are extreme’s…but I?m not one to throw the baby out with the bath water. I tend to take the meat and spit out the bones! 🙂

While I do take care with providing links from my site I do have a disclaimer as well. However, after research I know of no reason why I shouldn’t mention these fellows’ work.

After much trial and error and finding the long way round things, I thought I’d share what I have found to be the best ways to health and fitness.

I hope this answers any questions. If not, feel free to ask me to clarify further. 🙂

In His Grace,

Holiday and moving-whew!

Can you imagine a show ride that would be a mixture of the huge, fast, scary roller-coaster combined with the whirliness of the ‘Tornado’ ride? Well, I have my ticket and I’m preparing to board.

I tell you, life with my husband is never boring! My mother used to call John ‘The Tornado’ and it was exciting when I was 20. Now, it’s still exciting but it’s also tiring. I guess I can’t lay the blame all at his feet though- some of it is just life…life with children.

After much house hunting, we finally have a house to go to. It ended up being a DHA home, after all that looking around and comparing we did. Oh well, at least we have a house with a smallish back yard that is large enough for the boys and I to do a little gardening.

Regular readers of this blog may recall that my 16yodd is an athlete. She was selected to represent Australia in the U/19 Youth Development Squad so we are off to Sydney next week to watch her train and play. She has been training for this since January. I’ve been proud of her as she has matured through her sport. She now spends many hours in individual training- not because I or a coach is pushing her but because she wants to. She knows what she must do in order to be physically and mentally ready and she has been slowly and steadily preparing herself, as best she can.

We head off in seven days. We’ll be gone for nine days. We get back home and unload our bags just in time to start packing the house as two days later, the packers will be here to start packing the house! One the third day after arriving home, we move to our new home! How it will pan out is beyond my understanding. How I will cope with it all is something I do not know. However, looking on the bright side, at least it is something that isn’t going to drag on and on- within a few short weeks, it will all be over and done with and we’ll be settled into our new place.

I’m looking at schools in the area for my 14yodd. The local school has an emphasis on arts, music and drama so she is looking forward to that. Naturally, she is feeling a bit of a pull at the moment as she emotionally prepares to leave her friends again. In the big picture, I’m sure it means lots of life experience and life skills for her, but it is painful at the time.

The boys are excited…our home is in a cul-de-sac again, which means that they play outside! Yay!! We have no backyard here and it is a busy road so they don’t go outside much, which isn’t too exciting if you’re a boy! We’re looking at planting a few herbs and vegetables once we get settled.

Me? I’m looking forward to being somewhere longer than 12 months. This posting is at minimum 18months with a possibility of 3 years, so I find that pretty exciting. Did I mention that I love the weather here? Yesterday, the coldest period was 9 degrees but in poor ACT 8 degrees was the warmest! Oh, while I love my friends in Canberra I don’t miss the weather.

If I don’t post often over the next month, this is why. Going away and moving house can have that effect. 🙂

Bible Study This Week…

We’ve been so busy house-hunting for a rental house that there hasn’t been much time for anything else. Anything else except AFL (Aussie Rules football, of course!). We drove to the Gold Coast on Saturday night to the watch the Adelaide Crows beat North Melbourne. It was a good night out.

I find it hard living in ‘limbo‘, not knowing what my week will hold. We could pack and move this week, next week or in two months time. Then there is the open inspections that we have to attend in order to see if a house is suitable. All this meant that we didn’t do any lessons last week- and it wore me out!

While this week may be similar, I really desire to at least do Bible study with the children. If nothing more is done, then that is fine…but at least I want the most important things tended to. I don’t need to do large, overwhelming lessons rather ‘here a little, there a little‘ lessons will enable me to reach the target.

I will be working with ‘Miss A’ this week, through a book called Help Me to Grow and it is by Rev. John Annells, who is a local Baptist minister in South Australia. He is also a lecturer at the Baptist Theological College and Tabor College. This study has been designed for the new Christian and while ‘Miss A’ has been raised in the ways and knowledge of God, this study will still be beneficial for her, as she slowly starts to make her way into the world. She will benefit in also learning to articulate her thoughts. She has a lot of knowledge and wisdom when it comes to being a believer but she often has difficulty in communicating her thoughts.

Anyway, this fabulous little book is available FREE online (as is most books from New Creation Teaching Ministries) so you can view the page here or download the pdf here. It is only 345 kb.

The boys and I will continue to go through ‘Training Hearts, Training Minds’, as we read the Scriptures. After finishing book 3 in the Kingdom series, we will go on to read Bridge to Terabitha. We are waiting for the next books in Kingdom Series to arrive from the US. Once we finish Bridge to Terabitha, we might go to the cinema to watch the movie. That will be a real treat- just the boys and I. Leonie posted the links to the movie site and a study guide that I will glean some tips from. Thanks Leonie!

What Bible study are you doing with your teens? I’d love to hear about it.

Another help for RSS and feeds

I have previously posted about using RSS for feeds where I tried to explain that instead of visiting sites daily to see if they’ve been updated (which is time consuming), you can subscribe to many sites via a feed reader (RSS) where the information you choose to be notified of, comes directly to you (a time saver).

Here is a short, 3.5min video which explains it very well. If you are confused about using RSS feeds but want to know more, this video is for you. The short video will teach you why feeds are good and how to set one up. This video will teach you, the homeschool mum, how to make the most of your time.

Let me know if you find this sort of information helpful. 🙂


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Alternatively, you can visit the website and view it there.

Training Children in Innocence or Ignorance?

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In my day-to-day world of homeschooling, I often have cause to remember why we chose to homeschool…what is it exactly we are trying to teach or instil to our children?

Are we raising our children to live in this world as productive members of the community where God has planted them or are we raising them for something else? Like you, John and I live in this world. We are not of this world but we do live in it. We are quite aware of the worldly and sinful acts that are committed each day. We are also aware that Christ died for us while we were sinners. What makes me different from the people down the street who are keeping us awake and having John stay up all night to ward off stray drunkards from relieving themselves on our car? Is it that we are better? More pure? Or is it simply that God revealed Himself to us, and revealed His love to us through Christ the Saviour and that we (after having that revealed to us and having our eyes opened) saw and believed the truths of the gospel? It is the latter.

Some people live in a way that separates them from the mainstream world and this might be right for them, but it isn’t our life, nor the way we believe God would have us live or raise our children. Therefore, if my children are going to go into the world as adults, then they will need to be educated/equipped with skills to handle it. So, as we walk down the road of life we have our children with us all of the time. This has seen them exposed to many, many things which would make some Christians shudder but it fits in with our deliberate and purposed training plan for our children. There are things that we discuss, read and watch that may not be ‘pure’ as such, but we find them to be a beneficial training aid which assists us to work toward our goal.

When it comes to literature, I have tried to either pre-read everything or I go on the advice and recommendations of trusted and respected friends and other parents of whom I know their worldview. This doesn’t always work though. I once took the advice of a friend and allowed ‘Miss A’ to read a book that went against my initial promptings but my friend felt it was suitable for her son and encouraged me to read (a whole ‘nother topic) Once ‘Miss A’ started narrating it to me, I was horrified! Shocked! It introduced concepts that we hadn’t discussed yet… I knew we would discuss them one day but I wanted to be the one to introduce her to those concepts, not a secular author and their worldview. Oh, a battle raged within my own self. Do I stop her reading the rest of the book, and possibly turn her heart against sharing with me or do I allow her to read it but spend a good deal of time in discussion? I chose to do the latter and we actually had some good conversations and many opportunities were raised for me to share our thoughts and views of the world. For me, narration is good but discussion is the best!

Raising children to be kids or adults? The end goal?

We are raising our children to become mature adults. Yet they will live in a time and era like has never been before. This new age of technology and progression opens a whole world of issues such has never occurred in history before. Our children have a task ahead of them that we cannot even begin to comprehend! Oh the strength needed, the responsibility…Whilst we wish to preserve our children’s innocence, this can often mean that they are grown to adulthood yet ignorant. I’m not convinced that this is the best way to raise a child who is required to live in the world. Boys need to develop in strength and character, firmness and masculinity…how do we work toward that? Some thing in life just happen! We can’t shield them from everything and sometimes literature (or well chosen television shows) can be a good way to introduce those hard or difficult concepts to a young person. (In fact, it is here that I may lose some readers)  Science fiction can be good for tackling these type of ethical, moral and social issues in an ‘otherworld‘ setting. Yes, in real life people are tortured, have their eyes gouged out; people do get raped and murdered, run over by cars, commit fornication, etc. (Goodness, I’d have to rip out quite a few pages in their Bible if I didn’t have them reading about the evil acts in the world) In our house, we don’t avoid talking about those things- we discuss them openly as then we are able to teach the children our values and God’s standards and thoughts about it all. But this is part of our ‘innocence not necessarily ignorance plan‘. Are we right? I don’t know. Time will tell. I might not see the fruits of my parenting until I see how my children parent their own children.

I have thought a lot over the last few months about the difference between ignorant and innocent. I will paraphrase but Webster defines ignorant as:

  • Destitute of knowledge; uninstructed or uninformed; untaught; unenlightened.

and it defines innocent as:

  • Free from guilt; not having done wrong or violated any law; not tainted with sin; pure; upright.

 

Offence or defence? Is there a balance?

As a softballer I use analogies that parallel with my sport. When I am coaching a team, it is important the team learns how to bat well and run the bases. This is our offensive game. We spend a lot of time training in this area. We also spend a lot of time in defense… practicing set strategic plays to defend the opposition’s offensive game. I also spend some time in watching and studying the opposing teams. Sometimes, I will send charters over to watch their games and chart the strong or influential players- looking for their strengths and weaknesses. This is an important part of my role as coach. It is necessary that I am aware of their style of play so that I can teach my own team in the ways of suitable defence. As a coach, I cannot afford to be ignorant of the tactics that the other team may use. On the other hand, I don’t need to over stress about them either. This could lead to our own team being ill prepared due to focussing on the other team rather than preparing ourselves offensively and defensively.

I guess it’s a little like that for me with parenting. My children will one day be Out There in the world, without me to help them or make decision for them. I don’t want them to be ill prepared…I want them to be equipped to stand firm in their beliefs and convictions. To do this, I think they need to be aware of the pitfalls and the subtleties of them, else it be easy for them to fall. However, I also want them to be free from the guilt of such things…I don’t desire that they engage in the sinful activities. This is the best way I can try to explain what I mean when I say that part of our parenting plan is to train in innocence not necessarily ignorance. We are raising our children to live in the world yet not be of the world.

Building immunity

I wonder if I can push the limits by talking about another (yet also imperfect) analogy. Knowing that our children will one day be Out There in the world, I also know that they will be exposed to chicken pox and other nasty infections. When they were little, I didn’t put them into a sterile, glass bubble to protect them from all possible infection. Instead, I allowed them to build immunities to low-level pathogens whilst in their environment. Sometimes, they got sick. (Most of my children have had chicken pox). However, by building up their immune system, when they are older and are confronted with more serious possible infections, they will be better prepared to defend themselves. If you know your children will be one day in the world, needing to make decisions for themselves, how are you inoculating them? Are your methods guiding them toward maturity and responsibility, so that they will be capable of making their own wise choices when bombarded by the ways of the world?

Having said all that, I am careful with what our children read and watch. I like to know the worldview or philosophy of the author (not that I have to agree but I need to know so that I can tackle it). I like to know the details of the book. From what position does the author write- for/against? If I’m in doubt, I will pre-read it. If I don’t get time, I’ll research it on the Internet. If I don’t get around to that, I will search the homeschool catalogues and ask on homeschool forums for a review. If I still come up empty-handed, I will err on the side of caution and put the book/movie on the back burner till later.

For your obedience is known to all, so that I rejoice over you, but I want you to be wise as to what is good and innocent as to what is evil.
Romans 16:19

I do want to reiterate that we don’t blindly allow our children to watch, read, discuss or study sinful or worldly ideas. We are careful in what we choose to expose them to.

If we make every decision for our [older] children, then how is this training them to make wise choices? Sometimes, allowing a child to make a decision which may not be the best, yet in the loving guidance of the family home, can be turned around to achieve some benefit. It can also allow them to develop a sense of responsibility after all, they will not always be under our authority. Are we training them to always be under our authority or to one day be self governed? Some people say that experience is the best teacher. Well, whether or not that is true is beyond the scope of this post but I know I would rather my children learn responsibility in decisions and learn about the world through the controlled ways of literature in our home than by personal experience via immersion once they are adults. That is a rockier and longer path to travel.

If, after reading this, anyone has any questions, please ask me to clarify or send an email. I don’t want to think that I would be encouraging anyone to think that we are careless or thoughtless about our parenting approach.

As always, seek first the Kingdom of God.

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Creation Museum Opening

We saw a brief report on the opening of the new Creation Museum in the US. Not only are we Creationists but take a slight special interest in Ken Ham as he was instrumental in John’s conversion to Christianity many years ago.

I couldn’t believe that there were protesters present at the opening of the museum. Christian’s are often called fanatics and I can see how that is, but I also don’t understand the depth of the anger that some protesters displayed. The museum is not committing acts of murder or injustice…it simply presents the biblical alternative to the history of the world. Creation / Evolution certainly hits at the crux of everyone’s core beliefs.

We’ve used a few good resources. Answers in Genesis always have great, thorough resources, especially It All Begins with Genesis but Heart of Wisdom (the store is called Homeschool-Books.com) also has a wonderful study. When is the last time you discussed Evolution theories with your children? Do you children study Creation? What resources have you used?
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I’d like to encourage you to talk with your children today or over the weekend, of the beauty, the majesty and the wonder of God’s creation. It is my hope and prayer that the first eleven chapters of Genesis will not just be a nice story that our children recite rather that they will be well versed in the science of creation and be that they will be equipped to answer objections and untruths.

Things To Do Each Day

So much of real life is happening that I don’t have time to post any inspiring or deep and meaningful posts. Instead, I’ll post some things I try to do each day. These are also things I encourage my children to do each day.

What about you? What are some important things that you do daily?
Smiles, hugs and positive, warm words.
Prayer.
Some Scripture reading.
Good books.
Some discussion
Some copy work.
Some ideas to ponder
Free time
Positive work
A work of servanthood

People will learn what they need to know, when they need to know it.

People will learn what they need to know, when they need to know it.

 

 

People WILL learn what they need to know, when they need to know it.

People will learn WHAT they need to know, when they need to know it.

People will learn what THEY NEED to know, when they need to know it.

People will learn what they need to know, WHEN they need to know it.

People WILL learn WHAT THEY NEED to know, WHEN they need to know it.

What an interesting statement. It’s one of those statements that can encapsulate an educational philosophy…not totally define it but summarise, supplement and complement one’s own philosophy of education.

Kitchen Duties

Meal times can be a wonderful family event…but they can also be messy. (Surely I’m not the only one who has messy meal times?) Do you teach your children how to clean up after the family meal. I believe it is an important skill to learn. There is quite a bit involved from hygiene to sequencing and organisation skills. My eldest daughter is able to go into a full blown messy kitchen that has been used to prepare a four course meal for 10 in, and get in ship-shape in less than an hour. She has an organisational system that works for her! Yet, it isn’t the system that I taught her. She developed this system after learning how to do it my way, but after that I left her alone to tackle it for herself…she developed her own system from there. I’m not fussed! She can do the task cheerfully and quickly and thoroughly- I have no problem with that! 😀

We have a duty roster for meal time clean up. There is a pre-meal cleanup, a table and floor clean and a general post meal kitchen duty. One child is alloted a duty although it is now open to a little trading if someone isn’t well or has been at work all day.

I found it wasn’t enough just to show the children how a job is to be done. I had to show them while I explained it. Then I had them do it while I supervised and assisted them. Then, they still need supervision for a few times. Then, I trusted them and let them go with more freedom. However, this freedom only lasts while the child does the chores thoroughly and completely.

I found that having the chores clearly marked and within easy reach for the children to see was beneficial. I created a Duty Sheet that is on our fridge. The children know clearly what is expected of them for each duty. I’ve found that this is very important. You can have a look at it at this link. You may use it if you like although these things are quite individual to family needs so I suspect that you’d want to create your own. 🙂 Our roster system has developed over the years. Our children are now old enough to do all the tasks by themselves whereas they needed more supervision and help when they were younger.

Moving house sometime…again

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I spent the first 18 years of my life in one town, one house. Very secure and stable. I married my dear husband and have moved around ever since!

In the last 6 years we have moved house 4 times…and we’re off again! Some might say that it doesn’t really count if you’re only moving 10 kms away but when you are a homeshcooling family (books and computers), it really does count!

All the moves are unsettling to the older children. There’s no easy way to say it. I’d like to not complain but it is hard on them. They want to put down some roots, which can be important in knowing one’s identity. Instead, they’ll have to change school (my 14yod attends school), make new friends yet again, find a new church and youth group, and get a new part time job. We’ve only been in this house for 12 months. My girls do a fantastic job of handling all this, each in their own way, but it would be nice to be in one place for a few years.

We have always tried to find positives in each move, even though at times this has been hard. Doing this though has been a great teacher- our children have learned to look for the positives in situations…even situations that are out of our control. We remind them that are having the opportunity to not only see parts of our beautiful country but to live in the state and city and truly experience it. This is far different to a quick holiday.

So over the next month or so, if I’m not around much it will be because I’m busy packing again.

Christian Labels

Who likes those Mac/PC ads? Oh, when they air and we’re all watching tv the children and John all turn the volume up so we can have a giggle. um, er belly laugh. Even though we don’t own a Mac, the reason we don’t own a Mac is a financial one.

Anyway, GodTube.com has put together a series of parodies, based on these characters and they’re quite good. Oh some may find them offensive but those who are either ‘in the trenches’ or have worked in ministry, or those who have simply been a believer long enough to see the changing tides of the appearance of Christianity might see the irony in the subtle humour. These kind of things are meant to be exaggerated. There is more to being a Christian than looking like one. It is less about how we dress and how big our Christian library is and more about how we live…how we love and serve other’s who are not able to return that kindness or those who do not know His grace. Around our country we can see many people who identify themselves as ‘Christian’ yet they live to please themselves. Have you ever asked yourself what would you do if you were on the way to church and there was a car broken down on the side of the road? Would you stop and risk being late to church or not making it there at all? Or would you just pray for them asking that God would send someone along who could help them?

Jesus was not a Christian. He never asked anyone to become a Christian, never built a steepled building, never drew up a theological treatise, never took an offering, never wore religious garments, never incorporated for tax purposes. He simply called people to follow him.
Jesus with Dirty Feet

So, this begs the question, what is a Christian? Is it someone who goes to church? Puts a bumper sticker on their car? Decorates their home with pretty pictures with scriptures on it? Someone who dresses well for church and rarely misses a prayer meeting? Or is it someone who doesn’t swear, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t dress fashionably? So then, what does a Christian homeschooler look like? Do they wear brown dresses and braid their hair? Do they wear makeup? Do they bake their own bread? Do they use an approved Bible curriculum? I believe we all have our own ideas of what Christian should look like, or what is acceptable. We have put labels on Christianity! We have put Christianity into a box and labeled it. We love to have the Holy Spirit in our church meetings so we can feel His presence but do we allow the Holy Spirit to do His work in the lives of that young, unmarried mother who still runs outside after church to have a cigarette? There are so many ways in which we try to be the Holy Spirit in other’s lives. We need to stop! I need to stop! I need to rest in the fact that the Holy Spirit will do the work of convicting others…surely I have enough to tend to by acting justly, loving mercy, walking humbling with my God?

Am I a Christian or a follower of Christ? Do I preach Christianity or the good news of Jesus Christ: that He, being the Messiah, died, rose again to conquer death and that all we need do is to believe in Him, repent of our sin and receive forgiveness.

Teach Children to Plan with Index Cards

What is it about children that they always want the opposite? 😉

My girls always wanted to be independent in everything when they were young. Of course, as the 16yodd gets older, she is becoming more aware that independence comes with responsibility but that’s a growing process. Yet the boys aren’t in any hurry to be independent. I’m not overly fussed about this as they will have a lifetime of responsibility as they mature. However, it is my duty to train them toward maturity and responsibility and independence.

One of the ways I use to train is the area of academics or lessons. Maybe it is my method or maybe it is something else but having self directed learning boys has not been easy for me- they seem to struggle with it. We used to have learning journals, where they would record the things they had done each day, but these would only get filled in for a day or so before they’d lose interest or lose the journal! It ended up being my responsibility, which defeats the purpose of the exercise.

‘Miss A’ is very self directed and motivated with her softball and fitness. I offer little bits and pieces where I can. I suggested that she might like to use a more visual system for keeping track of what she has done throughout the week. She liked this idea and set about doing it. She got the coloured index cards, wrote on them and sticks them on the wall when she has completed her workout. She likes it! It gives immediate feedback.

So I thought that type of system might work for the boys with their lessons. Well, it’s only been one week but it is still assisting them to record their lessons.

I used blue and yellow index cards and wrote out a week’s worth of their lessons. There are:

  • 5 Math cards
  • 5 Copy work cards
  • 5 Spelling/Wordly Wise cards
  • 5 Literature reading cards
  • 3 Science cards
  • 3 History cards
  • 3 Geography cards
  • 1 Personal development card
  • 5 Practice reading aloud cards
  • 5 listening to read aloud cards

Each day, as they have completed a lesson, they blu-tac the card to the wall. This provides immediate, visual feedback, which is a good motivator. They can also see how many lessons they have left to complete, which helped them to plan what they would do next. I taught the girls how to plan and record using notebooks or journals but the boys found this difficult. But this is something visual and hands-on! This seems to be working, at least for now. 🙂

Our weekly domestic science routine

Clean n Fresh pictureMotivated by Jacqui’s post on ‘running a home‘, I will preface this post by saying that I am not a highly organised person. I like the cosy warmth of clutter. I love my ornaments and nick-knacks as they all have a story behind them…they have sentimental value. I can’t take them with me when I go to be with the Lord, and I can live without them, but they are like good friends- I like to have them around.

I used to love decorating and making my home a cosy place to retreat but it has become harder to do as we move around frequently. I also find that modern homes, while clean and lovely, don’t have the same warmth and character- they lack the homey ambiance of older homes. However, I didn’t set out to write about decorating or house style but organisation so I need to get back to the point!

So I’m not overly organised…my home gets messy but it’s always clean. I can look beyond clutter. Okay, I can even look beyond dust but I can’t look beyond dirt or filth. I loved homeschooling in our home! I could hang time lines on the wall…and draw the measuring chart on the architrave, and hang beautiful pictures on the wall. This is not practical in the homes we have been living in…especially as we’ve only been in them for approximately 12-18 months at a time.

My mother always told me that the most important things to get done in the morning are the beds to be made, dishes done and the bathroom needs a quick wipe over. I can get this done. This way, if I have friends or company drop in unexpectedly I don’t mind. Since we’ve been in the rental homes I struggle with just doing this before lessons. I often want the house to be spotless (or my version of immaculate) before I start our lessons but the problem with this is that by the time all the work is done, I’m tired and it’s time to start cooking tea! So, I know that doesn’t work. So, here’s a brief run down of my weekly routine.

I have days set aside where I aim to get certain things done. However, they may not always happen on those days- it depends on who is working on what days and who has to be where!

Each day, the boys unstack the dishwasher and drainer board. They also clean down the table and re-stack the dishwasher. I tried something new last week. John could either the whole kitchen (which is not easy after a cooked breakfast) or I’m happy to clean it but he must do copy work for the whole time it takes me to clean. This gives him a choice…and it helps me to get done quickly as I know he can’t write for an hour!

On Monday, I like to go right through the house and clean all the floors– vacuuming and mopping. This gives me a fresh start to the week. Clean floors and a clean kitchen. But Monday is also my laundry day. I get any linen done along with the dark clothes from the weekend. I aim to have them washed, dried and put away by 4pm. I have one more load to do but can’t do them until after tea, as it is ‘Miss A’ ‘s white shirt that needs soaking (it gets covered in coffee) and then washing.
I try to prepare a meal that I can divide into two meals as I will be out on Tuesday night so I like it to be prepared so it can be just reheated and eaten.

Tuesday is a day where we watch a movie, clean a particular troublesome area, spend more time on lessons – we just enjoy being together. We do try and have a quick Neat ‘n’ Tidy about 4pm, in time for Dad to come home to a fairly neat home. If I bake treats, then today will be the day.

Wednesday is another laundry day. I have soaked ‘Miss A’ ‘s whites the night before and they can be washed and hung out in the sun to dry and be sun bleached. Oh confession time. I don’t hang underwear (except white singlets), socks, handkerchiefs or other fiddly, small items on the line. I used to but not anymore, for two reasons. I love the feel of crisp, sun bleached clothes but we only have one of those clothes lines that folds up alongside the dark, sheltered side of the house. (Why they install them in the shade, I will never understand) I also have decided to maximise my time. Honestly, socks don’t last that long in my house anyway so there’s no need for me to try and preserve them as thoroughly as I might other items of clothing. So, I tumble dry them! So much easier and quicker. I think to myself, “What would I rather do? Cook a meal, iron a shirt, write a blog post, read a book or play a game with my children, speak on the phone with my dad or hang up socks ‘n’ jocks!!!!” I would rather do all those things rather than hang up socks.

Anyway, I aim to have the loads of laundry, washed, dried and put away by 4pm. Along with a meal on the table after ‘Miss A’ has cleaned the kitchen. She is home today so she does this job for me. John Jr. vacuums on Wednesday – the whole house. ‘Master C’ does excellent 15 minute tidies. He goes around and put all the stray things away where they belong- shoes in people’s rooms, blocks in drawers, books in booknook, pens, cups, papers, etc.

Thursday is the day where I sit and organise my finances and look through catalogues for specials in preparation for our Out and About Day on Friday. We do a quick Neat ‘n’ Tidy in preparation for John to come home. If I bake treats, then today will also be the day. I’ll also try to organise an easy meal that can be reheated as I am out at softball again tonight. It isn’t that I’m gone for a long time, rather that it is just at our usual meal time.

Friday is a big day for me. If it is not Out and About Day, we will clean the house, vacuum and do bathrooms, etc. It is also laundry day, in preparation for the weekend. If it is Out and About Day, I’ll only clean the fridge and kitchen so I have somewhere to put groceries once we’ve done the shopping.

Saturday– If it is Out and About week, then I won’t have cleaned the house so I try and organise everyone with jobs so we can tackle the usually mammoth task of cleaning the home in preparation for the weekend- I like to make myself available for John if he ever wants to do something. This is usually my Rest Day.

On Sunday I will usually put on one load of laundry and this will be John’s clothes from work. I’ll get them washed and ironed today. We may do a quick Neat ‘n’ Tidy in the afternoon, so that we get a swift start to Monday morning but this doesn’t always happen.
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This is the routine that I have created while in this house, in this situation. However, the routine changes with each move…and as the children get older. With ‘Miss A’ working 2 full days per week now, my laundry routine has changed. John also doesn’t come home for lunch nowadays which seems to give me a few extra hours in my day. I loved it when he came home from work but it did eat into my day a lot and I found I was often behind in work.

After being in a new house for a few months, allowing the new routine to settle, I ask John in what ways I can serve him better or more effectively. He does not like to answer this as we live by grace in our home but he has learned that I need this in order to focus- it is really helpful for me. So now, I try to always have the clothes washed, dried and put away. Does it always happen? No way! But it is a focus point…without it, we’ll never have clean clothes that are easily accessible but I’ll get loads of lessons done or wonderfully lavish meals cooked.

In summary:

Focus Areas:

Monday: Floors | Laundry
Tuesday: Bake | Meal Prep | Odd jobs
Wednesday: Laundry
Thursday: Finances | Grocery List | Meal Prep | Bake
Friday: Floors | Laundry | Bathrooms |
Alternate Friday: Out and About Day | Clean fridge
Saturday: Quick Clean | Rest Day
Sunday: Neat ‘n’ Tidy | One load of laundry

Christian Biographies

Christian Biographies

A few years ago, I felt strongly impressed of God to read more biographies of believers to my children. We have read some of the book published by YWAM and the Trailblazer books by Dave and Neta Jackson
New Creation Teaching Ministries is an excellent teaching ministry that John sat under for years.

John Bunyan
http://www.newcreation.org.au/books/covers/297.html
George Muller
http://www.newcreation.org.au/books/covers/326.html
John Newton
http://www.newcreation.org.au/books/covers/285.html
Charles Spurgeon
http://www.newcreation.org.au/books/covers/278.html
George Whitefield
http://www.newcreation.org.au/books/covers/288.html
John Knox
http://www.newcreation.org.au/studies/pdf/johnknox.pdf
all by Rev. Dean Carter
Great for adults and high school aged students.

And some more links from my bookmarks:

Christian Heroes
http://www.christianheroes.com/

Christian Biography Resources
http://www.wholesomewords.org/biography/bio.html

List of carefully chosen biographies for purchase at Grace and Truth
http://www.graceandtruthbooks.com/biographies/default.asp

Biographies of Baptised Believers
http://www.21tnt.com/biographies.htm

Sword of the Lord Biographies
http://www.swordofthelord.com/biographies.htm

Fire and Ice: History & Biography
http://puritansermons.com/hist.htm

James Kiefer’s Christian Biographies
http://elvis.rowan.edu/~kilroy/JEK/home.html

Awake and Go! Biographies
http://www.watchword.org//index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=3&Itemid=4

Biographical Sketches at DesiringGod
http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/Biographies/

Spiritual Journeys of Great Christians at In Touch Ministries
http://www.intouch.org/myintouch/mighty/portraits/index_77957.html

Christian Biographies, Biographical Sketches, Puritan Biographies
http://www.graceonlinelibrary.org/articles/default.asp?id=38

A few biographies at BibleBelievers
http://www.biblebelievers.com/biographies.html

Sir Wilferd Grenfell – To show the need to beware of FRAUD in “Christian” biographies
http://christianbeliefs.org/biographies/grenfell.html

Annie Johnson Flint
http://christianbeliefs.org/biographies/a-j-flint.html

These links are listed for your convenience and their inclusion does not necessarily signify that I agree with everything written on each site. The best policy is to “Examine everything carefully. Hold fast to that which is good. Abstain from every form of evil.”
1Th 5:21, 22,cf Acts17:11

The Secret

Some of you may have seen the show on tv last night…or seen the book in the shops…or heard the latest rave…all about the new book called The Secret.

I haven’t read it, nor will I. (Mind you, I’m not one to shy away from reading a book just because it is controversial…but this book is catching so many Christians unawares.) I have a few online friends who have read it and wrote about it and as I’ve read their posts and spoken with them, I know that I will not read the book- I believe it is contrary to God’s word, even though it sounds all spiritual and is apparently being used in some churches.

I’d like to list a few links for those who are interested:

Baptist Press – First Person, The Secret by Don Whitney

World Net Daily – Oprah’s got a secret by Joseph Farah

Robin’s thoughts– from Heart of Wisdom and she also writes here on her new blog: Looking for the secret.

Bill Muehlenberg posts his thoughts here and here.

Don’t just read this information and keep it to yourself. As parent’s we need to understand WHAT we believe and WHY…so that we can teach our children the truth of God’s word. Share your learnings with your children- inoculate them against false teaching and error.

Kingdom's Hope

Yesterday we started our new read aloud! Book Two in the Kingdom series. I blogged about Book One (Kingdom’s Dawn) and we zipped through it in excitement so we could start Kingdom’s Hope.

This book spans the time from Moses to Malachi. It is has on the edge of our seat each day. I get goosebumps while reading it. If you haven’t checked this series out yet, please do! It will be well worth your effort to source them.

Visit the website to learn more!

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Day 7 Prayers for our children

Justice

God, help my children to love justice as You do and to “act justly” in all they do.

For the LORD is righteous, he loves justice; upright men will see his face.
Psalm 11:7

He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
Micah 6:8

Learning with Different Ages and Levels 2

In the last post, I wrote about using unit studies in the homeschool. In this post (part 2), I want to write in a more practical way and show exactly how a unit study can be accomplished.

How can I plan a unit of study?
Let’s consider a unit on ‘Ancient Eygpt“, a unit that we spent several months on and thoroughly enjoyed. The older child could read a biography or (fictional) diary and then orally narrate to the rest of the family. Or, she could try a written narration or prepare a factual report on a character or event. The younger child could dress up and role play or act out a scene from a book. The family could make recipes or crafts, draw and diagram maps, watch videos and visit museums together. You may like to look at the diet of the people and subsequent problems (deficiency’s, illness etc), to the terrain and climate of lands explored, other cultures that influenced or impacted Ancient Egypt (now, there’s a long rabbit trail) and so on.

Some people say that this is too hotch potch for them and they would like a more chronological or systematic approach. Easy! You can study history chronologically and integrate your other subjects around that. Some people prefer to only use units for the Social Studies and keep Math?s and English (Language Arts) separate. This is fine too. Whatever works for your family.

Here are the subjects that I try to include when thinking of relating topics:

Bible, Literature, History, Science, Language or Vocabulary, Independent Reading (Fiction and non-fiction, biographies, diaries), Composition or various forms of Narration, Poetry, Copywork, Applied Math, Foreign Language (if at all applicable), Art Appreciation, Music Appreciation, Geography, Current Events, and craft or hands-on activities.

Maybe an example will help you too see what it can look like.

Ancient Egypt

Bible (Joseph & Moses),
Literature (Golden Goblet, Mara, Daughter of the Nile)
Poetry – Ozymandias
History
(culture and times of Ancient Egyptians)
Narration of reading and other learning
Applied math– structure of pyramids
Foreign Language– (hieroglyphics) No, I’m not kidding
Art- Ancient Egyptian artwork and architecture-reading about it and trying it yourself
Music – instruments and celebrations
Geography– ancient – modern -drawing/tracing maps including landforms and landmarks.
Craft– dressing up, making Egyptian style sandals, Nile River models, model pyramids.

Now, if all this seems too complicated, let me assure you that it isn’t. Your local library should have plenty of books on these topics. Just have them in the lounge room and let the children peruse them and be prepared to go with their excitement! One thing I find that kills this excitement is a feeling or sense of “Quickly, let’s hurry up and finish this topic so that we can move on“. That sentiment is really like a wet blanket.

If you?re a beginner at incorporating subjects you could just try to start with a few simple ones. Choose a family read aloud to go along with your history study and look at a good book that relates to the artwork or architecture of the period. That’s it to start with, but I can fairly confidently assure you that it won’t end there. History and geography go well together and from there you can start to add in art, music and literature.

I hope this encourages other homeschooling families, to live and learn together.

Go to Part One | Part Two

Susan 2002

Learning with Different Ages and Levels

Homeschooling Multiple Ages…

(first written in 2002)

Do you have each of your children doing separate studies? Do you long to have a more natural family oriented approach to your homeschooling journey? How do you homeschool with more than one child, and all at different ages?

Firstly, the most important point is to visit the Throne Room! It is good to be able to listen to others and be willing to adapt and change our own ways but what suits one family, may not suit another. It’s good to always consult the Lord God before running off with new ideas, no matter how good they may seem.

It’s good to always consult the Lord God before running off with new ideas, no matter how good they may seem.

As I said earlier, each family is different and each needs to seek the Lord for their direction. Some common threads that seem to work for most families are to have some sort of schedule. This might be to attend to ones own chores (bedroom, hygiene etc) and then make the house reasonable presentable. I don’t mean spick and span because we’d never get around to lessons, but we at least need fresh coffee cups!

Lessons often take around 2-4 hours, varying with the different developmental levels of the children. Afternoons are often taken up with music practice, library visits, grocery shopping, visitors, gardening, business needs, ministry, reading or community services just to name a few. Sometimes your high schooler may need to work in the afternoons to finish assignments or study. Other families with a baby find it easier to do some lessons with the children in the afternoon, when baby is napping.

Don’t forget to foster the attitude of servant helping in your older children by asking them to teach the younger children.

Don’t forget to foster the attitude of servant helping in your older children by asking them to teach the younger children. It can be very beneficial for the older child to have to explain a concept over and over in a variety of ways to a younger brother or sister. ‘Miss A’ , my 11yo helps John, her 7yo brother, with his Maths? and phonic instruction and sometimes he just doesn’t get it. She has to then think of other ways, which she may not have thought of before, to try to help him understand. This builds the families relationships as well as cementing in the older child many valuable lessons. Lessons such as, not everyone is the same, and we are all different as an example. As she must ponder the basics it is also being reinforced in her own mind, which we have found extremely helpful. Try it!

I must say from the onset that Miss Mason was not totally in favour of units or unit type of studies. However, Miss Mason was in charge and responsible for a school, not a family. God has placed me here, in this family to work to His Glory and that is what I am to seek.

I always keep that in the forefront of my mind. My situation is very different to that of Charlotte Mason?s. I am a wife, a mother of 4 blessings, a homekeeper, laundress and all those things that fall into the domestic realm. These things I do alone, with the help of my servants like the washing machine, dryer and microwave etc. However, I wear many hats and homeschool teacher is one of them.

So, considering this, I asked myself- is there any value or merit in units? Yes, I believe so! If we were to follow a boxed curriculum I doubt that any of my children would be studying the same thing at similar times. I think that for me, this would spell *burnout* with a capital B. I don’t believe that we need make a unit study out of everything. Sometimes that can lead to overload. However, if we were to use the eldest child as the (yardstick) then all of the children could end up having a liberal education but with the benefit of studying together. If the eldest child is studying ‘explorers’ in history study, why can’t the family all study explorers? Keep in mind that we will never teach our children all that they will know. Is that the goal though? Or is your goal one of instilling a love and desire of learning and equipping them with the skills to be able to research whatever they wish to?

Keep in mind that we will never teach our children all that they will know

A lot of boxed curricula appear to approach learning with a mentality of “just put in the facts over a 12 year period and then voila! Down the track, out comes a “well educated” individual. If only life were like that, it may work but I’m sure that we know differently. Textbooks aim to cover *everything*; all the vital and important facts that everyone ought to know. How many students know these all important facts at the end of Year 12 and continue to remember and use them in their later life?

I must admit the scope and sequences look very impressive and the Education departments may like them too. It can reassure us, as parents that our children must be learning a lot, learning what they should be at the right age. However, in the scope of an entire lifetime, what does it all really mean? Does this scope of study necessarily mean the child has a desire to know more or does it assist in creating a curiosity about things or does it simply help the student to pass the next exam?

I would encourage all new homeschool mums to take upon a theme and linger over it for a period of time. Your child and you will be learning much, much more than just one subject. You could use a scope and sequence chart to check off all the areas that you have studied but the ticks may not be nice and neat straight down the page. They will be all over the place, from Kindergarten to Yr 12. Have a really good look at a scope and sequence of a science or history program. How many times are the topics repeated? They are, supposedly, building concept upon concept but they are designed for a school system, not a homeschool system.

In all this, I’m not saying that you must ignore your state requirements or authorities. If, for example, your state requires that your student must study astronomy in grade 5, then go ahead, by all means and study astronomy along with the whole family! In a unit approach your families learning can become a way of life! It can assist in building curiosity and independent thinking in the children (and maybe even yourself). Learning can become more meaningful. No longer need the children cry “Oh, what does this have to do with me? Why do I need to learn this?” Most importantly, you can all learn together. Your child will learn more about true education by watching you, than sitting through a hundred dry texts.

In the next post, I will continue my thoughts and look at how we can practically go about using unit studies in the homeschool.

Part One | Go to Part Two

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Feed on RSS

“What Is RSS?

What do those orange RSS or XML buttons that abound on sites mean?
They are the latest rage…but more than that they are incredibly handy and a great time saver- perfect for the busy homeschool mum! You can receive newsfeeds or feeds from many sites including news, movies, blogs and ecommerce stores and more! It’s also a great feature for those on dial-up connection as you don’t have to surf the Internet for updates…the information that you want, comes to you!
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RSS” means “Really Simple Syndication.” What it means to you is that when you subscribe to a site that has an RSS feed, you can keep up-to-date without having to check the site every day or week.

Most people are interested in many web sites whose content changes on an unpredictable basis, like this site. Repeatedly checking each site to see if there’s any new content can be time consuming. RSS is a great way to be notified of new and changed information. Notifications of changes to multiple web sites are handled easily, and the results are presented to you in a well organised format. You may have seen the RSS icon on various web sites or blogs (this one included). This icon lets you know that there’s content to which you can subscribe and view using an RSS reader.

You might have seen some of the little icons on various sites…if so, you might also have been confused by them! I hope to simplify the mystery a little for you and enable you to get started with RSS feeds.

How do you get started? It’s fairly easy!

With an RSS reader you can subscribe to many feeds and read the new entries all in one place, without having to visit individual Web sites to find out what’s new.

There are several different kinds of RSS readers. Some are dedicated programs for viewing RSS feeds, but they cost money and most homeschool mums would rather spend their money on books, especially when there are some great free feed readers available.

You can also view RSS feeds through web sites such as My Yahoo!, or my personal favourite, Bloglines.

Many web browsers also have built-in RSS support – Firefox, by “Live Bookmarks”, Safari has a built in RSS reader and even IE 7 will (although beta) support RSS.Windows — RssReader and Google Reader are popular online feed readers available for download. Need more information? Here is a short video that explains the concept…

Below is a short, 3.5min video which explains it very well. If you are confused about using RSS feeds but want to know more, this video is for you. The short video will teach you why feeds are good and how to set one up. This video will teach you, the homeschool mum, how to make the most of your time. Let me know if you find this sort of information helpful.

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0klgLsSxGsU

There! You should be set to receive the information that you want, while saving time to get on with the things that you want to do.

Why don’t you subscribe to my blog and receive post and comments via RSS?